Just Thinking. Sample. Corrective Thinking Workbook For Responsible Decision Making

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1 1 DATE: Just Thinking Corrective Thinking Workbook For Responsible Decision Making Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: PO BOX 222 ROSCOE IL 61073

2 2 Copyright 1999, 1998 Truthought, LLC All Rights Reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced for any reason or in any form whatsoever without written permission from Truthought, LLC. Published by Truthought Publications, P.O. Box 222, Roscoe, Illinois, USA. Truthought Publications is the publishing division of Truthought, LLC, an organization active in preserving and promoting corrective thinking and behavior in the thoughts and lives of contemporary people. Printed in the USA. We gratefully acknowledge the groundbreaking work and research of Dr. Yochelson and Dr. Stanton E. Samenow which spurred the research and development of the Continuum of Responsibility/ Irresponsibility on page 5 and this workbook. The Criminal Personality Vol. I: A Profile for Change 1985, 1976 Jason Aronson, Inc. The Criminal Personality Vol. II: The Change Process 1985, 1977 Jason Aronson, Inc. The Criminal Personality Vol. III: The Drug User 1986 Kathryn and Stanton E. Samenow All rights reserved. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

3 3 DATE: Table of Contents Page Truthought Tools To Measure Progress 4 Barriers in Thinking, Steps to Responsible Thinking, Time-Bomb Tactics, Stay on Track, Continuum of Irresponsiblity/Responsiblity 5 Thought Journal Instructions 5 Thinkin Tally Instructions 6 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Chapters Checking My Thinking 7 Tackling Tactics Tactics I used: Targeting My Thinking My Feelings about the Situation: 47 Personal Responsibility, Respect for Others Committing to Culture 81 Self Respect, Daily Effort, Humility Proactive Accountability 123 Accountability My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you Making My Destiny 165 are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Courage over Fear, Power through Achievement Total to date: Glossary of Terms 207 Staying on Track 208

4 4 The Continuum Of Responsibility/Irresponsibility Responsible Thinking takes responsibility in all areas of life shows consideration to others chooses to do what is best for others and self Irresponsible Thinking makes excuses and won t take responsibility lies, manipulates, and puts forth little or no effort is unreliable, late, and won t fulfill obligations Arrestable Thinking strongly resists taking any responsibility is a loner, secretive, and considers self as better than others breaks rules, commits crime, when possible, without getting caught Extreme Arrestable Thinking accepts no responsibility; must beat the system at all costs concerned with self, self, self does anything to get own way criticizes, blames or harms others; breaks the law as a way of life My Thought Journal Instructions Keeping a thought journal means taking time to write out my personal thoughts every day. So, I will choose any time during the day and write truthfully about whatever I am thinking at that time. I will also write about any of my unacceptable behavior that day. I will list the facts about the situation. Then I will list at least 2 tactics I used and a corrective for each tactic. I will also write my thoughts about the situation and my feelings and attitude about the situation. I will make a special note of any risky thoughts, beliefs, or feelings. After I have written all my thoughts, I will read over my journal. I will check myself to see if my thoughts are helping me show respect to others and helping me to earn self-respect. I do not need to change my thought journal. I will use it to keep my thoughts in check, and to measure my progress. Signature Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

5 5 DATE: My Thinking Tally Instructions Keeping a tally of my thinking means recording what kind of thinking I have from day to day and adding up the total each day. In other words, if I am thinking like an irresponsible thinker on the first day, I will place a _ in the space after irresponsible thinking and a 1 after total irresponsible thinking. Irresponsible Facts about the thinking Situation: _ Total My Irresponsible Thoughts about thinking the Situation: to date: 1 Tactics If I am I thinking used: like an irresponsible thinker again My on Feelings the next about day the then Situation: I will place a _ after irresponsible thinking, and a 2 after total irresponsible thinking total on the second day. Responsible thinking _ Total to date: 2 Extreme (Arrestable) thinking On day three, if I am thinking like an arrestable thinker I would place a _ in the space after arrestable My thinking, Thinking a Tally: 1 after In the the total first column arrestable check thinking, one category and that a 2 in best the describes space after the way irresponsible you thinking. are By thinking keeping today. a running In the second tab of column my thinking add the for total each number day, of I have all categories a record for of each my day progress. so far. Total to date: Irresponsible Total Total Irresponsible thinking to to date: date: 2 Arrestable _ thinking Total Total Arrestable Extreme thinking (Arrestable) to date: thinking 1 to date:

6 6 Beneath each statement below explain how you think it applies to you. I have my own unique style of living, and I do whatever I want. I have little in common with others unless I want something from them. I lie because it s so easy. Life is one way all the way, and that s my way. I trust only the people I can manipulate, control, or use. I live for each moment. There s no need to plan for my future. I m not interested in the truth, it only interferes with my getting what I want. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

7 7 DATE: Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: We can t change the past, but we don t have to repeat it.

