UNIT 3: Ways of socializing

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1 1 UNIT 3: Ways of socializing Teacher: Vu Thi Mai Phuong VOCABULARY Verbal communication(n.)giao tiếp bằng lời, giao tiếp hữu ngôn Non-verbal communication (n.)giao tiếp không bằng lời, giao tiếp phi ngôn Signal /'signal/ (n.) dấu hiệu, tín hiệu; hiệu lệnh At an agreed signal they left the room. The siren was a signal for everyone to leave the building. (adj.) nổi bật; đáng chú ý, đáng kể; đặc biệt tốt, đặc biệt xâu; dùng làm dấu hiệu, dể ra hiệu A signal failure of leadership (v.t.) ra hiệu, báo hiệu; chuyển (tin tức, lệnh) bằng tính hiệu Did you signal before you turned right? He signalled to the waiter for the bill. Appropriate (adj.) (+to, for) thích hợp, thích đáng Now that the problem has been identified, appropriate action can be taken. Jeans are not appropriate for a formal party. (v.t.) chiếm đoạt (cái gì) làm của riêng dành riêng (để dùng vào việc gì) He was accused of appropriating dub funds. Some of the opposition party's policies have been appropriated bv the government. Attention getter(n.)cử chỉ thu hút sự chú ý Informality (n.) tính chất không theo thù tục quy định, tính không chính thức, hành vi không chính thức,không nghi thức; thân mật; điều thân mật To attrack sb's attention: thu hút sự chú ý của ai Nod /nod/(n.) cái gật đầu; sự cúi đầu (chào); sự ra hiệu, sự ra lệnh (v.)gật đầu; cúi đầu (chào); ra hiệu nghiêng, xiên; đu đưa, lắc lư The proposal should get the nod. He nodded his head sympathetically. I asked him if he would help me and he nodded. Assistance (n.) sự giúp đỡ, sự hỗ trợ Can I be of any assistance? The company provides advice and assistance in finding work. Whistle (n.) sự huýt sáo; sự huýt còi; sự thổi còi; tiếng huýt gió; tiếng còi he scored the winning goal just seconds before the final whistle. (v.i.) huýt sáo, thổi còi (v.t.) huýt sáo; huýt gió gọi He whistled in amazement. The crowd booed and whistled as the player came onto the field. To clap hands (v.)vỗ tay Impolite (adj.) vô lễ, vô phép, bất lịch sự Some people think it is impolite to ask someone's age. Rude (adj.) khiếm nhã, bất lịch sự, hỗn láo, vô lễ, láo xược; thô lỗ The man was downright rude to US. She was very rude about my driving. Approach (n.) sự đến gần, sự lại gần; sự gần như, sự gần 1

