INTRODUCTION. This Information Booklet is for people who are thinking about adopting a child from overseas. This is known as Intercountry Adoption.

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1 INTRODUCTION This Information Booklet is for people who are thinking about adopting a child from overseas. This is known as Intercountry Adoption. 1 We trust that you find the information useful. Further information is available at the Stage One Information Session, which is run by Adoption and Family Information Services (AFIS).

2 2 3 WHAT IS ADOPTION? Adoption is a legal and social process, which establishes a parent-child relationship between adoptive parents and an adoptive child. It places rights and obligations as if the child had been born into the family. It enables a child who cannot be cared for by his/her family to have a legal, permanent and stable family, which all children are entitled to. The paramount consideration guiding intercountry adoption is the best interest of the child ADOPTION IS DIFFERENT TO PARENTING A BIOLOGICAL CHILD Adoption is different to parenting a biological child and raises many issues that most parents and children do not have to consider. Above all, you will need to encourage openness with the child about their adoption and their background support them to understand the reasons for them being adopted. Adoptive parents need to keep their child connected with their origins and honour the circumstances which led to them being adopted.

3 4 5 WHAT ABOUT INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION? WHAT ABOUT INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION? Intercountry adoption is an extremely complex process involving coordination and communication across various agencies at different levels of government, as well as liaison with authorities in overseas countries. The adoption authorities in the child s country must be satisfied that adoption in another country is the best choice of care for the child and that there is no opportunity for the child to be cared for by their family, extended family, or within their own country and culture. This is a requirement for all children who may be considered for intercountry adoption. The Department of Families and Communities (DFC) through the Adoption and Family Information Service (AFIS) is the only agency in South Australia able to arrange for the adoption of children from overseas. It is illegal for people to separately make contact with overseas countries with a view to arranging an adoption. AFIS handles all contacts with overseas countries regarding adoptions. This is to ensure that all arrangements are conducted according to the required standards and correct processes so that the rights of the child and their family are properly attended to. Although some children who are adopted to a foreign country are orphans or have been abandoned, many have lived with their parents and siblings or their extended family. Some are relinquished because of illness or poverty in the family. Children who need adoptive families generally have complex backgrounds. Some are healthy babies, some have complex backgrounds or special needs, while others have unknown backgrounds. As much information as possible about the child and their unique circumstances will be provided to you by the Adoption and Family Information Service, via the overseas country. At times the information is quite limited, especially if the child has been abandoned. Adopting a child from another country raises additional issues related to the child s cultural dislocation and the need for the adoptive parents to maintain cultural continuity for the child.

4 6 7 OVERSEAS CHILDREN THE ETHICS OF INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION There are many more people wanting to adopt a baby or young child than there are overseas children legally available for adoption. Although there are many children around the world living in institutions and in foster care, most are not legally available for adoption because it has not been established whether they have family or extended families or whether they can be placed into adoptive families in their own country. This is a requirement prior to adoption to a foreign country being considered for any child. It is unethical for a country or state such as South Australia to put pressure on an overseas country to make additional children available for adoption. Receiving countries must not contribute to creating a market that encourages child trafficking. It is therefore very important for adoptions between countries to be well regulated and arranged through approved regulatory bodies. The number of children adopted overseas each year depends on the countries with children needing overseas families for adoption. Many countries do not want to place their children overseas, preferring local adoption where possible and some have made a commitment to reduce the number of children being adopted out of their country by foreign families.

5 8 9 WHAT ARE INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION STANDARDS? It is a very serious step for a child to be transferred from their country of origin and brought up in a foreign country by people of a different race and culture to their own. It is critical therefore that every measure is taken to ensure that such a process for the child is in the child s best interests. Thus intercountry adoption must be regulated by strict principles and practices to ensure that no abduction of, sale of, or trafficking in children occurs. WHAT IS THE HAGUE CONVENTION? Australia has formally committed to international standards in intercountry adoption by becoming a signatory to the Hague Convention on the Protection of Children and Co-operation in respect of Intercountry Adoption. This came into effect in Australia on 1st December This Convention is an international treaty, which developed as a result of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Children, to attend to the particular rights and needs of children who are the subject of an intercountry adoption. The Convention sets out agreed minimum standards and procedures to regulate the adoption of children between countries and to prevent the stealing and selling of children. It guards against children being placed for adoption without the proper consents from the child s parents and to minimise the likelihood of parents being persuaded by payment or other inducements to relinquish their child. The Convention also ensures that every alternative has been explored for the child to remain with their family or extended family where that is possible or to be adopted in their own country.

