Excerpt from True Love/True Self by Barbara Daoust Certified Law of Attraction Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Author, and Speaker AFFIRMATIONS Affirmations are a tool to reach the subconscious mind. Affirmations affirm the truth. They can help you to achieve mastery over your desires. They can help you to change unproductive habits into life supporting habits. They can transform desires into reality. They can inspire the success of your goals. They can open your heart s potential and they can nurture your dreams. As I have shared, my own personal affirmation helped to transform my life. I committed to creating a personal affirmation for myself that truly shifted my negative tendency to be self-critical. Creating your own personal affirmation is how you can release your limitations and tap into your power. The following process is how I was taught to connect with my own life changing affirmation. CREATING YOUR OWN PERSONAL AFFIRMATION Write down your answers under each of the separate categories below: PART ONE What are your qualities? (Character traits, personality, etc.) If someone were to say, She/he (referring to you) is so. What would it be? What qualities are you really good at sharing with others? What are you known for? 1
PART TWO What are your strengths? (things you don t doubt about yourself) What are your skills? (acquired knowledge) What are your talents? (gifts that you have been blessed with your whole life and come very easily to you). What one thing is the most important thing in the world to you? What gets you out of bed in the morning? 2
What one thing, if you didn t have it, would not make life worth living? Once you have your answers, go back to Part One. Ask yourself which quality really represents you the most. For example you may be someone who is extremely generous. Or your friends may say that you are nurturing. Or you may feel that it is very important to be kind to others. Then ask yourself, How kind am I with myself? or How generous am I with myself? or How nurturing am I with myself? Rate yourself on a scale from one to ten for each quality, asking how much you give it to yourself. Number one is at the lower end of the scale and number ten is at the highest end. If you respond with, I am not very kind to myself, this is the area that you need to focus your attention on. If you gave yourself a low number on your scale regarding how nurturing you are with yourself, then this is the area that you need to focus your attention on or I am not very generous with myself, etc. Whatever you are good at sharing with others is usually what you are not good at giving to yourself. It s the famous story of the most brilliant psychiatrist who has the most dysfunctional personal life imaginable. We give to others what is most important to us because more often than not, we haven t acknowledged or recognized it for ourselves. It takes deliberate effort and conscious awareness to focus on giving to yourself what you are so good at giving to others. Choose the quality that truly needs your support. Start your affirmation with I AM and infuse it with a strong feeling adverb and active verb such as: I am wholeheartedly committing to... I am enthusiastically choosing I am joyfully expressing... For example, my affirmation started with: I am genuinely sharing... 3
Once I chose the quality that resonated with me the most, I added it to the first part of my affirmation. I knew that I was really good at sharing loving kindness with other people. When I asked myself the question, How good am I at sharing loving kindness with myself? I immediately knew, without hesitation, that the answer was, Not very good. The next part is where you claim your quality and decide to give it to yourself as well as others. For example: I am genuinely sharing loving kindness with myself and others... Now go back to part two. This part will help you to connect with your higher purpose in life. It will guide you to acknowledge how you can make a difference in the world or be of service for the highest good of all. Look back at your answers in part two and notice your most common and/or similar responses that show up in each category. Where do they match up and support one another? After creating the first half, add: as I... For example, the second half of my affirmation goes like this: as I revitalize hope and raise conscious living for the highest good of all. Connecting the two parts together, my personal affirmation is: I am genuinely sharing loving kindness with myself and others as I revitalize hope and raise conscious living for the highest good of all. As I mentioned in a previous chapter, whenever I felt doubt, fear, insecurity and/or judgment enter my consciousness, (which would affect my overall vibration), I would repeat to myself over and over again: I am genuinely sharing loving kindness with myself and others. I didn t worry about the second half. Sometimes, I would just focus on the other person as I repeated to myself over and over, loving kindness, loving kindness, loving kindness... 4
I practiced and committed to this personal affirmation for a very long time. As a result of this daily practice, I can honestly share that I feel less self-conscious and less self-critical. I am much more open, accepting, and compassionate of others. I am willing to be loving and kind to myself. I have so much gratitude for the relief that I feel from my own negative self-talk and behaviors: relief from the self-judgments, self-loathing thoughts, and self-betraying actions. I have acknowledged my strengths and talents more than ever before and I feel blessed. I am openly sharing myself with others in ways that feel free, unconditional, and authentic. I now know how to forgive myself for judging myself and for judging others. I know that it will do the same for you if you practice, commit, and shift your vibration. 5