2 The school has decided to adopt a different approach to discipline. She took the wrong approach in her dealings with them. (v.) đến gần; gần như; thăm dò ý kiến; tiếp xúc để dặt vấn đề To point (v.i.) (+at) chi, trỏ (đen & bóng) nhằm (+to, towards) hướng về (+to) hướng sự chú ý vào, lưu ý vào; chi ra, chỉ cho thấy, vạch ra The article points an accusing finger at the authorities. Acceptable (adj.) có thể chấp nhận, có thể thừa nhận, đáng hoan nghênh, đáng tán thưởng Children must learn socially acceptable behaviour Compliment (n.) lời khen, lời ca tụng (v.t.) khen ngợi, ca ngợi, ca tụng She complimented him on his excellent German. Terrific (adj.) rất lớn; cực kì, xuất sắc, tuyệt vời She's doing a terrific job. To install (v.t.) đặt (hệ thống máy móc, hệ thống sưởi...); He's getting a phone installed tomorrow. The hotel chain has recently installed a new booking system. To indicate (v.t.) chỉ, cho biết, ra dấu tỏ ra, ra ý, ngụ ý, biểu lộ, biểu thị trình bày sơ qua, nói ngắn gọn Wrongdoing (n.) hành vi sai trái, hành động phạm pháp The company denies any wrongdoing. Discourtesy (n.) sự bất lịch sự, sự khiếm nhã Interruption (n.) sự gián đoạn; sự bị gián đoạn, sự đứt quãng, sự ngắt lời; sự bị ngắt lời; sự ngừng The birth of her son was a minor interruption to her career. I managed to work for two hours without interruption. A. Reading How to attract someone s attention? To clap hands : vỗ tay To point at : chỉ vào To nod: gật To approach: đến gần, lại gần To whistle: huýt sáo, huýt còi To give a handshake: bắt tay To wave your hands: vẫy tay Read the passage and do the tasks that follow. (mp3.1) To attract someone s attention so that we might speak to that person, we can use either verbal or nonverbal forms of communication. Let us look at non-verbal communication in English. Probably the most common way of attracting someone s attention is by waving. For example, if we are at a noisy party and see a friend come in the door about 20 metres away, we might raise our hand and wave to her as a signal that we see her. But how hard can we wave in a situation like this? Suppose you are at the airport, and you see your brother get off the plane and begin walking toward you. If you are excited, you might jump up and down and wave as hard as you can to attract his attention. This is the instance where big, obvious non-verbal signals are appropriate. There are, however, some social situations where smaller non-verbal signals are more appropriate. In a restaurant, for example, if we want to attract the attention of our waiter, we have several choices. We can wait until he passes near us, catch his eye, and nod slightly to let him know we would like him to come to our table. Or we can raise our hand slightly to show that we need assistance. We do not whistle or clap our hands to get the person s attention. That is considered impolite and even rude. TYPE THE DOCUMENT TITLE 2

3 3 In most social situations where some informality is allowed, a brief raise of the hand and a small wave is fine. For instance, if you are walking across the schoolyard and see your teacher approaching you, a small friendly wave to attract his or her attention is appropriate. Once you ve got your friend s attention, you shouldn t point at the person or thing you want her to look at. A slight nod will do. Pointing at someone is usually considered rude. Of course, there are times when pointing is perfectly acceptable, such as when a teacher wants to get someone s attention in class. The teacher often points to the student and says, David, would you read the next sentence, please? Pointing here is not impolite; it s simply a way to get someone s attention. VOCABULARY Verbal: bằng lời, hữu ngôn non-verbal: không bằng lời, phi ngôn attract someone s attention: thu hút sự chú ý của ai Impolite: bất lịch sự Rude: thô tục, thô lỗ informality: thân mật, không nghi thức approach: đi đến gần a slight nod will do: một cái gật đầu nhẹ là đủ Task 1. Decide which of the three options below is the best title for the passage. A. Attracting Attention: Non-verbal Cues B. Attracting Attention by Waving C. The Best Ways of Attracting Attention Task 2. Answer the following questions. 1. What can we do when we want to attract someone s attention? 2. What are considered to be big, obvious non-verbal signals? 3. What can we do if we want to attract the waiter s attention? 4. If you are walking across the schoolyard and see your teacher approaching you, what can you do to attract his or her attention? 5. Why shouldn t you point at the person or thing you want your friend to look at once you ve got his or her attention? 1. What can we do when we want to attract someone s attention? -> When we want to attract someone s attention, we can use either verbal or non-verbal communication. 2. What are considered to be big, obvious non-verbal signals? -> Jumping up and down and wave as hard as you can is considered to be big, obvious non-verbal signals. 3. What can we do if we want to attract the waiter s attention? -> If we want to attract the waiter s attention, we can wait until he passes near us, catch his eye, and nod slightly to let him know we would like him to come to our table. Or we can raise our hand slightly to show that we need assistance. 4. If you are walking across the schoolyard and see your teacher approaching you, what can you do to attract his or her attention? -> If you are walking across the school-yard and see your teacher approaching, you can use a small friendly wave to attract his or her attention. 5. Why shouldn t you point at the person or thing you want your friend to look at once you ve got his or her attention? -> Because pointing at someone is usually considered rude. 3