8 8 Explain what each of the following mean to you. A. My family: B. The values and customs of my race (my culture): C. My girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife: D. My community: Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

9 9 DATE: Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Others have the right to be wrong.

10 10 Make a list of everything you remember doing during the ages listed below that hurt or harmed someone else. Ages 3-5: Ages 6-9: Ages 10-13: Ages 14-16: Ages 17-Now: In your own words write what you don t like about the behavior you listed above. Be honest. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

11 DATE: 11 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Man is not a creature of circumstances, circumstances are the creatures of man.

12 12 Look over the Continuum of Responsibility on page 5. Review the four categories and write the one that most describes you, at the time, next to the ages listed. Age 3-5: Age 6-9: Age 10-13: Age 14-16: Age 17-Now: Now think of yourself as a responsible person. Write what you would have done different, during each of the age categories, to have avoided intentionally harming anyone. Age 3-5: Age 6-9: Age 10-13: Age 14-16: Age 17 - Now: Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

13 DATE: 13 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: In your moments of decision your destiny takes shape.

14 14 Read each code for living listed below and beneath each one write what you think would lead you to want to live by that code. A. Before I make a decision I will consider what is best for others as well as myself. B. All my decisions will reflect that I care about what is right and I care about others. C. I will seek to talk to and relate to responsible people. D. I am responsible for what I know. I will not run, hide, or keep it a secret. E. My motive is to do whatever it takes to think and act responsibly. F. I will respect others and work to earn their respect. G. I will not play the game of win or lose I will find ways that we all can win. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

15 DATE: 15 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: If you don t make a plan for your life someone else will.

16 16 Decide which of the codes, from the previous exercise, you choose to live by. Then describe how that code will affect the following people. A. The most important people to me (list their first names): B. The values and customs of my race (my culture): C. My community: Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

17 DATE: 17 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: It is not enough to have a good mind, you must use it well.

18 18 List 20 things you really enjoy doing that are important to you a. Place a dollar sign ($) in front of each one that costs more than $5.00. b. Put a P in front of those that require the presence of other people and an MY (for myself) for those you can do yourself. c. Put an AP in front of those that require advance planning. d. Put an N in front of those you would not have listed five years ago. e. Put an R in front of those that involve some risk. f. Put a circle around 7 of the activities you like the very best. g. Place the approximate date you last enjoyed the activity after each one. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

19 DATE: 19 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Beneath all that we think lies all we believe.

20 20 Describe what you learned about your self from the previous exercise by writing a short paragraph. Use the following thoughts to help you. I value activities that cost more than I can afford. I don t have enough money to have a good time. I am a loner, or I am people-oriented and enjoying doing things with others. I value things that require planning. I can see I haven t changed much,or very little, in the last 5 years. I am a heavy risk taker. It has been a long time since I did something I enjoy, maybe I really don t enjoy it. My Paragraph: Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

21 DATE: 21 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: As you think in your heart, so you are.

22 22 List all of the choices you think you have concerning your future and number them, leave a space between each. I am free to choose: After each choice you listed above, write what you think the consequences are for choosing it. Include both positive or negative consequences. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

23 DATE: 23 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Experience is not what happens to people, it is what people do with what happens to them.

24 24 For each of the choices regarding your future that you listed in the previous exercise, write an alternative choice, or another choice you could make. List your alternative choice below by writing the number from the previous exercise and the alternative choice after it. I am free to make another choice: After each choice above, write what you think the consequences are for that choice. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

25 DATE: 25 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Pain is the ultimate tool for changing a belief.

26 26 List 10 things you value most below. List what is most important to you. Then rank these 10 things in their order of importance to you, with #1 being the most important and #10 the least important. Are you happy with these values? Do you respect them? Do you think responsible people from your community and culture would respect these values? After each number, write yes -if you respect them, and a second yes if others would respect them Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

27 DATE: 27 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Whatever we focus on becomes our view of reality.

28 28 How difficult is it for a person to find responsible solutions to problems? Explain your answer. What information, opinions or thoughts should a person consider when trying to determine what a responsible decision might be? List as many as you can: Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

29 DATE: 29 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: We become what we think.

30 30 The more we respect ourselves the better we will relate to others. How can you express your thoughts and feelings to others without forcing them on others? Explain how you will do this. Describe what this statement means to you: Don t think less of yourself, but think of yourself less. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

31 DATE: 31 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: Small improvements are believable, therefore achievable.

32 32 Be aware of how you intimidate others. List the ways you think you look or act intimidating to others. What do you think are your greatest needs? 3. Are you dependent upon other groups, or another individual to make sure your needs are met? List below those you depend on to fulfill your needs. Just Thinking, a Truthought Publication

33 DATE: 33 Facts about the Situation: My Thoughts about the Situation: Tactics I used: My Feelings about the Situation: My Thinking Tally: In the first column check one category that best describes the way you are thinking today. In the second column add the total number of all categories for each day so far. Total to date: Thought for the day: You are today where your thoughts have brought you. You will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.