6 Ways To Boost Your Love-Life (Whether single or partnered)! By Aine Belton

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1 6 Ways To Boost Your Love-Life (Whether single or partnered)! By Aine Belton Whatever your relationship status single, dating, or long-term partnered - being happy with yourself and your life will obviously enhance that relationship (including the one with yourself), and if single, help to attract a relationship that mirrors your contentment. If you are waiting for someone else to fill a hole on any level, you are less likely to experience those qualities in your life because you are seeking them externally rather than generating them yourself, or discovering them within and filling yourself up from the inside out. When you feel dependent on something coming from outside of you, you can block receiving that. When you let go of attachment, however, and own your inherent wholeness, and know that you deserve (which you always do), you can more easily attract and receive through desire and intention. Whilst a cliché, it is for good reason: self-love will enhance any relationship since your relationships with others will ultimately reflect the relationship you have with yourself, as well as your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, etc. You IN NO WAY need to be perfect to be loved and have love in your life! Quite the opposite; being authentic and real will attract real love. If you re feeling this in any way, know immediately that something is off, and self-love is the anti-dote. Loving, accepting and valuing yourself will bring love right now and will be a catalyst to attract genuine love from others, and equip you with being more able to offer it. A relationship partner will, just as you, have their share of issues, weaknesses, off days and moments, and you will be more accepting of these if you yourself have a foundation of self-love and acceptance. It is natural and a joy to desire a loving intimate relationship, or the sustaining and deepening of an existing one (even if there can be fears and resistances around that). If that relationship is the cream on an already delicious cake of your life, it will be a more richly enhancing blessing.

2 If, however, you are expecting a relationship (either an existing one or one yet to be) to be the missing ingredient in your cake mix, you can get caught in a disempowering trap that side-tracks you from creating the gateaux of your dreams! The more you depend on someone else for your happiness, the more you are bound to disappointment. ~ Bartholomew I have certainly fallen into this trap. The gift in these situations, however, is the call to examine my beliefs (about self and others), turn to discover the oasis of love within, and deepen my connection to Source and the unconditional love that is ever available. As you get baking a glorious cake for yourself, with self-love as your raising flour and the yummy fillings of your true nature, it will naturally attract complimentary ingredients both in terms of people and relationships, as well as successes and situations in your life. Self-love is an integral ingredient for lasting happiness. If you want your life to be happy, love-filled and successful, and not just one that looks great, or is satisfying in some areas, but to really experience and FEEL the juice of a love-rich life, an open heart is key. Love is ALWAYS In the air; open your heart and breathe it in. Self-love is a healing balm that will nourish your heart, dissolve blocks, build inner strength and enable you to more fully open to love including to receiving more of the incredible love the universe has for you in every moment, and sharing your love with others. Your life will reflect how you feel about yourself and what s going on inside your inner landscape and the patterns in your consciousness. You manifest your reality with your desire, beliefs, imagination, thoughts, feelings, choices, actions, and so on. One thing that will effortlessly bloom your life in all areas without any deliberation is LOVE! Love is like sunshine itself and transforms your world into sweetness and flowers! 6 ways to boost your Love-life for a life you truly LOVE! Responsibility

3 Take your power back from your reality. What you are responsible for you can change. Responsibility brings freedom and empowerment. Own that you are the creator of your reality and be compassionate with yourself regarding why you may have created or allowed negative situations. Forgive yourself and change. One of the fastest ways to enhance your life is to start realizing that you are its author and get writing a new script! If there s something that isn t working out there in your life, are there negative beliefs behind those experiences? What attitudes might not be working? How might you think, feel and act differently to be aligned to the outcomes you seek? Sweetness Sweetness is the confetti of life. When you re in a loving state, feeling playful, or in tender, soft moments of intimacy, sweetness oozes from your heart. Sweetness is the nectar of love. As you open yourself to the sweetness in you and the sweetness of life, it melts the walls around your heart (and others ), giving you access to more honey-like states of loveliness. Sweetness is playful and delightful and sees the beauty and wonder in existence. Life is sweet; witness the beauty in all that you meet. I don t think sweetness is just a feminine trait. It is inherent in every human heart, and for me personally anyway, just as endearing in men. Express your love, care and affection Withholding your love for whatever reason will ultimately hurt you. It can take courage to be vulnerable and share your heart, and the relationships that are appropriate will blossom for it. It is also healing and inspiring for others and creates a safe space for them to share theirs too, creating an opening for intimacy and tenderness. You have so much beauty in your heart: don t hide it.

4 Letting go For more love in your life, you may need to let go of what s standing in the way of that. It may be something physical, like a situation, job or relationship that isn t serving you (though explore why you have created that or you may end up attracting the same scenario nothing changes until you do!) It may be feelings you would heal by letting go of (fear, guilt, anger, hurt, etc.), attitudes and negative states (judgment, control, blame, competition, arrogance, dishonesty), or bad habits or resistances (procrastination, hiding, avoidance, playing small, etc.). If you don t know how to let go, start with willingness. Make the intention to do so. Write down what you want to let go of and burn the paper as a practical reflection of that, or imagine them dissolving in some way in your mind s-eye in meditation. Energy healing can also be a wonderful way to release, transmute and transform energy and let go of more of what doesn t serve you. Acceptance, forgiveness and compassion If you have a relationship issue, either with yourself or another (and the latter may reflect the former), the elixirs of acceptance, forgiveness and compassion will always help to heal and transform yourself and the situation in some way. You may need to start by accepting all of your feelings, and feeling them to allow them to move through you and be released. What you accept you more easily let go of and release. Take a moment to accept yourself, life and others, just as you/it/they are. Giving Giving is one of the greatest of human joys. Expressing your love, care and serving others is immeasurably rewarding and will enrich your life bountifully. Always remember: Love feels just as good going out as it does coming in.

5 There are many ways you can give. You can give of your time, care, energy, attention, love, information, money, support, joy. Give also of who you are, of your gifts, strengths and talents. Hiding them away will ultimately cause you pain and cheat the world of the gifts you ve come to share. Your talents are gifts on loan in this life to help other people with their life. Give also to yourself! Treat yourself. Nourish yourself. Be there for yourself. Do what brings you joy. Lastly, remember: Your presence alone is a gift; wherever you are, whoever you re with, be there!