The Five Love Languages Personal Assessment For WIVES From The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Even if you think that you know what your primary love languages are, it is a good idea to complete the profile and know for sure. Understanding what your primary love languages are and expressing these to your husband can contribute quite positively to your relationship. There are 30 pairs of statements in the profile. Choose the one that best reflects your desire and circle the letter to next your selection. It may be challenging to choose between some, yet in order to yield the most accurate results, please select only one from each set. Take this profile when you are relaxed and not pressed for time. After you ve made your selections, go back and count the number of times you chose each letter. List the results in the appropriate spaces at the end of the profile. P.S. One you discover your primary and secondary love languages, you may want to add to your Attraction Recipe for Your Perfect Life Together. 1 of 9
1. A Sweet notes from my husband make me feel good. E I love my husband s hugs. 2. B I like to be alone with my husband. D I feel loved when my husband washes my car. 3. C Receiving special gifts from my husband makes me happy. B I enjoy long trips with my husband. 4. D I feel loved when my husband helps with the laundry. E I like it when my husband touches me. 5. E I feel loved when my husband puts his or her arm around me. C I know my husband loves me because he surprises me with gifts. 6. B I like going most anywhere with my husband. E I like to hold my husband s hand. 7. C I value the gifts my husband gives to me. A I love to hear my husband say he loves me. 8. E I like for my husband to sit close to me. A My husband tells me I look good, and I like that. 2 of 9
9. B Spending time with my husband makes me happy. C Even the smallest gift from my husband is important to me. 10. A I feel loved when my husband tells me he is proud of me. D When my husband helps clean up after a meal or cooks for me, I know that he loves me. 11. B No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband. A Supportive comments from my husband makes me feel good. 12. D Little things my husband does for me mean more than things he says. E I love to hug my husband. 13. A My husband s praise means a lot to me. C It means a lot to me that my husband gives me gifts I really like. 14. B Just being around my husband makes me feel good. E I love it when my husband gives me a massage or rubs my back. 3 of 9
15. A My husband s reactions to my accomplishments is so encouraging. D It means a lot to me when my husband helps me with something I know he hates. 16. E I never get tired of my husband s kisses. B I love that my husband shows real interest in things I like to do. 17. D I can count on my husband to help me with projects. C I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband. 18. A I love for my husband to compliment my appearance. B I love that my husband listens to me, respects my ideas and doesn t rush to judge or criticize. 19. E I can t help but touch my husband when he s close by. D My husband sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that. 20. D My husband deserves an award for all the things he does to help me. C I m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my husband s gifts to me are. 21. B I love having my husband s undivided attention. D I love that my husband helps clean the house and keep it clean. 4 of 9
22. C I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday. A I never get tired of my husband telling me that I am important to him. 23. C My husband lets me know he loves me by giving me gifts. D My husband shows his love by helping me without my having to ask. 24. B My husband doesn t interrupt me when I am talking and I like that. C I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband. 25. D My husband is good about asking how he can help when I am tired. B It doesn t matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband. 26. E I love cuddling with my husband. C I love surprise gifts from my husband. 27. A My husband s encouraging words give me confidence. B I love to watch movies with my husband. 5 of 9
28. C I couldn t ask for any better gifts than the ones my husband gives me. E I love it that my husband can t keep his hands off me and he loves that I can t my hand off him. 29. D It means a lot to me that my husband helps me despite being busy. A It makes me feel really good when my husband tells me he appreciates me. 30. E I love hugging and kissing my husband after we ve been apart for a while. A I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me. 6 of 9
Now count the number of times you circled each letter and record that it below next to the letter. TOTALS: A: B: C: D: E: Results: A = Words of Affirmation B = Quality Time C = Receiving Gifts D = Acts of Service E = Physical Touch The one that received the highest score is your primary love language. If you scored equally in two, you are bi-lingual and both are equally as important to you in feeling loved. If you have scored closely in two, then both expressions o love are important to you. The highest possible score for any love language is 12. Although you may have scored low in some of the languages, it is important to remember that your husband may be speaking to you in those languages and it will help your relationship tremendously for you to recognize this. 7 of 9
Likewise express your preferred language to your husband and request that he also speak to you in this language. You will also want to make every effort to speak to your husband in his preferred language. You will be making deposits into each other s love banks and this will enhance the connection between you and improve your marriage. Remember that we all have preferred expressions of love, so learning how to speak in all languages and recognized the different expression of love can improve all of your relationships. 8 of 9