Body Language. The Hidden Meaning Behind People s Gestures and Expressions. Michael Donovan Principal- Ridgewood Avenue School

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1 Body Language The Hidden Meaning Behind People s Gestures and Expressions Michael Donovan Principal- Ridgewood Avenue School

2 The Definitive Book of Body Language by- Allan and Barbara Pease

3 They Say Body Language accounts for approximately 65% of communication Phrases prove how important Body Language is: Get it off your chest Stay at Arm s Length Keep your Chin Up Face Up to It Put your Best Foot Forward Kiss my Butt

4 3 Rules for Reading Body Language 1. Read Gestures in Clusters - Scratching Head could Mean Uncertainty or Dandruff 2. Look for Congruence 3. Read Gestures in Context

5 Showing Openness Originally used to show no weapons Open Palms= Open & Honest Hands in Pocket= Don t want to Talk or Hiding Something

6 Showing Openness Palm Up= Non-Threatening and Open Palm Down= Authoritative Pointing Finger= Do It or Else

7 Typically 5-7 Pumps and Should Apply Same Pressure as the other person Hand Shakes

8 Dominance Take the Upper Hand Palm Faces Down Shows Control

9 Submissive The Opposite of the Dominant Handshake Hand is under the other person s Shows you are submissive and not in control

10 Equality Both Hands in Vertical Positions

11 Women Social vs. Business May want to use a lighter handshake to show femininity But in Business, will always show strength

12 The Double Hander Shows Trustworthiness and Honesty Used to TAKE POWER BACK

13 A natural smile produces characteristic wrinkles around the eyes Smiles

14 Smiles Insincere people smile only with their mouth

15 Arm Signals Crossed Arms= Negative, Defensive or Nervous Crossed Arms plus Clutched Fists= Hostile and Defensive 7 out of 10 people cross left arm over right

16 Double-Arm Grip Insecure Self-Soothing

17 Arms Behind Back Shows Superiority Clenched behind the back= Frustration and Need to Control Self Do you do this when you visit classrooms???

18 The Steeple Indicates a confident or selfassured attitude Person usually has the right answers Raised Steeple= Giving Opinion Lowered Steeple= Listening

19 Some Fun with Body Language

20 The Broken Zipper Helps Men feel Secure Can also reveal vulnerability

21 The Luncheon Test Subtly move table items across to the other person s side. They will either sit back in their chair or begin pushing everything back to the center

22 Elevator-Riding Rules No Talking to Anyone Avoid Eye Contact No Emotion Pretend to look at Something No Body Movement Must Watch Floor Numbers Change

23 Space Intimate (6-18 inches) Personal (18-48 inches) Social (4-12 feet) Public (over 12 feet)

24 Lying HEAR no evil, SEE no evil, SPEAK no evil I did not have sexual relations with that woman As he gulped and rubbed his nose!

25 Eyes Up and to the Left

26 Lying Hands to Ears, Mouth, Eyes Also common with Uncertainty, Doubt or Exaggeration

27 8 Common Lying Gestures 1. The Mouth Cover 2. The Nose Touch 3. Itchy Nose 4. The Eye Rub 5. The Ear Grab 6. The Neck Scratch 7. The Collar Pull 8. Fingers-in-the-Mouth

28 Boredom Hand to Face- Boredom is Setting In Hand to Face, supporting Chin- About to get Negative Hand Supporting Head (to stop from falling asleep) Drumming Fingers or Tapping Feet- Impatience

29 Going

30 Going

31 GONE

32 The Legs Move Forward to Get Food or Run from Danger Go Toward what we Want Move Away from what we Don t Want

33 Legs Open Legs= You are Open or Dominant Closed Legs= Closed Attitude or Uncertainty

34 Legs 1. Standing At Attention = Neutral Position and Feelings 2. Legs Apart= Dominance and No Intention of Leaving 3. Foot Forward= Lead Foot is Pointed in the Direction your Mind wants to go 4. Leg Cross= Submissive or Defensive If both Arms and Legs are Crossed= NOT open to communications

35 American Figure-4 Argumentative or Competitive The Figure 4 Clamp= Tough-Minded and Stubborn Not Open to Others Opinions

36 Ankle Lock The Same as Biting your Lip Holding Back Negative Emotion Shows Uncertainty or Fear More People lock their ankles with the taxman than with the dentist

37 Straddling the Chair Wants to Dominate or Control, but still needs to feel protected

38 Mirroring Makes someone feel accepted and creates a bond Powerful way to build rapport

39 Cultural Differences Misinterpretations can be embarrassing Always consider someone s cultural background before jumping to conclusions

40 Australia- Up Yours France- Peace USA- 2

41 Thumbs Up Good to Westerners One to Italians Five to Japanese Up Yours to Greeks

42 North America and Europe- OK Russia- Sexual Insult or Gay Man Japan- Money France- Zero or Worthless

43 Angry Parent? Tips for School Sit them with their back to the door Be Open, Lean in and Bring them into Your space Open Palms

44 Tips for School Read your Teachers and Students Body Language & Remember you can take steps to change their body language. AND Always think about your own Body Language

45 Tips for Classroom Give the child something to do that requires they move Incorporate Exercise into Routines Hand them an object Proximity and Nudging - this can work well at a Staff Meeting, too!!!

46 Lying Student? Use what you know about eyes and gestures. Keep Questioning

47 Body Language in School Becoming sensitive to the clues of body language can help us communicate more effectively with students. We can understand what students, parents and teachers are saying even when they are not talking.

48 Body Language in the Classroom We can decode secret messages passing silently from person to person And we may spot contradictions between what people say and what they really mean.

49 Body Language Finally, we can learn to be more sensitive- to see how our students and staff express their feelings and to consider how others perceive our own body language!