HOW TO HELP HURTING PEOPLE (YOURSELF AND OTHERS)

HOW TO HELP HURTING PEOPLE (YOURSELF AND OTHERS) An Introduction to Biblical Counseling

DISCLAIMER

DISCLAIMER I m not here to upset you.

DISCLAIMER I m not here to upset you. I m not here to give medical advice.

DISCLAIMER I m not here to upset you. I m not here to give medical advice. I m here to share my burden and love for you and hopefully open your heart and mind to what God says about your problems as well as help you help others with their problems.

INTRODUCTION

STATISTICS:

STATISTICS: The divorce rate in America for first marriages is between 45% to 50%.

STATISTICS: The divorce rate in America for first marriages is between 45% to 50%. The divorce rate in America for second marriages is between 60% to 67%

STATISTICS: The divorce rate in America for first marriages is between 45% to 50%. The divorce rate in America for second marriages is between 60% to 67% The divorce rate in America for third marriages is between 70% to 73% PressTV

STATISTICS: The divorce rate in America for first marriages is between 45% to 50%. The divorce rate in America for second marriages is between 60% to 67% The divorce rate in America for third marriages is between 70% to 73% PressTV One in five (21%) women reported she had been raped or physically or sexually assaulted in her lifetime.- Domestic Violence Resource center

STATISTICS: The divorce rate in America for first marriages is between 45% to 50%. The divorce rate in America for second marriages is between 60% to 67% The divorce rate in America for third marriages is between 70% to 73% PressTV One in five (21%) women reported she had been raped or physically or sexually assaulted in her lifetime.- Domestic Violence Resource center In its study, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention looked at 2.4 billion drugs prescribed in visits to doctors and hospitals in 2005. Of those, 118 million were for antidepressants...between 1995 and 2002, the most recent year for which statistics are available, the use of these drugs rose 48 percent, the CDC reported. - CNN Health

TERMS Psychology- the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, esp. those affecting behavior in a given context.; a discipline that began in 1879 by Wundt with the first psych lab in Germany.

TERMS Psychology- the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, esp. those affecting behavior in a given context.; a discipline that began in 1879 by Wundt with the first psych lab in Germany. Psychotherapy- a branch of psychology that addresses how to help people with problems - there are over 250 approaches to psychotherapy.

TERMS Psychology- the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, esp. those affecting behavior in a given context.; a discipline that began in 1879 by Wundt with the first psych lab in Germany. Psychotherapy- a branch of psychology that addresses how to help people with problems - there are over 250 approaches to psychotherapy. Psychologist- an expert or specialist in psychology.

TERMS Psychology- the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, esp. those affecting behavior in a given context.; a discipline that began in 1879 by Wundt with the first psych lab in Germany. Psychotherapy- a branch of psychology that addresses how to help people with problems - there are over 250 approaches to psychotherapy. Psychologist- an expert or specialist in psychology. Psychiatry- the study and treatment of mental illness, emotional disturbance, and abnormal behavior.

TERMS Psychiatrist- A psychologist with a MD that can prescribe medicine.

TERMS Psychiatrist- A psychologist with a MD that can prescribe medicine. Nouthetic Counselor- One who takes Romans 15:14 (I myself am satisfied about you, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge and able to instruct one another.) as a definition for Biblical counseling.

THE GOAL OF BIBLICAL COUNSELING

IMMEDIATE GOAL HELP PEOPLE CHANGE!

ULTIMATE GOAL

ULTIMATE GOAL Our goal in counseling is to help believers glorify God--the very reason that God created them, saved them, and is sanctifying them.

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Pornography Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Pornography Food Addiction Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Drunkenness Drugs

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Drugs

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Smoking

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Smoking Homosexuality

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Smoking Homosexuality Gambling

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Smoking Homosexuality Gambling Obsessive compulsive

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Smoking Homosexuality Gambling Obsessive compulsive Overspending

OTHER PROBLEMS ADHD Anorexia Bulimia/Nervosa Depression Drunkenness Drugs Pornography Food Addiction Marriage problems Children problems Smoking Homosexuality Gambling Obsessive compulsive Overspending Adultery

THE SOURCE OF PROBLEMS

THE SOURCE OF PROBLEMS Some Physical Tumors on the brain Alzheimer s disease Fever

THE SOURCE OF PROBLEMS Some Physical Tumors on the brain Alzheimer s disease Fever All Spiritual This may be a physical problem with a spiritual response Selfishness

THE SOURCE OF PROBLEMS Some Physical Tumors on the brain Alzheimer s disease Fever All Spiritual This may be a physical problem with a spiritual response Selfishness No third category of mental/emotional/psychological problems

BUT HOW CAN I HELP?

