Since 1848 SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE INSTRUCTIONS

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1 Since 1848 SS. PETER & PAUL JESUIT 438 St. Antoine Street Detroit, Michigan SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE INSTRUCTIONS Welcome to historic Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit, Detroit s oldest church building and first Cathedral in downtown Detroit. Thank you for selecting us as the site for your wedding. Preparing for your marriage is about more than cake, flowers and dresses. It is about taking time to reflect upon and celebrate the great gift of love you have found in one another. We know that it is an important sacrament for you both. It is our goal to help you to prepare not only for the ceremony but for a long and happy marriage together. To celebrate the Sacrament of Marriage: Only Catholic marriages will be celebrated at Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit. One of the engaged couple must be a baptized, practicing Roman Catholic in the Latin Rite, and currently registered in a parish. A Catholic ceremony requires six months for marriage preparation. Therefore, wedding dates cannot be established less than six months ahead. Notify your pastor that you wish to be married at Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit. Not all pastors will give consent to be married outside your own parish. If your pastor does not provide consent you will not be able to complete the sacrament of marriage at Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit. If your pastor agrees for you to be married here, he must fill out and return our permission form letter (included in this packet). If both parties are Catholic in the Latin Rite, only one permission letter is needed. Review the instructions and complete the attached package which includes the following: Use of Church Contract for Sacrament of Marriage (pages 3-4) Marriage Application (page 5) Pastor s Permission Letter (page 6) After you have initialed each page, filled in the necessary information and signed where applicable, please return the required information to our office in order to establish a marriage file. Once we receive the completed forms, your pastor s permission letter and your deposit, we will contact you to secure your wedding date. The total fee for a non-parishioner wedding is $1,750. A non-refundable deposit of $550 is necessary to set a date, with $600 due 90 days before the wedding and the remaining $600 balance due two weeks prior to your wedding day. It can be mailed in with the forms or sent electronically on our website. Fifty-percent, or $875, is tax deductible as a donation to Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit. Please note: We will try to accommodate your plans for a specific date. However, dates are given on a first come first served basis and must take Liturgical dates into consideration. Please notify the office if there are any questions. Blessings, Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Marriage Information - Revised 8/28/2014 page 1 of 6 /

2 Ss. PETER & PAUL JESUIT MARRIAGE CHECK LIST: This check list is to provide you with items that need to be completed before your ceremony. 6 Months Prior Secure Wedding Day Provide Ss Peter and Paul Jesuit the following Use of Church Contract for Sacrament of Marriage; Friday 5pm or Saturday 1pm, 3pm, 5pm or Sunday 1pm, 3pm, 5pm Marriage Application; Pastor s Permission Letter; and Deposit of $ Secure Rehearsal date with Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit Thursday 6pm, 7pm or Friday 6pm, 7pm Secure Parking UDM School of Law Student Parking Lot please complete the event request form found at: Additional Paperwork Required Current original baptismal certificates (must be dated within 6 months of ceremony); and Marriage Preparation Information; 4 Months Prior Additional Considerations Archdiocese Form (A-Form); Dispensation from the Archdiocese (for Mixed Religion Marriages and/or for Out of State Marriages) Letter of Delegation for Priest not assigned to Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit Letter of Good Standing for Priest outside of the Archdiocese of Detroit 3 Months Prior Payment of $600 Liturgy Planning Meeting You MUST contact our office to schedule this meeting. Wednesdays anytime from 2:00 pm to 4:00 pm; or Saturdays at 3:30 pm; or Sundays at noon. 2 Months Prior Music Contact wedding musician at least 6 weeks before your wedding to review music choices. 2 Weeks Prior Payment of $600 Readings and Additional People Involved in Ceremony First Reading and name of reader, Second Reading and name of reader; and Prayers of the Faithful and name of reader 2 people to bring up the gifts for communion and names of people (for Full Mass Only) Marriage License - Get your marriage license from your County Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Marriage Information - Revised 8/28/2014 page 2 of 6 /

3 Ss. PETER & PAUL JESUIT USE OF CHURCH CONTRACT FOR SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE Fees The fee is $1,750. The fee includes the use of the church, a coordinator for the day of the rehearsal and the day of your marriage, use of a bridal room for one hour before the ceremony, and our parish musician. Marriage preparation is also included in the fee, if needed. The deposit of $550 is non-refundable if the couple cancels the marriage, for any reason. The remaining balance is paid in two installments; $600 ninety days before the wedding and $600 two weeks prior to the wedding day. To avoid a fee, couples need to be registered, active parishioners of Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit for at least two years prior to the wedding date. If Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit cancels the wedding, any deposit received will be refunded. Preparation You and your pastor must decide how to handle your marriage preparation: either in your own parish or through our program. A six-month period of marriage preparation is required. Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit requirements include completing a pre-marriage inventory through Prepare-Enrich and meeting with a marriage counselor couple. Presider If you would like us to provide you with a priest, please contact the office for availability. If non-parishioners bring their own celebrant for their marriage; our fee is not reduced. Non-Catholic clergy are permitted to assist in marriages in accordance with the laws and practices of the Roman Catholic Church, (as permitted by the priest). Liturgy A liturgy meeting is helpful in planning the readings and prayers that will be used for your ceremony. Call the office to schedule. Music Our musician is included in the fee. Call the office six to eight weeks before the marriage to make arrangements. If you choose to use your own musician(s) or singer(s); our fee is not reduced. An additional packet of information is available on our website for download. Candles Unity candles are permitted. This traditional practice is not part of the Catholic Rite of Marriage, however we do allow them. Photo/Video Photographers/Videographers are not permitted to be on the sanctuary platform during the liturgy. Only available light may be used during the liturgy, no flash photography. Additional lighting may be used for photographs before or after the liturgy. Photographers will have 45 minutes for picture posing and taking. This includes time for equipment setup. If a marriage liturgy doesn t begin on time, picture taking time will be reduced. This is especially important for Saturday marriages celebrated prior to the regularly scheduled Mass. The choir loft is available for use and is recommended. Intrusive behavior by photographers and videographers will not be permitted. Parking Rehearsal If you would like to reserve the University of Detroit Mercy School of Law Student Parking Lot (located behind the church, across E. Larned St.) for your wedding and/or rehearsal ceremonies, please complete the event request form found at: Please be sure to include the dates and times for both the rehearsal and wedding ceremonies, if parking is requested. Reserving the lot will also allow restroom access inside the Law School. Your application will automatically forward to University Services, who will work with Public Safety and the Law School to make further arrangements. University Services will reply within 7-10 business days upon receiving the request confirming availability and verifying costs. Rehearsals are usually held Thursday or Friday prior to the scheduled wedding date. Marriage couples must be prepared with readers and gift bearers. Call the office to schedule. Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Marriage Information - Revised 8/28/2014 page 3 of 6 /

