AGENDA How much do you know? What is Bullying? Types of Bullying National Statistics Traits of the Bully Traits of the Target Cyberagression Online Pr

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1 Bullying

2 AGENDA How much do you know? What is Bullying? Types of Bullying National Statistics Traits of the Bully Traits of the Target Cyberagression Online Protection BREAK & Back for ANGER

3 Objectives To identify and understand What is bullying Bullying behaviors The bullying problem Who is the bully? Who is the target? The warning signs that a child is being bullied Strategies to deal with bullying Steps adults can take to address bullying 3

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7 WHAT IS BULLYING Intimidation

8 Types of Bullying DIRECT Face to Face Verbal Insults, putdowns, teasing, harassment Physical Shoves, pushes, hitting, assault Psychological Rolling eyes, dirty looks, uttering threats, extortion

9 Types of Bullying INDIRECT Behind someone s back Cyberbullying Demeaning others by using electronic devices Social Aggression Telling people not to be friends with a victim Exclusion Leaving out Shunning Gossip Lowering people s opinion About the victim

10 Children Who Witness Bullying When peers intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds, 57% of the time. Source: Hawkins, Pepler, and Craig 10

11 National Statistics 1. Nearly 1 in 3 students is involved in Bullying. 2. While school violence as a whole is declining, bullying behaviors have increased. 3. Kids who are obese, gay, or have disabilities are up to 63% more likely to be bullied. 4. Boys and girls get bullied in different ways.

12 Source: Data from Table 11.2 in Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2009; National Center for Education Statistics, U.S. Department of Education (

13 Rates of Bullying and other School Discipline Problems Source: Cited in Table 7.2 in Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2007; National Center for Education Statistics, U.S. Department of Education ( U.S. Department of Education, National Center for Education Statistics, School Survey on Crime and Safety (SSOCS), 2006.

14 TRAITS OF THE BULLY

15 Why People Bully

16 CHILDREN WHO BULLY Increased exposure to physical and verbal violence or aggression at home. May use physical aggression more than peers. May think they are superior to others (at least that s what they want you to think ) May or may not be popular with their peers. Have trouble following rules. Lack empathy. Why do you think that is?

17 BULLIES RISK Academic Problems Drug/Alcohol Use Legal Problems Violent Behaviors Rule Breaking Increased Suicide Risk

18 TRAITS OF THE TARGET

19 The Effects of Bullying

20 THE TARGET Low Self-esteem Is the Loner Feels Different may stand out for: Sexual Orientation Religion Race Learning Differences Socioeconomic Status Appearance

21 TARGETS RISK Academic Problems Drug/Alcohol Use Psychosomatic Symptoms More susceptible to illness Depression Increased Risk of Bullycide May have overprotective parents

22 Are Depressed Kids Bully Magnets?

23 CYBERBULLYING

24 Tips to Prevent Cyber-bullying Refuse to pass along cyber-bullying messages. Tell their friends to stop cyber-bullying. Block communication with cyberbullies; delete messages without reading them Never post or share their personal information online (including full name, address, telephone number, school name, parents names, credit card number, or Social Security number) or their friends personal information. Never share their Internet passwords with anyone, except you. Talk to you about their life online. Not put anything online that they wouldn't want their classmates to see, even in . Not send messages when they re angry. Always be as polite online as they are in person. Source: National Crime Prevention Council

25 Cyberbullying A Recent Survey of Teens Revealed Cyberbullying was experienced at least one time by 43% of teens, aged 13 to 17. Teens report that in 77% of the cases the cyberbully is someone they know. Girls claim to have been cyberbullied more than boys 51% to 37%. NCPC Cyberbullying Research Report 25

26 Types of Cyberbullying Flaming Online fighting that can get nasty through posting of angry, vulgar, and degrading messages. Backstabbing The bully pretends to be the victim s friend, then turns on him or her by posting or sharing things that make their victim feel hurt, ashamed, and embarrassed. Faking The bully becomes the victim online. The bully uses a false identity and makes people believe that victim is posting the messages.

27 Harassing The bully is constantly sending ugly, slanderous, and insulting messages online. Exiling The bully seeks to exclude and ban the victim from social gatherings and friendships by portraying the victim as an outcast. Blackmailing Threatening to share personal information with others. Ostracizing Intentionally excluding someone online.

28 Messaging The bully uses others to deliver their mean and crude messages. Leveling The cyberbully feels that the victim has done them wrong and they re out to get even. Sexual Harassing - The cyberbully intentionally uses intimidation and coercion of a sexual nature. This can include inappropriate posts, texts, pictures, regarding sexual orientation, or unwelcome harmful sexual information shared online. Sexting, if transferred into the wrong hands, can turn into cyber sexual harassment.

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