Student-To-Student Ambassador Induction December 15, 2011
Quick Quiz Test Your Knowledge Facts & Myths About Bullying
Bullying Defined Bullying behavior is a single or repeated negative act (passive or aggressive) that is intentional and involves a real or perceived imbalance of power or strength.
Bullying Defined Bullying behavior includes: Physical Verbal/Written Emotional
Bullying Defined Physical Hitting, kicking, spitting, pushing Stealing and/or damaging personal belongings Sexual acts Invasion of one s personal space in an aggressive manner
Bullying Defined Verbal Name-calling, malicious teasing Making threats Taunting Sexual remarks Phone and internet bullying
Bullying Defined Emotional Spreading rumors Manipulating social relationships or environments Social exclusion Extortion, ridiculing, and intimidating
Key Elements of Bullying Bullying will always include these 3 elements: 1. Imbalance of power 2. Intent to harm 3. Threat of further aggression The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander,. Coloroso, B. (2003)
Key Elements of Bullying Imbalance of Power Bullies can be older, bigger, stronger, more verbally adept, higher up on the social ladder, a different race or of the opposite sex, all of which can create an imbalance of power. The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, Coloroso, B. (2003)
Key Elements of Bullying Intent to Harm Bullies intend to inflict emotional and/or physical pain, expects the action to hurt, and takes pleasure in witnessing the hurt. The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, Coloroso, B. (2003)
Key Elements of Bullying Threat of Further Aggression The bully and the bullied know that the bullying can and probably will occur again. This is not meant to be a one time event. The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, by B. Coloroso, 2003
Conflict vs. Bullying Conflict-is a disagreement that happens when people want different things. The people involved have equal power. Bullying-is unfair and one-sided. It happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose.
1. Clever Bully 3 Types of Bullies Maybe popular with peers & teachers Do well academically Have large network of friends Very confident Lack empathy for others Arrogant and/or ignorant Bullying behavior decreases with age and maturity Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
3 Types of Bullies 2. Not-So-Clever Bully Intimidating & frightening to peers Engages in inappropriate behaviors Peer group established out of fear Generally mean-minded Directs anger at people that are weak Lacks self-esteem & confidence; makes others feel inferior to make themselves appear powerful Fails to mature and change behavior; peer group typically leaves them behind Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
3 Types of Bullies 3. Bully Victim Bully in some situations, but victim in others Tends to bully younger & smaller students Bullied by peers and older students Hard for adults to empathize with them because they tend to bully younger students in the same way that they are treated Attempting to gain social power Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
Gender Statistics Boys are more likely than girls to bully others. Verbal bullying is the most frequent form of bullying by both boys and girls. Boys are more likely to engage in physical bullying. Girls are more likely to engage in emotional bullying. Girls indicate social manipulation to be as hurtful as physical bullying. Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
Bullying in Secondary Schools Bullying behavior begins in elementary school, peaks in middle school, and steadily decreases in high school. Bullying tends to be the worst during 9 th grade in a high school setting. As children get older, physical bullying decreases and verbal and emotional bullying increase. Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
At-Risk for Being Bullied 1. Girls seen by their peers as exceptionally attractive. 2. Girls regarded by their peers as unattractive. 3. Males whose behavior does not fit gender-based norms or expectations. Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
At-Risk for Being Bullied 4. New students 5. Students who have few friends or no observable peer group or support 6. Are unassertive Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).
Making a Difference The school needs students who are willing to take a leadership role, knowing that if they take a stand against bullying and violence, others might follow.
Making a Difference Steps to Respect Recognize Bullying Refuse Bullying Report Bullying
Making a Difference Simple Ethical Principle To do the right thing on behalf of a targeted peer, regardless of the actions of other bystanders. The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, by B. Coloroso, 2003
Making a Difference You Can: 1. Refuse to be a part of the bullying. 2. Support the target privately. 3. Talk to the bully publically or privately if he/she is a friend. 4. Intervene directly. 5. Report the bullying behavior to an adult.
Changing a Culture Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. -Margaret Mead
Changing a Culture You must be the change you want to see in the world. -Mahatma Gandhi
Changing a Culture Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Resources The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, by B. Coloroso, 2003 Bullying in Secondary Schools: What it looks like and how to manage it. Sullivan, K., Cleary, M., & Sullivan, G. (2004).