A Celebration of Jesus Victory of Life Over Death

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1 A Celebration of Jesus Victory of Life Over Death St. Anthony Catholic Community 9905 SW McKenzie St. Tigard, Oregon 97223

2 A CELEBRATION OF JESUS VICTORY OF LIFE OVER DEATH ST. ANTHONY CATHOLIC COMMUNITY 9905 SW McKenzie Street Tigard, Oregon Gerlinde Lamer (503) x122 Fr. John s cell (541) jhenderson@satigard.org PLANNING THE FUNERAL SERVICE This preparation form may be used to plan the funeral of someone who has died or it may also be used to plan your own funeral. It should be kept with other important documents where family members can find it. You may want to include your family or friends when you plan your funeral Mass using this form. In a Catholic faith-community, funerals reflect the dying and rising of Christ, and therefore are true celebrations of life that are meant to be hope-filled, as well as comforting for all. You may want to give your church a copy of this form. (When a death occurs in the family, the parish should be contacted before making arrangements with a Funeral Home.) NAME OF PERSON WHO HAS DIED: (OR) MY NAME IS: ADDRESS: PHONE: OBITUARY: (A summary of the most important events/moments in my life) (use another sheet if you would like to write on and attach it)

3 VIGIL FOR THE DECEASED (THE WAKE) Of all the parts of the funeral rites, the vigil (wake) is sometimes the most difficult because it is usually the first time family and friends view the remains of the deceased and confront the fact of death and loss of a loved one. While some would prefer to avoid the vigil because of the pain and grief, this ritual moment can be a catalyst for the grieving process a process fostering psychological and spiritual health. Even when, for some reason, the remains of the deceased are not available for the funeral rites, gathering together for prayer and support before the funeral mass is still advisable. When Catholics gather at the vigil, they show their respect and reverence for the deceased. They recall and share memories of the person who has died. The community comforts the family with love and friendship, the assurance of prayer and the offer of assistance. This vigil may be celebrated in the home of the deceased, in the funeral home or celebrated in the church. INTRODUCTORY RITES (the minister greets those present) OPENING SONG : (see attached sheet for suggestions) INVITATION TO PRAY OPENING PRAYER LITURGY OF THE WORD FIRST READING: (see attached sheet for suggestions) READER S NAME RSPONSE: (see attached sheet for suggestions) READER S NAME GOSPEL: (see attached sheet for suggestions) (The Gospel is read by the priest or deacon if present. If the minister from the Church is present he or she may read the Gospel) HOMILY (a brief homily on the readings is given) PRAYER OF INTERCESSION (the priest leads those present in a litany) THE LORD S PRAYER CONCLUDING PRAYER AND BLESSING

4 ALTERNATIVE FORM The above vigil is one example. It may be celebrated in the form of some part of the Office of the Dead. It consists of a gathering hymn, two Psalms, and a Canticle of Mary-Luke 1:46-55, Intercessions, The Lord s Prayer, Concluding Prayer and Dismissal. Please speak with the priest having your service for other options. A Rosary may be said however many guests attending the Vigil are not Catholic and a more suitable service may be more appropriate. A Rosary can be said at another time by a family members. THE FUNERAL MASS INTRODUCTORY RITES (the priest, with assisting ministers, goes to the door of the church and greets those present) SPRINKLING WITH HOLY WATER (the priest then sprinkles the coffin with holy water) PLACING OF THE PALL: (white covering place over casket, reminding us of our baptism) LIST MEMBERS OF FAMILY YOU WOULD LIKE TO PLACE THE PALL OVER THE CASKET: ENTRANCE PROCESSION (the priest and assisting ministers follow the deceased and the mourners into the church) DURING THE PROCESSION A SONG IS SUNG: (check attached form for suggestions) PLACING OF CHRISTIAN SYMBOLS (symbols important to a person s life may be placed on the casket) The Bible and Cross are always placed on casket. BIBLE and CROSS OTHER: OPENING PRAYER (after a period of silence, the priest says or sings a prayer) LITURGY OF THE WORD (list of readings from OLD and NEW TESTAMENTS as well as the GOSPELS are on the attached sheet. Choose one from the OLD TESTAMENT; one from the NEW TESTAMENT and one GOSPEL passage. If another passage is important to you that is not on the list please feel free to choose that.) OLD TESTAMENT READING WHO WILL READ THIS READING?

