Foreword by Ken Wilber... xvii A Note to the Reader... xix Preface... xxi Introduction... xxv. Chapter 1 The Great Invitation of Your Life 3

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1 Foreword by Ken Wilber xvii A Note to the Reader xix Preface xxi Introduction xxv PART ONE Chapter 1 The Great Invitation of Your Life 3 Chapter 2 The New Enlightenment of Unique Self 7 Being God s Verb God Is Having a Marc Experience The God of Unique Self Chapter 3 Two Visions of Enlightenment and Their Higher Integration in Unique Self 15 Two Images of Light The Biology of Unique Self The Democratization of Enlightenment Answering the Call Enlightenment Is Sanity Unique Self Is Not a Concept Enlightenment Is Not Impersonal The Personal Face of Essence vii

2 Chapter 4 Eight Stations on the Road to Unique Self 31 Station 1: Pre-personal Self Station 2: Separate Self: Level One Personal Station 3: False Self Station 4: True Self Classical Enlightenment Station 5: Unique Self The New Enlightenment: Level Two Personal Station 6: Unique Shadow Station 7: Your Unique Gift Station 8: Unique Vow, Unique Obligation Three Clarifying Notes on the Eight Stations A Short Recapitulation of Unique Self Doctrine Chapter 5 The Evolutionary Integration of Eastern and Western Enlightenment: The Essential Discernment between Separateness and Uniqueness 55 The Insight and Mistake of the East The Insight and Mistake of the West Are You Special? The Distinction Between Separateness and Uniqueness Nothing Exists A-Part or A-Lone The Evolution of Buddhism and Christianity: Unique Self, Sex, and Suffering Unique Face and Original Face Your Unique Letter and The Truman Show Chapter 6 Ego and Unique Self 71 Twenty-Five Distinctions between Ego and Unique Self.... Special or Not Special Action or Reaction Imitation or Originality Satisfaction or Greed Enough or More Ego Story or Unique Self Story Joy or Fear viii

3 Open Heart or Closed Heart Eros or Grasping Authentic Freedom or Pseudofreedom King or Servant Victim or Player Betrayal or Loyalty Authentic Friendship or Pseudofriendship Bigger or Smaller Yes or No Justice or Injustice Responsibility or Excuse Paradox or Splitting Past or Present Special Relationship or Open as Love Love or Fear Eternity or Death Pleasure: Delusion or Divine Ego Story or Unique Self Story Reloaded Ego Points to Unique Self Chapter 7 Personal and Impersonal 89 Recognizing the Place of Ego The Impersonal Appears as Personal Choice Sex and Love Relationships Shadows of the Personal and Impersonal Shadows of the Personal Shadows of the Impersonal The Unfolding Dance of Alignment Personal and Impersonal Sex Personal and Impersonal Love Intimate Communion Teacher and Student Unique Self Is a Quality of Presence ix

4 PART two Chapter 8 Unique Self and Evolutionary Spirituality 113 Two Tastes The First Taste The Second Taste The Evolutionary Context of Unique Self: Nothing to Something The Sexual Context Evolution Is the Mechanism of the Mystery Being, Becoming, and Unique Self Your Evolutionary Yes Evolution: Personal and Impersonal Chapter 9 Evolutionary Spirituality Reloaded 127 The Whole Is in the Part That Which Is Above Depends on You: The Whole Needs the Part God Needs Your Service Chapter 10 True Self and Unique Self, Parts and Wholes Reloaded 135 Right Relationship between Part and Whole Love, Fear, and the Evolution of God: The Whole Is Evolved by the Part Conflict Ethics, Values, and Extremism Individual or Community, Autonomy or Communion.... The Part Needs the Whole The Puzzle-Piece Teachings Chapter 11 Eros and Unique Self: The Eros of Living Your Story 151 The Four Faces of Eros The First Face of Eros: On the Inside The Second Face of Eros: Full Presence x

5 The Third Face of Eros: Longing and Desire The Fourth Face of Eros: Wholeness and Unique Self... Eros, Death, and Unique Self Eros and Pseudo-Eros PART THREE Chapter 12 The Story of Story: Only Half the Story 171 The His-story of Story Expand Your Story The Grace of the Story The Loss of Memory The Great Story of Evolution and the Democratization of Enlightenment The Shift Not All Stories Are Equal Five Movements against Story The Denial of the Story Is a Primary Source of Evil..... Chapter 13 Sacred Autobiography 185 Mispar Our Clarion Call Unique Self Story Appreciating Each Other s Purple Trees Don Juan Meets Dovid of Lilov Recovering Your Story The Lost Thread Wrong Turns and Leaking Buckets Chapter 14 Unique Self and Loneliness 199 Exile Levado A Family Myth I Share with My Son xi