6 10 11 THE COUNTRIES FROM WHICH SOUTH AUSTRALIANS CAN ADOPT South Australians can adopt locally born children or children from countries that have signed the Convention such as the Philippines, Lithuania, India, Sri Lanka and Thailand. In addition there are a number of countries with whom Australia has a special adoption agreement such as South Korea, Hong Kong, Taiwan, Ethiopia, China and Fiji. These agreements which were made prior to the ratification of the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption have been reviewed to ensure that they are in accordance with the standards of the Convention. The adoption authorities in each of the overseas countries set their own criteria for adoption. These may include the age of the adoptive parents, their martial status or other specific criteria. AFIS will provide more detailed information on the country that you are interested in adopting from and your eligibility for that country at the Stage One Information Session. WHO CAN APPLY TO ADOPT? WHAT ARE THE LEGAL REQUIREMENTS? The Adoption Act 1988 and Adoption Regulations 2004 set out the criteria that applicants must meet in order to be considered. The Act and the Regulations are available on or through the AFIS web site at The minimum requirements are found in Regulation 8 (1-4) as follows: The person is a permanent resident of Australia; The person is an Australian citizen, and in the case of joint applicants, at least one of the applicants is an Australian citizen: A person cannot be registered if that person s previous registration has been cancelled on the grounds that it was improperly obtained; A person cannot be registered if a child has, at any time, been removed from the person s care or custody and become the subject of an order made under the Children s Protection Act 1993, or a similar order; A person cannot be registered if that person (as an adult) has been convicted of an offence involving violence towards a child, abuse of a child or abduction of a child; The applicants must comply with the minimum requirements of the country from which they are expressing an interest in adopting a child;

7 12 13 WHO CAN APPLY TO ADOPT? ASSESSMENT FOR ADOPTION As well as the criteria in Regulation 8, there are also criteria which apply at the time a particular child is considered for placing in a family (Regulation 19). These criteria are as follows: The female applicant must not be pregnant; A child cannot be allocated to or placed with a couple where there is already another child in the family who has been in the family for less than 12 months, or where the family is planning to assume the care of another child in the 12 months following an adopted child joining them; The person must be cohabiting with another person in a marriage relationship; The applicants must have been cohabiting in a marriage relationship for a continuous period of no less than three years. Some children may have special circumstances that justify the placement of that particular child with an applicant who does not meet all of the above criteria. Such placements are not common. An example of such circumstances may be where the applicants are already parenting a sibling of the child. A thorough assessment of people who have applied to adopt is conducted (Regulation 9). This covers the following aspects: Parenting skills or potential parenting skills; Motivation for adoption; Emotional maturity and stability; Physical and mental health; Capacity to deal with stress; Capacity to provide parental care and support for the child to adulthood and beyond if needed; Quality of the couple s relationship; Economic position and financial management skills; Criminal record if any; If infertile, the couple s attitude to their infertility; Attitude to children and to the discipline of children; Attitudes to adoption, to a child s birth parents, to the child s access to information about their origins and in particular an understanding of the child s cultural heritage; Attitude of other people of significance to the family; Any other factors considered to be relevant to the application

8 14 15 PROBLEMS AND POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS PROBLEMS AND POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS SUITABILITY FOR INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION CONSIDER YOUR EXPERIENCES Since intercountry adoption involves such a significant step in a child s life, it is critical that only families who are well suited to parenting a child from another country, race and culture become intercountry adoptive parents. There are enormous challenges in intercountry adoption, including issues such as: Challenging racist attitudes in yourselves, your extended families and friends. You will be creating, by choice, a highly visible multiethnic family that will last throughout your lifetime and for generations to come, Adoption has lifelong implications for all of the parties. Children should never be used to hold a relationship together, to fill a gap in some-one s life, to replace a lost child, or as a social duty. Rather, a child should be loved and wanted unconditionally for his or her own sake; Confronting ongoing racist attitudes in your communities and society in general, and assisting your child to be able to deal with the prejudices and discrimination of others throughout their lives; Parenting a child of unknown medical background, or a background where very little is known. This has inherent issues involving the possibility of genetically transferred mental or physical illness; Overcoming issues arising from the child s possible early experiences of deprivation, institutionalisation or abuse; Assisting the child to be positively disposed towards his or her background and country; Dealing with the issues of positive discrimination, which is also a form of racism, where the child from overseas is sometimes seen as especially interesting or exotic, or an object of curiosity, rather than as a person in their own right. This can be particularly apparent for families who already have a biological child; Learning ways to preserve a sense of racial and cultural identity and pride and preparedness to integrate your child s culture into your lives; Considering the complex issues for an adopted child where there are already biological children in the family; Considering the impact on existing children in the family of the placement of an intercountry adopted child; Acknowledging and respecting the child s difference, while encouraging a sense of belonging; Addressing the considerable losses which the child has experienced; Considering the issues of your own infertility (if applicable). The relationship between an adopted child and his or her adoptive parents can be very challenging for adoptive parents who are sensitive about their own infertility. Research and experience has shown that unresolved feelings around infertility can seriously affect a person s ability to accept and form a healthy relationship and attachment to an adopted child and in acknowledging that the adopted child has a permanent link to another family. It is therefore critical that issues of anger, grief, guilt and sadness have been acknowledged and dealt with and that you are emotionally ready to consider adoption as a way of creating or extending a family.

