Webcast 33 Goals. Toolbox Strategies. Monica G. Osgood Step 4 : Webcast 33

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1 Based on the work of Stanley Greenspan, PhD & Serena Wieder, PhD Pretend Play with Adolescents and Young Adults Monica G. Osgood Step 4 : Webcast 33 Webcast 33 Goals Discover that your child is never too old to play! Explore using your child s passions as themes to frame your play Learn ways to incorporate semi-structured interactions for your child who may have motor and communication challenges. Learn to use pretend play as a way for your older child to experience different social interactions and emotions Experience growth in your child s flexibility and thinking as you nurture his ideas through pretend play Practice breaking out of scripts and accepting other s ideas in play Toolbox Strategies Set the Stage Be Present and Flexible Emotional Expression Tailor to Individual Differences Enhance Non- Verbal Communication Extend Circles Encourage Problem Solving Nurture Ideas 1

2 Welcome! In the last webcast you learned how to help your child build a symbolic world in which to explore his own ideas through the magic of pretend play! Now we will take a look at some adolescents and young adults who still need play in order to... Welcome! Develop the ability to think and move in meaningful interactions Understand that they can be intentional and powerful in play Expand their ability to problem solving, expand ideas and use new ideas Become more flexible in play and work through their emotions Broaden their understanding of social themes decreasing rule-based thinking (black and white thinking) Meanings All the Meanings from Webcasts 31 & 32 in your workbook also apply to this Webcast Rule-based thinking (black and white thinking): A person s inability to see variations in an idea or something has to happen the same way every time. Rule-based thinkers have difficulty seeing the gray such as there may be some good and some bad qualities about something or someone or that things can be done in a variety of ways 2

3 Questions to consider... Is my child s play environment set up for pretend play? Would semi structured interactions be helpful? Does my child need help getting the play started? If so, what passions can I use to frame our play? Do I need to demonstrate what to do or even physically support my child to help him join? Are we playful? Am I following my child s idea? Questions to consider Am I able to stay calm and playful if my child gets upset? How do I help my child stay regulated through our play? Am I asking too many questions? Is my pacing and use of pauses allowing my child to join and contribute to the play? Am I able to help my child expand on her ideas and accept my ideas in play? Idea 1 Help your child become a Player Even if he/she has motor challenges! 3

4 Strategies Presume competence and believe that your child can enjoy play Use your child s interests and passions to create a story for your play If your child has difficulty acting on his/her intent, use drama, demonstrate what to do and even physical support as needed to help him follow through Be silly, do the unexpected, have fun and persist! Pause and Reflect (Video 1: Jimmy the Pirate) How did the idea of presume competence and use of Jimmy s passions influence our play theme? Which strategies helped Jimmy join the interaction and feel success? Playfulness? Persisting? Emotional expression? Motor support? Idea 2 Use Play to Expand Thinking 4

5 Strategies Use pretend play to build your child s ideas Use familiar scripts as a frame for play that entices your child to join Embrace a pretend role and stay in character (voice, actions, emotional expression)! Create simple problems in play that require your child to think differently-break the Script! Strategies Ask questions and present problems that don t have one right answer Celebrate and act on his new ideas The best ideas are the ones you didn t see coming! Pause and Reflect (Video 2: Eric behavior)/ (Video 3: Eric and Abby 5) Why was this play important? How did using a familiar script help Eric engage? Which strategies helped support Eric s generation of new ideas?: Embracing a role and staying character? Using drama? Inserting simple problems? Responding to his ideas? Were there any surprises? 5

6 Idea 3 Use play to help your child cope with anxiety Strategies Use strategies tailored to your child s individual profile to keep him regulated when being challenged in play When calm and regulated your child is ready to explore his emotions and challenges If regulated you can be playful, dramatic, emotional, creative and don t take No for an answer Use your relationship to keep the play going Pause and Reflect (Video 4:New Jersey is hell)/(video 5: Danny Fish 5) Which strategies allowed Danny to share his ideas and creativity? Tailor to individual differences? Relationship? Did Danny feel safe enough with me in our relationship for me to tease out his challenge? 6

7 Pause and Reflect (Video 4:New Jersey is hell)/(video 5: Danny Fish 5) What was Danny s challenge that came out in the play? Control/Inflexibility? Anxiety? How did I pick up on this theme and seize the opportunity to challenge it? What other strategies were helpful? Playfulness? Drama? Emotional expression? Nurture ideas? - Be creative! Idea 4 Use play to expand your child s understanding of social rules Strategies Keep the play meaningful and motivating Be accepting of adolescent behavior Use interactions to make social rules real Sequence ideas Connect thoughts to make sense of the situation 7

8 Pause and Reflect (Video 6: Boobies and Wine) What would have happened if Crystal wasn t accepting of Justin s adolescent behavior? How did Crystal help Justin keep the play meaningful and motivating? Did Justin seem invested in the play theme? What strategies did Crystal use to make social rules real? Sequence ideas? Connect thoughts? Emotional Expression? How did their relationship support the interaction?...to try pretend play with your (older) child! Questions to consider... Is my child s play environment set up for pretend play? Would semi structured interactions be helpful? Does my child need help getting the play started? If so, what passions can I use to frame our play? Do I need to demonstrate what to do or even physically support my child to help him join? Are we playful? Am I following my child s idea? 8

9 Questions to consider... Am I able to stay calm and playful if my child gets upset? How do I help my child stay regulated through our play? Am I asking too many questions? Is my pacing and use of pauses allowing my child to join and contribute to the play? Am I able to help my child expand on her ideas and accept my ideas in play? When It s Not Working... Am I using a play theme that my child understands? Does my child need more support to participate? What type? Am I using play ideas that my child has experience with? Am I thinking about my child s individual profile in our play? Am I demonstrating what to do and using a pace that allows my child to be successful? Am I being respectful and age appropriate in our play- Presuming competence Am I accepting of my child s ideas and interests (adolescent themes) Take-Away Strategies Presume competence Use passions to frame your play Keep regulated Use drama, demonstrate what to do, use physical support as needed Be playful, silly and persist! Stay in character Create simple problems Ask questions you don t know the answer to Celebrate all ideas! Use your relationship Be accepting of adolescent behavior Use interactions to make social rules real Sequence ideas Connect thoughts to make sense of the situation 9

10 Profectum Parent Toolbox We are grateful to all those who have supported this series. Our thanks to... This webcast series is based on the work of Stanley Greenspan, MD and Serena Wieder, PhD This series has been made possible by a Grant from the John and Marcia Goldman Foundation Celebrate the Children School and Exceptional Minds Studio for their contributions to this series Profectum faculty and staff Each and every family who allowed us to enter their lives, join their journey and videotape their progress and who then went the extra mile to allow us to share these moments with you 10