4 Discuss the question: In Vietnamese culture, what is the meanings of these gestures: differences between a traditional Vietnamese family and a modern Vietnamese family? * Nodding * Shaking head * Whistling * Hand clapping B. Listening 1. What are they doing? 2. What do you think they would say to greet each other? 3. What do you think they would talk about? 4. How long do you think it would take them to finish their call and why? Discuss the questions: - Do you often phone your friends? - What do you often talk to them on the phone? - How long? Listen and repeat (mp3.2) marvellous: tuyệt vời arguments : tranh cãi regulations : quy tắc, nội quy absolute : hoàn toàn maximum: tối đa object : phản đối installed: được lắp đặt chitchat : chuyện phiếm, tán gẫu startling: làm giật mình Task 1. Linda Cupple, a social worker, advises young people on how to use the telephone in their family. Listen to her talk and decide whether the statements are true (T) or false (F). (mp3.3) 1. The telephone often causes arguments between members of the family. 2. A reasonable length of time for a call is the main problem. 3. Ten minutes is a reasonable length of time for a call. 4. Young people should not receive a call at dinner time. 5. Young people often call their friends at night. 6. You can t call your friends at any time even when you have a separate telephone. 1. The telephone often causes arguments between members of the family. (T) 2. A reasonable length of time for a call is the main problem. (F) 3. Ten minutes is a reasonable length of time for a call. (T) 4. Young people should not receive a call at dinner time. (T) 5. Young people often call their friends at night. (T) 6. You can t call your friends at any time even when you have a separate telephone. (T) TYPE THE DOCUMENT TITLE 4

5 5 Task 2. Listen to part of Ms Linda Cupple s talk again and write the missing words. Calling hours should be (1) upon. If your parents object to your leaving the dinner table to take calls, tell your friends (2) calling at that hour; if someone does phone, ask him to call back, or offer to call him when dinner s over. A serious calling problem is calling very late at night, or very early in the morning. This (3) mistake is made mostly by young people who consider 10 or 11 p.m., when a lot of tired (4) are happily sleeping, the shank of the evening. So please tell your friends not to call after ten o clock. The shock of (5) out of a sound sleep and the fright of that instant thought There s an accident are enough to give your parents a (6) attack. Weekend morning calls aren t so startling, but it s the one time your parents can sleep late. If your mother and father, out of (7), have installed a separate phone for you, remember that you re still a member of a family. So try (8) to your family s regulations. Calling hours should be (1) agreed upon. If your parents object to your leaving the dinner table to take calls, tell your friends (2) to avoid calling at that hour; if someone does phone, ask him to call back, or offer to call him when dinner s over. A serious calling problem is calling very late at night, or very early in the morning. This (3) weekend mistake is made mostly by young people who consider 10 or 11 p.m., when a lot of tired (4) adults are happily sleeping, the shank of the evening. So please tell your friends not to call after ten o clock. The shock of (5) walking out of a sound sleep and the fright of that instant thought There s an accident are enough to give your parents a (6) heart attack. Weekend morning calls aren t so startling, but it s the one time your parents can sleep late. If your mother and father, out of (7) kindness, have installed a separate phone for you, remember that you re still a member of a family. So try (8) stick to your family s regulations. Tapescript The Telephone - Potential Family Battleground Hello everyone. In today s talk I'm going to give you some pieces of advice on how to use the telephone in the most decent way so as to avoid unnecessary disagreements between you and members of your family. The telephone, as you know', is a marvelous instrument, but it may cause arguments between you and your parents - arguments that could be easily avoided if you would sit down, talk it over, and agree to a few simple regulations. The most obvious problem, of course, is what everyone considers a reasonable length of time for a call. The exact duration must be worked out with your parents, but ten minutes should be an absolute maximum. That s certainly long enough to say almost anything in five different ways, and yet it isn t so long that other members of the family will become apoplectic. Even when your parents are out, the length of your call should be limited, because they, or someone else may be trying to reach your home for a very important reason. Calling hours should be agreed upon. If your parents object to your leaving the dinner table to take calls, tell your friends to avoid calling at that hour; if someone does phone, ask him to call back, or offer to call him when dinner s over. A serious calling problem is calling very late at night, or very early on weekend mornings. This particular mistake is made mostly by young people who consider 10 or 11 p.m. when a lot of tired adults are happily sleeping, the shank of the evening. So please tell your friends not to call after ten o clock. The shock of walking out of a sound sleep and the fright of that instant thought - There s an accident - are enough to give your parents a heart attack. Weekend morning calls aren t so startling, but it s the one time your parents can sleep late. 5