5 RESPONSE (choir to sing an appropriate response) NEW TESTAMENT READING WHO WILL READ THIS READING? GOSPEL (the gospel is read by the priest or deacon) HOMILY (the Presider will give a brief homily based on the chosen readings) GENERAL INTERCESSIONS (these are the prayers of the faithful which may be composed or a standard form may be used. The response after each prayer is LORD HEAR OUR PRAYER) I WISH THE STANDARD FORM yes no (I will write my own) WHO WILL READ THE GENERAL INTERCESSIONS MY WRITTEN GENERAL INTERCESSIONS ARE AS FOLLOWS (four or five prayers would be sufficient)

6 LITURGY OF THE ECUHARIST MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY OR FRIENDS TO BRING UP THE GIFTS OF BREAD AND WINE (gifts are found in the center of the church) OFFERTORY SONG (check attached sheet for ideas) COMMUNION SONG (check attached sheet for ideas) FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIEND MAY SPEAK IN REMEMBRANCE AFTER THE PRAY- ER AFTER COMMUNION MEDITATION: (WORDS/POETRY/SONG THAT I LIKE TO HAVE MY LOVED ONES REFLECT UPON) (use another sheet if there is more you would like to write) FINAL COMMENDATION (following the prayer after communion and after any reflections, the priest goes to a place near the casket. The assisting ministers carry the censor and holy water. The priest then invites people present to prayer. A period of silence follows the invitation then the song of farewell is sung. During this song, the coffin is incensed. After the song of farewell, the priest says a prayer and then the procession to the place of committal takes place.) PROCESSION TO THE PLACE OF COMMITTAL SONG DURING PROCESSION: (check attached sheet for ideas)

7 RITE OF COMMITTAL (When the funeral procession arrives at the place of committal, the minister says a prayer of invitation and a scripture verse is read.) PRAYER OVER THE PLACE OF COMMITTAL (The minister says a prayer over the place where the casket will be placed. If the place is not blessed, the priest blesses the place.) COMMITTAL (The minister then says the words of committal.) INTERCESSIONS (The priest or another reader reads the intercessions) READER OF THE INTERCESSIONS: Priest Other If other, who? THE LORD S PRAYER CONCLUDING PRAYER PRAYER OVER THE PEOPLE A SONG MAY CONCLUDE THE RITE. SOME SIGN OR GESTURE OF LEAVE-TAKING MAY BE MADE, FOR EXAMPLE, PLACING A FLOWER ON THE CASKET OR TAPS, IF YOU SERVED IN THE MILITARY. SONG yes no IF YES, WHAT SONG? SIGN OR GESTURE yes no IF YES, WHAT SIGN OR GESTURE? I WISH TO BE CREMATED yes no The Catholic Church does not forbid cremation yet it is important to realize that it is significant to have the body present for the funeral mass. Following the funeral mass, the body of the deceased should then be cremated. Church law does permit, however that the cremated remains can be present for a funeral mass. The cremated remains should always be buried or entombed to provide a recognized place for memorialization of the deceased. Even if cremation is chosen for simplicity, the mourners should not be deprived of an opportunity for prayer. The Catholic Church invites the celebration of the funeral Mass of its deceased members. The funeral Mass is a prayer for God s mercy for the deceased and solace for the living and does not presume a life of exemplary faith or virtue.