4 Ss. PETER & PAUL JESUIT USE OF CHURCH CONTRACT FOR SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE PG 2 Flowers Bows Runners Programs Dress Substances Set up for flowers and decorations can begin one hour before the ceremony. Flowers are permitted on the marble altar, at the staircase to the sanctuary, in front of the reading podium, and on the side wood altars including the Blessed Virgin Mary altar. Flowers may be left for use in weekend liturgies. Decorations, such as bows, are permitted on the pews and the staircase railing going to the sanctuary, but no tape is permitted to secure them. They are to be removed after the marriage liturgy. Aisle runners are not permitted for safety and insurance reasons. The use of flower petals, birdseed and rice is also prohibited inside and outside the church. Worship aids for the liturgy containing words of copyrighted songs, must have written permission before publication of the program, as you and the church are subject to copyright infringement laws. Additional assistance with order of ceremony can be found at Anyone taking part in the marriage liturgy must dress appropriately for sacred space. No plunging necklines or backless gowns will be allowed in the sacred space. Bare shoulders are allowed, but if you are bringing your own priest, please check with him. The use of alcohol is not permitted by any member of the bridal party before or during the rehearsal or the marriage liturgy. No food or alcohol is allowed in the Bride s Room. Drug use is prohibited at all times. If these rules are violated, the marriage will not take place. Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit is a non-smoking facility. It is your responsibility to inform anyone taking part in your marriage, including your vendors about all the rules. We have read and agree to abide by these regulations. I have discussed or will discuss these policies and procedures with those whom I have asked to witness my marriage and those whom I have hired to assist us with our wedding day. Groom Bride Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit Representative Date Date Date OFFICE USE ONLY DEPOSIT INFORMATION ONLINE $ CASH $ CHECK $ # Balance Due at 90 Days Balance Due 2 weeks prior to wedding $ DUE DATE $ DUE DATE Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Marriage Information - Revised 8/28/2014 page 4 of 6 /

5 Ss. PETER & PAUL JESUIT MARRIAGE APPLICATION Today s Date Wedding Date Why Did You Choose Us? Parishioner Friend Family Internet Visitor Jesuit Previous Wedding Ss. Peter & Paul Advertisement Location Other Groom s Name: Address: Last Name First Name Street City Zip Religion: If Catholic, Rite: Baptized ES NO Parish Registered in: City Zip Prior arria e s YES NO Circumstances: Date of Birth: Phone # Address: Bride s Name: Address: Last Name First Name Street City Zip Religion: If Catholic, Rite: Baptized: ES NO Parish Registered in: City Zip rior arria e s YES NO Circumstances: Date of Birth: Phone # Address: Presider: Presider s arish: Preparation: Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit OR Other Parish Name of Prepare if different from Presider: Marriage Day/Time: Fri 5pm Sat 1pm 3pm 5pm Sun 1pm 3pm 5pm Rehearsal Day/Time: Thurs 6pm 7pm Fri 6pm 7pm Is there someone who will act on your behalf? Please list name: Contact Information: Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Marriage Information - Revised 8/28/2014 page 5 of 6 /

6 Since 1848 SS. PETER & PAUL JESUIT 438 St. Antoine Street Detroit, Michigan ASTOR S ER ISSION LETTER Today s Date Dear Father: Please verify the following so that we can reserve a wedding date at Ss. Peter and Paul Jesuit for this couple. No date should be given until the Pastor is sure that both parties are free to marry in the church. (Provincial Guidelines For Marriage Preparation, Bishops of Michigan 1999). Please return this form to us at the above address. REQUESTED MARRIAGE DATE:, 20, Time: PM BRIDE S NA E GROO S NA E YES NO 1. Is one or both registered members of your parish? 2. Do you give your permission for them to be married at Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Church? 3. Is this couple free to marry in the Catholic Church? 4. Will you be presiding at the marriage ceremony? 5. Will you be completing the marriage preparation and/or counseling and diocesan paperwork? PASTOR S SIGNATURE DATE: PRINT PASTOR S NAME Parish Name and Address Parish Seal Ss. Peter & Paul Jesuit Marriage Information - Revised 8/28/2014 page 6 of 6 /