HEALTH Grade 3 Lesson 2: Compliments and Put-downs Topic: Put-downs and Compliments OBJECTIVE: The students will be able to define put-ups and put-downs, discuss reasons why people give them, and identify strategies for dealing with put-downs. MATERIALS: Put-down worksheet Giving and Receiving Compliments worksheet Compliments/Put-downs worksheet Emotions Poster (faces with different expressions and feeling words) PREPARATION: 1. Compliments/Put-Downs Worksheet 1/student 2. Giving and Receiving Compliments 1/student 3. Put-down worksheet 1/small group VOCABULARY: put-down: anything someone says or does that makes you feel bad put-ups/compliments: anything someone says that makes you feel good PROCEDURE: 1. Define put-ups/compliments and how they make you feel. Define and discuss put-downs as anything someone says or does that makes you feel bad. Point out that the class is full of unique and special people with different personalities, looks, and talents. Discuss compliments (refer to Giving and Receiving Compliments sheet). 2. Discuss how sometimes we are very critical of other people and we concentrate only on the negative things about them. Talk about how people often feel excluded when they are constantly criticized. 3. Divide students into small groups (4-5) and have them complete put-down worksheet (can be done as a role-play or written activity). 4. Reassemble group and share information on put-down worksheets. Discuss with class: How many of you have ever felt this way? What would happen if you heard put-downs like these every day,
many times each day? Why do you think people give put-downs? Discuss how jokes or just kidding can hurt people s feelings and be considered put-downs. 5. Ask students what they can do when they get a put-down. Brainstorm ideas on the board. Be sure to include: walk away, ignore, humor, and acknowledge. 6. Discuss how many people may consider something a put-down that you mean as a compliment: Explain that valuing what people do and say can make them feel included and accepted. Discuss how it is healthier and more fun when we include everyone and use all our resources to have the best classroom. Compliments and put-downs can be verbal or non-verbal. WRAP-UP: Try to give honest compliments everyday. Remember the compliments given to you. Hold the good feelings/put-ups as long as you can. Use the Giving and Receiving Compliments sheet for assistance. ASSESSMENT: Compliments/Put-downs worksheet
GIVING AND RECEIVING COMPLIMENTS
PUT-DOWN WORKSHEET v Give examples of how you might be put-down at school. 1. In the classroom 2. On the playground 3. Other v Give examples of how you might be put-down outside of school. 1. At Home 2. In after school sports or other activities. 3. Playing with a group of friends.
Compliments/Put-downs Worksheet If the statement is a COMPLIMENT put a C on the line. If the statement is a PUT-DOWN put a PD on the line. 1. Where did you get that jacket? I have been trying to find one just like it. 2. Where did you get that jacket? It looks like something my dumb brother would wear. 3. You did a great job on your picture. 4. I m having a party next week. Don t tell Susan. 5. I ll miss you when you move. 6. Hey Jack, did you see how many problems Ted got wrong? 7. That shirt is really great on you. 8. That problem was hard for me to figure out. Thanks for your help. 9. I want to sit with Jill, Sarah, and Beth. Lisa, you can sit at the other table. 10. Ben, I really appreciate the fact that you took the time to help Sam. 11. Haven t you figured out the answer yet? 12. Will you join our team? 13. I need some help with my homework. 14. You re my best friend but John got a new game system so I think I ll ask him if I can come over to play. 15. You are so good at remembering things. Could you remind me that we go to the Media Center at 1:00 today? 16. Why did you decide to get that one? 17. I can t believe you re reading that book. I did it last year.