6 PART FOUR Chapter 15 Love and Unique Self 207 Love Is a Verb Love Is a Perception-Identification Complex Love, Being, and Becoming The Perception of Love Creates a New Reality Liquid Love To See the Future in the Now The Secret Is in the Eyes Self-Love The Three Faces Self-Love Is Not Narcissism Chapter 16 Joy and Unique Self 221 The Joy of Depth From Daimon Comes Eudaimonia A Paradigm Shift in Understanding Joy Choosing Joy Chapter 17 Shadow Integration and Unique Self 227 Greater Is the Light That Comes from the Darkness..... Lost in the Darkness Greater Is Wisdom Than Folly The Shattering of the Vessels Befriend Your Darkness The Teachings of the Blood Walking in the Dark From Demon to Daemon Unique Self and Unique Shadow Chapter 18 The Ten Principles of Unique Self Shadow Work Shadow is your Unique Self distortion Your story includes both your True Self and Unique Self Any part of your story that you do not live, lives in darkness xii

7 4. When unique light is trapped in shadow, it does not remain static When unlived life stagnates and devolves, it reemerges as shadow qualities Unlived Passion Taking Anger into Account of Shadow You feel the full depth of the goodness and aliveness of your life only when you are fully living your full story Shadow is a lie about your Unique Self. Shadow is a lie about your essential identity Shadow integration does not mean to integrate shadow qualities. Shadow integration does mean to reclaim your unlived life that is in darkness Joy is your life energy. Joy is a by-product of Unique Self living The technology for shadow integration is love. Shadow integration effects a transformation of identity. Love is the evolutionary force that transmutes shadow to light.... Heart of Darkness Chapter 19 Shadow and Unique Self Reloaded: The Alchemy of Love 263 Shadow and the Eight Tenets of Love Love is a perception Love allows for shadow to be held in the larger context of your enlightened Unique Self Being loved is being seen In the safety of being seen and held in love, you can engage your shadow without the need to hide, deny, or project it It is the divine feminine, in self or other, that holds you in the gaze of love and catalyzes your transformation Holding Heart Meditation xiii

8 6. Without the loving gaze of the divine feminine, the pain of your shadow would be impossible to hold in your first person The Gentleman The Beadle s Wife To Not Grow Up Shadow and shadow qualities are both personal Love gives you hints that show you how to follow Unique Shadow back to Unique Self On Envy s Poison Transformation of Identity The Only Possible Path PART FIVE Chapter 20 Sex and Unique Self Vital Sexing Separate-Self Sexing Separate-Self Sexing A Deeper Look Empty Wisdom Pleasure Sexing True Self Sexing: Impersonal Unique Self Sexing: Personal Tikkun Sexing or Bodhisattva Sexing Chapter 21 The Seven Laws of Unique Self Encounters In every Unique Self encounter, each person holds a piece of the other s story, which must be returned to the other in order for both to be complete To have a Unique Self encounter, you have to make authentic contact in the present The Pain Trance Staying in the Present To Walk in the Wide Places Staying in the Symptoms xiv

9 3. Labels obstruct contact You never know Unique Self encounters create evolutionary We Space To engage in a Unique Self encounter, you must stay open as love through the pain Unique Self encounters require not only integrity but evolutionary integrity PART SIX Chapter 22 Parenting and Unique Self 329 The Job of Parents Letting Alone Like Soil for the Soul Can I Make My Children Happy? Early Voices Tradition? Tradition! Chapter 23 Malice: The Denial of the Unique Self Encounter 337 Malice Is Painfully Private, Publicly Dangerous The Murder of Christ The Evil Eye Chapter 24 Death and Unique Self 347 Response One: Pre-personal Response Two: Personal Response Three: Transpersonal Chapter 25 Say Yes 357 Epilogue: Unique Self, World Spirituality and Evolutionary We Space Afterword by Ken Wilber Appendix I Evolutionary Love 403 Three Core Perspectives On the Nature of Evolutionary Love xv

10 Evolution in Second- and First-Person Perspectives..... Cellular Love in Human Beings Appendix II Core Recapitulation and Unique Self 419 Appendix III Unique Self and Wounded Self 421 Evolutionary We Space The Wounds of Love or the Idolatry of Hurt Lying About Your Hurt to Support Your Ego Facing Through the Fear of Death God Is More Than Physical, Not Less Than Physical; More Than Personal, Not Less Than Personal It All Depends on You Personally Acknowledgments Integral Afternote Notes Index About the Author xvi