Supporting Friendships & Dating Relationships

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1 Supporting Friendships & Dating Relationships NADD 33 rd Annual Conference November 3, 2016 Karen Ward and Julie Atkinson

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18 Friendships & Dating Curriculum Examples

19 Friendships & Dating Introduction! Introductions! Candy Name Game! Create Binders! Establish Group Rules! Community activities:! Introduce rules and expectations in the community! scavenger hunt at the mall, store, botanical garden, park! game night at agency

20 Candy Name Game Red Green Orange Blue Brown Yellow Hobbies Foods Vacation Animal Movie Wild

21 Feelings and Emotions! What are feelings and emotions! Recognizing emotions video! Emotions - digital photos! More than a feeling role play! Expressing feelings/assertiveness! Empathy discussion! Community activities! observe and discuss emotions at hospital, mall, billiards, coffee shop, bowling

22 Emotions Video

23 Relationships! Relationships! Sexual Orientation! Potential friends! Potential dates! Girlfriend/Boyfriend discussion! Community activities! observe and/or discuss relationships at music in the park, minigolf, coffee shop, internet café

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27 Personal Boundaries! Boundaries discussion! Social Boundaries Scenarios! Consent! No means No handout! Beyond No Means No: How to Protect Yourself! Relationships and Boundaries Role Play! Community activities! Use of appropriate social boundaries at movies, swimming, lake, coffee shop, bowling

28 Social Boundaries Scenarios! Are these appropriate for a first meeting? Why or why not?! Hi. Are you married?! Hi. My name is, what is your name?! Would you like to dance? At the last dance I broke-up with ex.! This is a good restaurant. Do you ever have sex?

29 Communication! First Impressions role play! How do I look?! Communication Discussion! Yarn ball game! Non-verbal social cues! Identifying mutual interests Go find game! Community Activities! Complete an activity where participants use communication skills (rock gym, coffee shop, thrift store). Conversation starters.

30 Yarn Ball Game! What makes a good friend?

31 Planning Activities and Dates! Before the date discussion/role play! While on a date discussion! Showing respect scenarios! Ending a date discussion! How much does a date cost! Participants make reminder calls for community activity! Community activities! Go on a date or activity with friends in the community (park, art walk, museum, go-karts, potluck dinner)

32 How much does a date cost?! Dinner at a restaurant?! $40 + tip! Movies at the theater (first run) in the evening?! Tickets = $23, concessions = $20! Renting a movie to watch at home?! $2-5! Going on a hike?! No cost, possibly $5 for parking! Go out for ice cream or FroYo?! $10

33 Safe Dating Skills! Dating Review! Social Rules for safe dating! Dating Bill of Rights discussion! Healthy relationship video! Online relationships, social media, and technology! Community Activities! Go on a date or activity with friends in the community (golf, billiards, ice sculptures, movie, participant s house, park)

34 Online and Social Media! What kind of social media do you use?! How might someone be dishonest online or through social media?

35 Personal Safety! Personal safety issues! Coercion/bullying! Inappropriate touch! Abuse and interpersonal violence! Watch No means No! Identifying a trusted adult! Beyond no means no: How to protect yourself! Community activities! Go on a date or out with friends in the community (hike, walk, bike ride, karaoke, ice cream, laser-tag)

36 Identifying a Trusted Adult Explain that everyone needs to have a trusted adult whom they can talk to. This is especially important when you have to talk about something that relates to personal safety. Ask participants to each name a specific trusted adult in their life that they could talk to. Facilitator Tip: Be sure all participants name at least one appropriate trusted adult. If a participant names someone you do not know, ask questions about that individual. Why does the participant think they would be a trusted adult? Encourage all participants to tell their trusted adult if something bad happens to them.

37 Sexual Health! Sexual health introduction! Body part identification! Sex and reproduction! Birth control! Sexually transmitted infections! How to use condoms! Community activities! Go on a date in the community (movie, walk, ice cream, coffee)

38 How to use a Condom

39 Staying Healthy! Sexual Health Screenings! Masturbation! Recognizing differences discussion! Separation and breakup! Conflict resolution & role play! Community activities participants encouraged to invite a date or friend to celebrate! Go on a date or activity with friends in the community (movie, restaurant, party at agency, bowling)

40 Self-Exam Cards

41 Friendships & Dating To Date in AK! 11 Communities! 42 Agencies! 350+ Participants

42 FDP Replication Outside AK! New Hampshire (6 sites)! New Mexico! Wyoming (6 sites)! Calgary, Alberta! Massachusetts (3 sites)

43 Questions?

44 Contact Information Karen Ward Julie Atkinson (907)

45 Session Objectives: Session 5 Communication and Meeting Others To teach behaviors involved with meeting others. To understand communication skills. To understand non-verbal social cues. Activity Materials Needed Duration Participant and support network contact information (emergency phone numbers) Dry erase board or easel, markers Paper, pens, pencils 1. Check-in 5-15 mins 2. First impressions 10 mins 3. How do I look? Basic hygiene items Computer, projector, or ipad 10 mins 4. Communication Ways to Communicate handout for each participant 10 mins 5. Yarn Game Yarn or string 15 mins 6. Non-verbal social Computer, projector, or ipad cues 15 mins 7. Non-verbals social cue role play 10 mins 8. Identifying mutual Go Find handout for each participant interests 15 mins 9. The Other Sister DVD The Other Sister DVD, Chapter 10 optional 10. Overview of the next community activity 10 mins 11. End session Facilitator Pre-Session Preparation: Question box and supplies Session 5 vocab list for each participant Weekly Information Sheet for all support network individuals 5 mins Preview the community activity for this week and compile necessary information to share with participants. Complete Weekly Information Sheets. UAA Center for Human Development 39

46 6. Non-Verbal Social Cues (10 minutes) Explain that unlike the activity which focused on verbal communication, there are times when people send messages without saying or writing something down. They express themselves with their bodies, non-verbally. These non-verbal cues can help people choose who to talk to or approach, and those to do not to talk to or approach. Continue to explain, that when trying to meet friends or potential dates it is important to understand these cues. State non-verbal social cues can sometimes be hard to understand. Open the power point file, on the F&D website, named Non verbal social cues on your computer. Project the images where everyone can see them. If you are unable to use the power point file, please find copies of the slides in the packet of pictures. Explain these slides contain many pictures of non verbal social cues. Ask participants to describe what is occurring in the picture and what kind of a message is being sent. Facilitator Tip: Spend as much time as necessary discussing the non-verbal social cue images. Direct the participants to identify the emotions and feelings of the people and relate them to the messages being sent. Proceed with presentation and praise participation and answers. Ask participants if they have any questions about non-verbal social cues. 7. Non-Verbal Social Cues Role Play (15 minutes) Have the group participate in a role play associated with non-verbal social cues. Some of the examples are very obvious, others are more subtle. Review the following scenarios and talk about what they mean. Facilitator: after reading the scenarios, read them again while having participants act them out. A girl or boy your age drops a bag filled with groceries. You run over and help pick-up the groceries. S/he smiles. [What could the smile mean?] A girl or boy your age smiles and says that s/he likes your eyes, and then winks. [What could the wink mean?] A girl or boy your age turns his/her head when you walk up to them. [What could 44 Friendships & Dating Manual