8 At certain times the Order of Christian Funerals can be celebrated outside Mass. This happens when the funeral Mass is not permitted for example on solemnities of obligation and during the Easter Triduum. It can also be celebrated outside mass when it is not possible to celebrate the funeral mass, for example, if a priest is not present. FUNERAL DIRECTORS Funeral Directors provide a service to families. The family chooses the funeral director based upon professional standards, long-service to the community, church participation or friendship. It is important for the parish and funeral directors to work together in order to provide the best pastoral care for the bereaved family. THE FUNERAL DIRECTOR I HAVE CHOSEN IS I WISH TO BURIED IN WHICH CEMETERY STIPENDS A stipend is generally offered to the church on the occasion of a funeral. The amount of the stipend is usually between $150 and $200. A typical stipend for a cantor and musician is usually $150 per person. Our priest does not receive a stipend. RECEPTIONS Our gathering space may be used by parish families at no charge for a reception or luncheon following a funeral. MEMORIAL GIFTS Memorial Gifts to St. Anthony might include the following: ST.ANTHONY CHURCH, ST. ANTHONY CEMETERY CARE FUND, ST. ANTHONY SCHOOL ENDOWMENT FUND

9 SONG IDEAS FOR MY SERVICE The sacred and communal nature of our Catholic Funeral Celebrations requires careful planning in the selection of music. This planning will insure the ability of all those gathered to actively participate in the celebration. Because of the sacredness of the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, secular instrumental or vocal music, or the use of recorded music of any kind may not be used. All music listed below comes from the hymnal in our pews, Breaking Bread. There are other choices in Breaking Bread as well. Because the Funeral Liturgy is Communal Prayer, we ask that all music selections come from our Hymnal. Please consult with your our Director here at St. St. Anthony if you have any questions. Opening Song: Amazing Grace Be Not Afraid Blessed Feasts of Blessed Martyrs Christ, Be Our Light City of God 380 For All the Saints Here I Am, Lord I Heard the Voice of Jesus Jerusalem, My Happy Home Love Divine, All Loves Excelling Sing A New Song Sing with All the Saints in Glory The King of Love My Shepherd Is This Day God Gives Me We Walk By Faith We Will Rise Again Ye Watchers and Ye Holy Ones Responsorial Psalm: Psalm 16: You are my inheritance, O Lord Psalm 23: Shepherd Me, O God Psalm 23: The Lord Is My Shepherd / I Shall Live in the House of the Lord Psalm 25: To You, O Lord, I Lift My Soul Psalm 27: The Lord is My Light Psalm 42: As the Deer Longs Psalm 91: Be with Me, Lord Psalm 63: My Soul Is Thirsting For You Psalm 103: The Lord is Kind and Merciful Psalm 116: I Will Take the Cup of Life Psalm 116: In the Land of the Living Psalm 122: Let Us Go Rejoicing Psalm 130: Out of the Depths, I Cry to You Psalm 130: With the Lord, There Is Mercy Psalm 147: Bless the Lord, My Soul Preparation of the Gifts: Amazing Grace Fly Like A Bird Be Still, My Soul Hail Mary, Gentle Woman Center of My Life Here I Am, Lord Christ, Be Our Light Hosea How Can I Keep From Singing Pescador de Hombres /Lord, You Have Come I Know That My Redeemer Lives Prayer of St. Francis I, the Lord Precious Lord, Take My Hand In Every Age Softly and Tenderly Jesus is Calling Like A Child Rests The King of Love My Shepherd Is Lord of All Hopefulness There Is A Longing

10 O Breathe on Me, O Breath of God O Loving God / Celtic Song of Farewell On Eagle s Wings Only A Shadow We Will Rise Again You Are Mine You Are Near Communion: Be Not Afraid Pescador de Hombres /Lord, You Have Come Center of My Life Salve, Regina Christ, Be Our Light The King of Love My Shepherd Is Fly Like A Bird There Is A Longing Gift of Finest Wheat To Be Your Bread Here I Am, Lord Turn to Me I Am the Bread of Life Unless A Grain of Wheat I Heard the Voice of Jesus We Will Rise Again I, the Lord Whatsoever You Do Now We Remain You Are Near On Eagle s Wings Sending Forth: Amazing Grace Be Not Afraid Blessed Feasts of Blessed Martyrs Blest Be the Lord Christ, Be Our Light City of God For All the Saints Holy God, We Praise Thy Name How Great Thou Art I Know That My Redeemer Lives In Paradisum Jerusalem, My Happy Home Let There Be Peace on Earth Love Divine, All Loves Excelling Shall We Gather At the River Sing with All the Saints in Glory Soon & Very Soon We Walk By Faith Ye Watchers and Ye Holy Ones Prelude/Reflection/Communion Meditation: Ave Maria (Schubert) Be With Me (Wessel) Give Me Jesus (Ortega) Panis Angelicus (Frank) Pie Jesu (Fauré) Take Me Home (Haas)

