Habits : Automatic routines of behaviors that are repeated regularly without thinking he 7 Habits of Highly Effective eens 1.)Be Proactive: ake responsibility for your life 2.)Begin with the End in Mind: Define your missions and goals in life 3.)Put First things First: Prioritize, and do the most important first 4.)hink Win-Win: Have an anyone can win attitude 5.) Seek First to Understand, hen to be Understood: Listen to people 6.)Synergy: Work together to achieve more 7.) Sharpen the Saw: Renew yourself regularly Paradigm: Perceptions about the way things are Paradigms of Life Friend-Centered Boyfriend/Girlfriend Centered School-Centered Stuff-Centered Parent-Centered Principle-Centered Honesty, Love, Respect, Hard work, Responsibility, Gratitude, Fairness he Healthiest Center
he Personal Bank Account: -How you feel about yourself -he amount of trust and confidence you have in yourself -You make deposits and withdrawals by the things you think, say, and do PBA Deposits Keep Promises to Yourself Do Random Acts of Service ap into Your alents Be Gentle with Yourself Renew Yourself PBA Withdrawals Breaking personal promises Keep to Yourself Beat yourself up Be dishonest Wear yourself out eglect your talents he Relationship Bank Account -he amount of trust and confidence you have in relationships RBA Deposits Keep promises Do small acts of kindness Be loyal Listen Say you re sorry Set clear expectations RBA Withdrawals Break Promises Keep to Yourself Gossip and break Confidences Don t Listen Be Arrogant Set False Expectations
Proactive: hink before they act ake responsibility for their choices Make choices based on principles I can choose my attitude I choose to be mad Reactive: Make their choices based on feelings, moods, emotions Who does he think he is anyways Leave me alone Will use their pause button Action Space of Freedom to Choose Response Action Response Circle of o Control -Weather -Accidents -Birth Place -thers Behaviors -Parents -Past Mistakes -Partner s Behavior Circle of Control -Your Choices -Your Mood -What you eat -Your Language -V Watching -Exercise -Attitude he Four Human ools Self-Awareness: I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions Imagination: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong Conscious: I can envision new possibilities Independent Will: I have the power to choose
Begin with the End in Mind: Define your mission and goals in life Personal Mission Statement: A personal motto that states what you life is about Inspirational Review this to help make difficult decisions S.M.A.R.. Goals Specific: Clear, not vague or confusing Measurable: Can be evaluated for progress Action-riented: Include a plan Realistic: Possible, achievable imely: Include an appropriate target date W.I.S.E. Willpower: Decide what you want Initiative: Act to achieve your dreams Stamina: Keep working, even when it s hard Enthusiasm: Be energetic! Enjoy what you re doing
Put First things First: Prioritize and manage your time Important: Your first things, activities that contribute to your mission and your goals Urgent: Pressing things, in-your-face things, activities that demand immediate attention he ime Quadrant I M P R A URGE he Procrastinator o Exam omorrow o Friend Gets Injured o Late for Work o Project due oday o Car Breaks Down URGE he Prioritize o Planning, Goal Setting o Essay due in a Week o Exercise o Relationships o Relaxation I M P R A he Yes-Man o Unimportant Phone Calls o Interruptions o ther People s Small Problems o Peer Pressure he Slacker o oo much V o Endless phone calls o Excessive Computer Games o Mall Marathons o ime Wasters Big Rocks Identify your big rocks Block out ime for your Big Rocks Schedule Everything Else