6 If your mother and father, out of kindness, have installed a separate phone for you, remember that you re still a member of the family. So try to stick to your family s regulations. That s all for my talk today. Thank you for listening. C. Speaking Task 1. Practise reading these dialogues, paying attention to how people give and respond to compliments in each situation. Phil: You really have a beautiful blouse, Barbara, I ve never seen such a perfect thing on you. Barbara: Thank you, Phil. That s a nice compliment. Phil: You really have a beautiful blouse, Barbara, I ve never seen such a perfect thing on you. Barbara: Thank you, Phil. That s a nice compliment. Tom: I thought your tennis game was a lot better today, Tony. Tony: You ve got to be kidding! I thought it was terrible. Task 2. Practise giving compliments to suit the responses. Use the cues below. David:. (dress) Kathy: I m glad you like it. I bought it at a shop near my house a few days ago. Hung: (motorbike) Hien: Thanks, Hung. I think I ve finally found the colour that suits me. Michael: (badminton) Colin: You must be kidding! I thought the game was terrible. : David:_ What a beautiful dress you are wearing, Kathy (dress) Kathy: I m glad you like it. I bought it at a shop near my house a few days ago. Hung: You have a decent motorbike, Hien (motorbike) Hien: Thanks, Hung. I think I ve finally found the colour that suits me. Michael: You played badminton very well today, Colin. (badminton) Colin: You must be kidding! I thought the game was terrible. D. Writing Task 1. Use the words to make sentences. Change the form of the verb. (No addition or omission is required) 1. there / be / many ways / tell someone /goodbye, / most of / them / depend / on the situation / and / at hand. 2. however / there / be / one rule / that / all situations / observe / abruptly / we / seldom / say goodbye. 3. in / English / it / be / necessary / prepare / a person / for our departure. 4. we / lead / into the farewell / by / say/ something pleasant and thoughtful / like / I ve / really / enjoy / talking / to / you. 5. we / might / also say / something / relating to / the / time / like / "Gosh,/ I can't / believe / how / late / it / be! / I / really / must / be / go! 1. there / be / many ways / tell someone /goodbye, / most of / them / depend / on the situation / and / at hand. -> There are many ways to tell somebody goodbye, and most of them depend on the situation at hand. 2. however / there / be / one rule / that / all situations / observe / abruptly / we / seldom / say goodbye. -> However, there is one rule that all situations observe: We seldom say goodbye abruptly. 3. In / English / it / be / necessary / prepare / a person / for our departure. TYPE THE DOCUMENT TITLE 6

7 7 -> In English it is necessary to prepare a person for our departure. 4. we / lead / into the farewell / by / say/ something pleasant and thoughtful / like / I ve / really / enjoy / talking / to / you. -> We lead into the farewell by saying something pleasant and thoughtful like I ve really enjoyed talking to you. 5. we / might / also say / something / relating to / the / time / like / "Gosh,/ I can't / believe / how / late / it / be! / I / really / must / be / go! -> We might also say something relating to the time like Gosh, I can t believe how late it is! I really must be going! 7