11 SCRIPTURE READINGS For WAKE AND FUNERAL LITURGIES The scripture readings listed here are those provided in the Order of Christian Funerals. The single line with each reading is intended to summarize one thought from each reading. Rather than depend on these summary lines, it would be best to read fully each suggested text. The single line with the Responsorial Psalm is what the community repeats after each verse of the Psalm. Remember that the Psalm can also be sung. See the reading in our website Old Testament Readings Job 19 1:23-27a I know that my Redeemer lives. Wisdom 3:1-9 He accepted them as a holocaust. Wisdom 4:7-15 A blameless life is a ripe old age. Isaiah 25:6-9 The Lord God will destroy death forever. Lamentations 3:17-26 It is good to wait in silence for the Lord God to save. Daniel 12:1-3 Of those who lie sleeping in the dust of the earth many will awake. Second Maccabees 12:43-46 It is good and holy to think of the dead rising again. Responsorial Psalms Psalm 23 The Lord is my shepherd; there is nothing I shall want Psalm 25 To you, O Lord, I lift my soul Psalm 27 The Lord is my light and my salvation Psalm 42/43 My soul is thirsting for the Living God: when shall I see him face to face? Psalm 63 My soul is thirsting for you, O Lord my God Psalm 103 The Lord is kind and merciful Psalm 116 I will walk in the presence of the Lord in the land of the living Psalm 122 I rejoiced when I heard them say: let us go to the house of the Lord Psalm 130 Out of the depths, I cry to you, Lord Psalm 143 O Lord, hear my prayer New Testament Readings ACTS of the Apostles 10:34-43 God has appointed Jesus to judge everyone, alive and dead. Romans 5:5-11 Having been justified by his blood, we will be saved from God s anger. 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 We shall stay with the Lord forever.. 2 Timothy 2:8-13 If we have died with him, we shall live with him. 1 John 3:1-2 We shall see God as he really is. 1 John 3:14-16 We have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers and sisters. Revelation 14:13 Happy are those who die in the Lord. Revelation 20:11-21:1 The dead have been judged according to their works.

12 Revelation 21:1-5 There will be no more death. Romans 5:17-21 When sin increased, there grace abounded all the more. Romans 6:3-9 Let us walk in newness of life. Romans 8:14-23 We groan while we wait for the Redemption of our bodies. Romans 8:31b-35, Who can ever come between us and the love of Christ? Romans 14:7-12 Whether alive or dead, we belong to the Lord. 1 Corinthians 15:20-28 All people will be brought to life in Christ. 1 Corinthians 15:51-57 Death is swallowed up in victory. 2 Corinthians 4:14-5:1 What is seen is transitory; what is unseen is eternal. 2 Corinthians 5:1, 6-10 We have an everlasting home in heaven. Philippians 3:20-21 Jesus will transfigure these wretched bodies of ours to be like his glorious body. Gospel Readings Matthew 5:1-12a Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven. Matthew 11:25-30 Come to me and I will give you rest. Matthew 25:1-13 Look, the bridegroom comes. Go out to meet him. Matthew 25:31-46 Come, you whom my Father has blessed. Mark 15:33-39, 16:1-6 Jesus gave a loud cry and breathed his last. Luke 7:11-17 Young man, I say to you arise Luke 12:35-40 Be prepared. Luke 23:33, Today you will be with me in paradise. Luke 23:44-46, 50, 52-53, 24:1-6a Father, I put my life in your hands. Luke 24:13-35 Was it not necessary that the Christ should suffer and so enter into his glory? John 5:24-29 Whoever hears my word and believes, has passed from death to life. John 6:37-40 All who believe in the Son will have eternal life and I will raise them to life again on the last day. John 6: All who eat of this bread will live forever; and I will raise them up on the last day. John 11:17-27 I am the resurrection and the life. John 11:32-45 Lazarus, come out. John 12:23-28 If a grain of wheat falls on the ground and dies, it yields a rich harvest. John 14:1-6 There are many rooms in my Father s house. John 17: Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am. John 19:17-18, Jesus bowed his head and gave up his spirit.

