Copyright 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND SEXUALITY

Copyright 2011 Pearson Education, Inc. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND SEXUALITY

CHARACTERIZING AND FORMING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS! Being Self-Nurturant! Accountability! Both partners see themselves as responsible for their own decisions, choices, and actions.! Self-nurturance = Self Confidence! Developing individual potential through a balanced and realistic appreciation of self-worth and ability!! Families: The Ties That Bind! Family of origin! The people present in our household our first years of life usually parents and siblings

TODAY S CHANGING FAMILIES

CHARACTERIZING AND FORMING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS! Establishing Friendships! Relationships are between two or more people that involve mutual respect, trust, support and intimacy that may or may not include sexual intimacy.! Significant Others, Partners, and Couples! Fascination paying attention to each other! Exclusiveness Togetherness; being together as a priority! Sexual desire Desire physical closeness! Giving the utmost Sacrifice for each other! Being an advocate or champion Ensures that the other person succeeds

THIS THING CALLED LOVE! Theories of Love! Intimacy closeness, sharing, and mutual support! Passion lust, attraction, and sexual arousal! Compassion decision to be open to love in the short term and the commitment to the relationship in the long term!! How would you define it?!! Anthropologist H. Fisher and others theorize love and attraction based on brain circuitry and chemistry

THIS THING CALLED LOVE! Picking Partners! Proximity being in the same place at the same time! Similarities similar interests, values, intellect, education, athletics! Reciprocity react with mutual regard like for each other I like you..! Physical attraction! Men tend to be attracted primarily to youth and beauty.! Women tend to be attracted to older mates who are financially stable.

COMMUNICATING: A KEY TO GOOD RELATIONSHIPS! Communication = being understood! Self-Esteem and Self-Acceptance! Self-concept is the way you define yourself.! Self-esteem is the way you evaluate yourself.! Learning Appropriate Self-Disclosure! Get to know yourself.! Become more accepting of yourself.! Be willing to discuss your sexual history if STI s, HIV are involved! Choose a safe context for self disclosure.

COMMUNICATING: A KEY TO GOOD RELATIONSHIPS! Learn to Manage Anger! Identify your anger styles! Recognize anger patterns and how to diffuse them! Plan ahead! Develop a support system! Have realistic expectation of self and others! Ask stop complaining! Leave past anger in the PAST

GENDER AND HEALTH

COMMUNICATING: A KEY TO GOOD RELATIONSHIPS! Honesty: Telling the Truth!! Lying: Why Do People Lie?! Fear! Embarrassment! Their reality

COMMUNICATING: A KEY TO GOOD RELATIONSHIPS! Becoming a Better Listener! We listen best when! we believe that the message is somehow important to us! the speaker holds our attention! we are in the mood to listen (free of distractions and worries)! Timing is huge; agree on a time

COMMUNICATING: A KEY TO GOOD RELATIONSHIPS! Using Nonverbal Communication! Touch! Gestures! Interpersonal space! Facial expression! Body language! Tone of voice

COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS! Marriage! Monogamy exclusive sexual involvement with one partner! Serial monogamy a monogamous sexual relationship with one partner before moving on to the next monogamous relationship!! Cohabitation! A relationship in which two unmarried people live with an intimate connection together in the same household.! Does NOT increase a person s chance of a longer marriage

CONFRONTING COUPLES ISSUES! Jealousy in Relationships - DANGER! Overdependence on the relationship! Severity of the threat of jealousy! High value on sexual exclusivity! Low self-esteem! Fear of losing control

HAVING CHILDREN OR NOT?! Common Parenting Styles! Authoritarian giving orders! Permissive giving in! Assertive Democratic giving choices

Healthy versus Unhealthy Relationships

WHEN RELATIONSHIPS FALTER! When and Why Relationships End! Illness and death! Financial problems! Career difference! Unmet expectations! Communication breakdown! Growing apart! Needs are not met! The highest the divorce rate has been in the United States is 41 percent! GET OUT & DON T Come Back! Abandonment! Abuse! Addiction! Adultery

WHEN RELATIONSHIPS FALTER! Coping with Failed Relationships! Recognize and acknowledge your feelings.! Find healthful ways to express your emotions.! Spend time with friends, both old and new.! Don t rush into a rebound relationship.! FORGIVE YOURSELF! What part did you play in the end of the relationship?! FORGIVE YOUR PARTNER

YOUR SEXUAL IDENTITY: MORE THAN BIOLOGY! All eggs carry an X chromosome.! Sperm carry an X or a Y chromosome.! Sex hormones play a major role in puberty.! Male hormone testosterone! Female hormone estrogen, progesterone! Female = XX! Male = XY

YOUR SEXUAL IDENTITY: MORE THAN BIOLOGY! Sexual Identity! Recognition of oneself as a sexual being; a composite of biological sex characteristics, gender identity, gender roles and sexual orientation.

YOUR SEXUAL IDENTITY: MORE THAN BIOLOGY! Sexual Orientation! A person s enduring emotional, romantic, sexual or affectionate attraction to other persons! Heterosexual! Homosexual! Bisexual

SEXUAL ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY! Female Sexuality Anatomy and Physiology! External Female Organs!Mons pubis pad of fatty tissue covering the pubic bone!labia majora folds of skin and erectile tissue that enclose openings! Labia minora folds of mucous membrane!clitoris female sexual organ, only known function is pleasure!urethral opening urine leaves the body!hymen a thin membrane that may cover the vagina in some women! Perineum the area between the vulva and anus!vaginal opening opening to the vagina

SEXUAL ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY! Female Sexuality Anatomy and Physiology! Internal Female Organs!Vagina a tubular organ that serves as a passageway from the uterus to the outside of the female body! Uterus (womb) hollow, muscular, and pear-shaped!the endometrium inner lining of the uterus, either prepares the uterus for implantation or menstrual flow!fallopian tubes two thin tubes where sperm and egg meet extending from the uterus!ovaries almond-sized structures suspended on either side of the uterus that produce the female hormones

FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM

SEXUAL ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY! Menarche! First menstrual period! Generally starts between ages 9 and 17! Body fat influences onset of puberty.! Menstrual Cycle! Usually 28 days long! Proliferative, secretory, and menstrual phase

HORMONAL CONTROL AND PHASES OF THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE

SEXUAL ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY! Male Sexual Anatomy and Physiology! External Genitals! Scrotum protects the testes! Penis deposits semen! Internal Genitals! Testes manufacture testosterone! Epididymis sperm ripen here! Vas deferens stores and transfers sperm! Ejaculatory ducts through which semen is ejaculated! Urethra passes sperm and urine

MALE REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM Figure 5.8

SEXUAL ANATOMY AND PHYSIOLOGY! Accessory Glands! Seminal vesicles provide nutrients and fluids to semen! Prostate gland provide fluids to semen! Cowper s glands secrete fluid that lubricates the urethra! Circumcision! Surgical removal of a fold of skin covering the end of the penis known as the foreskin! Decreased risk of urinary tract infections, penile cancer, and HIV! Does not increase the risk of HPV

RESPONSIBLE AND SATISFYING SEXUAL BEHAVIOR! Good communication as the foundation! Acknowledging that you are a sexual person! Understanding sexual structures and their functions! Accepting and embracing your gender identity and your sexual orientation

DRUGS AND SEX

DRUGS AND SEX! Alcohol can inhibit sexual response! Increasing number of young men experimenting with the recreational use of drugs to treat erectile dysfunction! Viagra! Cialis! Levitra! Date Rape Drugs! Rohypnol ( roofies )! Gamma-hydroxybutyrate (GHB)! Ketamine