9 16 17 CONSIDER THE CHILD CONSIDER THE CHILD In many cases your child will grow up in a family of a different ethnic group or race and will become aware of the differences between themselves and those they love most. There are therefore many challenges in parenting a child who has been adopted from another country and you will have to be able to think about how, for example, you will explain to and help a young child understand these differences. An adopted child will need help in feeling comfortable about their family and background since children and young people will closely compare their experiences with others. It is therefore vital to give the child an honest, short and reasonable explanation, in age appropriate language, of why they look different from the rest of their family and the reasons they came to be adopted. There is considerable literature about the difficulties that any teenager faces in deciding who they are and what they want for their future. There is, therefore, the possibility that an adopted teenager may become increasingly curious about their birth parents and background at that time. Whilst each child entering Australia is usually essentially healthy there are always latent health risks. In many intercountry adoptions you will have no knowledge of either the child s or their birth parents social and/or medical backgrounds. Any adopted child can experience: Confusion over their identity and separation from their birth family; A feeling of abandonment or rejection, which they may interpret as a message of being inherently bad or unworthy; A sense of isolation and not belonging and of being different; A sense of grief and loss for their birth family; A sense of belonging to neither Australia nor their country of origin. Being loved and wanted by the adoptive family does not necessarily eliminate these feelings and a child is likely to need acknowledgement and assistance in dealing with them. Children have the right to know who they are and where they have come from. The adopted child will often have the same values, attitudes and expectations as those round them, but will look different to the rest of their family and to many in the broader community. This may be especially relevant when the adopted child is a teenager or when there are other children in the family who are the biological children of the parents.

10 18 19 CONSIDER THE REWARDS WHAT IS THE PROCEDURE? Although this information may appear somewhat confronting and overwhelming it contains some important points to consider before you apply to adopt and is meant to stimulate you into further discussions and research. Some of these difficulties may never arise, but if they do at least you will be partially prepared and perhaps more able to deal effectively with potential problems. Intercountry adoption can have many rewards for all involved, and many families and adopted children have commented about the joys and satisfaction brought to their lives by the adoption process. HOW DOES THE INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION PROGRAM WORK IN SOUTH AUSTRALIA? All adoptions, both local and intercountry, are conducted by AFIS. Because the process is complex and does change on occasions, an attachment entitled Five Stage Process, which outlines the processes on intercountry adoption in detail, is enclosed with this booklet. Further information will be given to you during the process. If you have any questions at any stage of the process, please feel free to discuss these with AFIS staff, via phone, , letter, facsimile or in person. It is also important that you notify AFIS about any changes in your circumstances. Examples that must be notified to AFIS are: if you separate, if your contact or other details or financial situation change, if you have a health crisis or a previous condition re-occurs, if the female applicant becomes pregnant or if any other person (adult or child) comes to live in your family. AFIS staff understands that applicants are all very keen to become parents or parents again as soon as possible. However as each country has its own processes and matching arrangements for finding families it may be years before a child is allocated. It is not appropriate for the Australian authorities to attempt to coerce or influence the decision of the overseas guardians of the child. There is also no guarantee that a child will be placed at any stage, even when your file is in the overseas country. Unfortunately, this can mean that some applicants may never be placed with a child.