BUT HOW CAN I HELP? Excuses for not helping.

BUT HOW CAN I HELP? Excuses for not helping. I don t have time.

BUT HOW CAN I HELP? Excuses for not helping. I don t have time. I don t have a degree.

BUT HOW CAN I HELP? Excuses for not helping. I don t have time. I don t have a degree. I don t know what I would say.

BUT HOW CAN I HELP? Excuses for not helping. I don t have time. I don t have a degree. I don t know what I would say. I am no better than any body else.

GALATIANS 6:1 Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.

How did we get to where we are?

How did we get to where we are? VS.

Illustration of a Doctor s visit. Note: This is a hypothetical example, any mental illness could be substituted, (i.e. anorexia, sexual addiction, etc)

DSM IV Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition Text Revision

DEPRESSION DIAGNOSIS 1. Major Depressive Episode and Major Depressive Disorder Major Depressive Disorder requires two or more major depressive episodes. Diagnostic criteria: Depressed mood and/or loss of interest or pleasure in life activities for at least 2 weeks and at least five of the following symptoms that cause clinically significant impairment in social, work, or other important areas of functioning almost every day 1.Depressed mood most of the day. 2. Diminished interest or pleasure in all or most activities. 3 Significant unintentional weight loss or gain. 4. Insomnia or sleeping too much. 5. Agitation or psychomotor retardation noticed by others. 6. Fatigue or loss of energy. 7. Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt. 8. Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness. 9. Recurrent thoughts of death (APA, 2000, p. 356).

Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor & i.e. Zoloft, Paxil, Prozac Monoamine oxidase inhibitor

RESULTS OF SSRI Apathy Nausea/vomiting Drowsiness or somnolence Headache Bruxism (teeth grinding) Tinnitus Extremely vivid or strange dreams Dizziness Fatigue Mydriasis (pupil dilation) Changes in appetite Insomnia and/or changes in sleep Weight loss/gain (measured by a change in bodyweight of 7 pounds) Increased risk of bone fractures and injuries Increased feelings of depression and anxiety (which may sometimes provoke panic attacks) Tremors (and other symptoms of Parkinsonism in vulnerable elderly patients) Autonomic dysfunction including orthostatic hypotension, increased or reduced sweating Suicidal ideation (thoughts of suicide) Photosensitivity Paresthesia

WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE SOMEONE?

WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE SOMEONE? Hopeless...I m am diagnosed with a problem.

WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE SOMEONE? Hopeless...I m am diagnosed with a problem. Self-fulfilling prophecy.

WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE SOMEONE? Hopeless...I m am diagnosed with a problem. Self-fulfilling prophecy. This can become an excuse as well.

HOW TO PROVIDE REAL HOPE

II PETER 1:2-3 2. May grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord. 3. His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence,

II CORINTHIANS 3:18 18 And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.

I CORINTHIANS 10:13 13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

ABCD MODEL Put Off/ Put On Ephesians. 4:22-24 A. Affect B. Behavior C. Cognition D. Desire New Man A B C Old Man A B C = Genuine Repentance D D

HOMEWORK

ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK HOMEWORK

ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK Collect Information HOMEWORK

ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK Collect Information Set expectation for change HOMEWORK

ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK Collect Information Set expectation for change Allows an assessment HOMEWORK

ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK Collect Information Set expectation for change Allows an assessment Clarifies expectations HOMEWORK

HOMEWORK ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK Collect Information Set expectation for change Allows an assessment Clarifies expectations Focuses on Counselee, not dependence

HOMEWORK ALWAYS GIVE HOMEWORK Collect Information Set expectation for change Allows an assessment Clarifies expectations Focuses on Counselee, not dependence GIVES HOPE

PRACTICAL GUIDELINES FOR HOMEWORK

PRACTICAL GUIDELINES FOR HOMEWORK Bible Reading Plan- Make specific (not just read your Bible) Church attendance Memory Passage - dealing with their unresolved problem Perhaps a book on the topic... not too book oriented though because the answers are in the Scriptures. Journaling- (i.e. Keep track of everything you eat this week, Keep track of how much you are sleeping)

RESOURCES

HOPE CONCLUSION