13 St. Anthony Catholic Cemetery Our parish cemetery is located at SW 115th and Gaarde Street, about two miles from the church. The cemetery was established in 1890 and, with the recent addition of 1.5 acres, is expected to be able to continue active operation for at least an additional 100 years. A permanent care fund has been established to maintain the cemetery when it ceases to have additional space for new burials. Internment spaces are available for both traditional, full body burial and cremated remains. The cremated remains interment can be in a wall niche, niches in the Station of the Cross Garden or earthen burial. Families are encouraged to select plots or niches in advance of their need. These may be purchased and reserved in advance. The pre-selection helps to assure that the wishes of the deceased can be carried out and reduces the stress on the family members at the time of a loss. This is especially true if the loss of a loved one occurs during the wet, cold stormy seasons. Most families choose grave markers that are flat and at grass level. However, monuments and other above ground markers are permitted in one section of the cemetery. The cemetery is open each day and you are invited at your convenience to view the site or offer a prayer for a deceased family member. Gates are open from 8:00AM until dusk in the winter and 8:00AM until 8:00PM during the summer. To select a plot, niche or grave marker, call St. Anthony Parish Office at or our cemetery director - Jim Haberski at to arrange an appointment to visit the cemetery and make your selection.

14 Preparing Children for Funerals Often people want to protect children from the harsh reality of death. Yet, the child is part of the family for whom death causes a major change in their lives. So children should be drawn into the discussions regarding the death and funeral planning. Adults often resist allowing children into this conversation because adults fear not being able to answer children s questions. But experts recommend this involvement to help both adults and children with their grieving. Communication about death is easier when a child feels that he or she has our permission to talk about a subject that is often not talked about, especially with children. We must deal with the inescapable fact of death, and so must our children. If we wish to help them, we must let them know that it is okay to talk about it. In fact, any discussion with the children will also aid adults in their own grief process. Death should be explained to a child as simply and directly as possible by someone very close. But even more importantly it is necessary to listen to the child and to consider the child s feelings about this particular death or about death in general. Adults need to realize that the child s understanding of death always depends upon his or her age, maturity and intelligence. Younger children from ages three to five usually know very little, if anything about death. But since they are curious, they can have many questions that should be answered as simply and directly and truthfully as possible, especially without suggesting that death is reversible or has not really happened. Children from ages five to nine have begun to understand that death is final, and their questions can often be harder to answer. But again, direct and truthful answers will help them confront reality of death and cope with their own grief. Older children, ten through teenage years, might recognize death s inevitability and also realize it could happen to them. Anger and guilt feelings can also occur in relation to death, especially one within their family, friends or peer group. It is important to communicate that they are in no way responsible for the death.

15 When a death occurs, the children should be given the news in a way that gives them time to ask questions and includes them in the emotional experience of the whole family. They are an important part of the family and should be included when the family celebrates and grieves together. Whether or not a particular child should be included in the funeral depends upon the child and the situation. If he or she is asking questions about death, then they are probably old enough to be present at all the events of the wake and funeral. If the child is old enough to understand and wants to participate, being included may help accept the reality of death and offer a way to express grief in the company of family and friends. If a child prefers not to attend the funeral, it is not wise for the child to be coerced or made to feel guilty. If a child is to attend a funeral, preparation should be given beforehand about what will be seen and heard before, during and after the service. The child should be aware that on such a sad occasion people will be expressing their sorrow in various ways and some will be crying. If children need more assistance in answering their questions, funeral directors and churches often have resources that can be used to help children understand and cope with their experience of death.

16 Psalm 23 1 The LORD is my shepherd, I lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name s sake. 4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley, [a] I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.