11 20 21 PREPARATION FOR ADOPTION PREPARATION FOR ADOPTION Becoming parents or increasing a family is always a very significant life stage. Having a child by adoption requires understanding and preparation for the particular needs of the child and your family. Some people who consider adoption may be resolving grief issues surrounding infertility. Applying to adopt may be their last opportunity to establish a family. You are advised and encouraged to develop your own knowledge about adoption. It is likely that in considering adoption you will encounter an interesting and lively debate and even opposition to the concept of intercountry adoption. In some circumstances people express a preference for either a boy or girl. This could be for a range of reasons and needs to be fully explored. A child will already be named in his or her country of origin. Whilst you may have special names in mind for your child, it is very important that consideration is given to the child retaining his or her name, as this will assist in them preserving their identity and culture. This is of particular importance when a child has been given their name by their birth parents or other significant people in their early life. If you adopt an older child who is used to his or her name, changing it without their involvement could be difficult for the child to understand or manage, as the child s name is integral to who the child is and may represent his or her connection from their past to their future. Names form an important part of the life story and identity of all children. It is important and helpful to discuss your adoption plans with your immediate and extended family, as well as your friends. People s views about adoption vary greatly. Some will embrace your plans and be excited about them, whilst others may say that adoption should not occur these days due to the harms experienced by people affected by adoption in the past, or that children should be supported to remain in their country of birth rather than be adopted.

12 22 23 ARE THERE ANY OTHER SUPPORTS AVAILABLE? Discussion with other adoptive couples or becoming involved with an adoptive parent support group can be helpful. AFIS staff are happy to answer any queries you may have at any stage. It is also important that you do your own research and reading. Local libraries, including the DFC library and the Internet are good starting places. You will be given information during Education courses, which includes details of how to access the DFC library. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER A CHILD ARRIVES? A child who is adopted to an overseas country is likely to feel confused and anxious at this time and the experience of joining a family in a new country may be overwhelming. This may be especially so for an older child. Not only is the child learning about their new family, they have left behind everything they have ever known. The new family may be unable to speak the child s language and often the child is non-verbal, or cannot speak English. The child will therefore often have limited opportunity to express their feelings and needs. It is important that people considering adoption are sensitive to this and flexible enough to allow the child some transition time to settle into their entirely new world. Holidays and other travel are best taken at a later time. Sensitivity with limiting the numbers of family and friends visiting in the first weeks is helpful, although family and friends will be excited by your child s arrival, and keen to meet and welcome them. Taking things at the child s pace helps the child adjust to the new surroundings. Where there are already children in the family, they may feel jealous or left out. Normal sibling rivalry may result which could be complicated by the adoption issues and the visual differences between the children.

13 24 25 WHAT HAPPENS TO PERSONAL INFORMATION? All information supplied in connection with an application for adoption will be treated in the strictest confidence. Information provided for an application to adopt is kept on file at AFIS. This information may be released to the person to whom the information refers, subject to the relevant legislation. An application can be made to the Department for release of the information. The Department also has a complaints process if you have any issues of concern. If at all possible it is best if you can talk to AFIS staff directly about your concerns in the first instance as they may be able to be easily resolved. HOW CAN ADOPTED PEOPLE SEEK OUT THEIR BIRTH FAMILIES? Experience shows that many adopted people wish to reconnect with their country and culture of origin once they become adults. Many also wish to search for and make contact with their birth families. This is true for children who are adopted locally and from overseas countries. Birth parents or other family members from overseas countries may also seek information and/or contact with the child in later years as the child grows up. This is becoming increasingly common. Overseas countries have procedures for post-adoption contact in place where it is possible for this to occur. Some adopted people from overseas who seek out their birth family or reconnect with their culture of origin, may find difficulties in coming to terms with it if they are unable to form a relationship with or communicate with these family members or their culture. For many birth families, especially where the child had been in their care for some time (months or years in some cases) there is longstanding grief and concern for the child. It is important that in choosing to adopt from overseas you are aware of the long term issues for the child and are prepared to assist the child with the challenging aspects of intercountry adoption. This would include supporting the child to travel to his/her country of origin and/or seeking information about their birth family or relatives.

14 26 27 HOW CAN ADOPTED PEOPLE SEEK OUT THEIR BIRTH FAMILIES? AFIS provides a service for all people adopted in South Australia who wish to access information from their adoption file and seek out their birth families. The same service is available to birth parents who seek information about the child or wish to make contact with them in the future. MAKING CONTACT If you would like further information about intercountry adoption please contact AFIS on: Level One 45 Wakefield Street ADELAIDE SA 5000 GPO Box 292 ADELAIDE SA 5001 PH: (08) FAX: (08) adoptions@dfc.sa.gov.au Website: The First Stage Information sessions on intercountry adoption are held monthly.

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