A workshop to explore body confidence & self-esteem.

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1 A workshop to explore body confidence & self-esteem. Based on materials developed by Dr. Susie Orbach, Dr. Nancy Etcoff at Harvard University and beat, the UK s eating disorders charity This resource has been created within the Dove Self-Esteem Fund campaign to be used free of charge in connection with Dove Self-Esteem Workshops. Any Facilitator who uses this resource is not a representative of Dove and cannot solicit any money for the workshop or materials. All statements made by Facilitators in workshops are the opinions of them alone. No statements made and/or actions taken by Facilitators shall be attributed to Dove or Unilever. No adaptation or publication of this resource is allowed without express permission from the owners of the Dove brand, Unilever. Unilever All rights reserved. Unilever is the owner of the Dove trademark. 1

2 What s this workshop all about? To help you develop skills for self-esteem and body confidence. 1

3 Hands up if.. 2

4 9 out of 10 girls want to change at least one aspect of their physical appearance. Source: Dove Global study,

5 72% of girls feel pressurised to be beautiful. Source: Dove Global study,

6 A quarter of boys and over half of girls think their peers have body image problems. Source: Centre for Appearance Research and Central YMCA,

7 Over 60% of girls avoid certain activities because they feel bad about their looks. For example: 19% won t try out for a team or club 23% won t go to the beach or pool 13% won t give an opinion 15% won t go to school Source: Dove Global study,

8 Looking at video gaming magazines makes boys want to get more muscles. Source: Prof. Kristen Harrison, University of Illinois study, 181 boys, average age 8.8 (2007) 7

9 sometimes things are not what they seem 8

10 what will we be doing? 1. Understanding what self-esteem and body confidence mean. 2. Understanding what affects them. 3. Improving our self-esteem skills and body confidence. 9

11 how will we work? some ground-rules No-one will force you to speak. Everyone s point of view counts we d like to hear them all. Let s show respect by: Listening to others opinions. Being non-judgemental. Putting our hands up to speak. If we hear something private, let s keep it private. 10

12 what do self-esteem and body confidence mean?? 11

13 what do self-esteem and body confidence mean? Answers include: Knowing & liking yourself. Being happy to be you Accepting your body as it is. Holding your head up high about the way your body is. Not being self-conscious about your body. 12

14 Hands up if you think we are born with a certain amount of self-esteem? 13

15 Self-esteem develops during childhood. The good news is that we can all learn how to strengthen it. 14

16 Activity Self-Esteem Supports Objective: to understand what builds self-esteem. By identifying the things that make us feel good, we can support ourselves when times are hard. you Instructions: think about what makes you feel good about yourself and builds your self-esteem. Be as specific as possible. Think about particular activities, places, times of day, past-times, people etc. Write them in the bricks underneath you. Add more bricks if you have more ideas. 15

17 Activity Self-Esteem Supports Did you know? Sport may give you a different and more positive experience of your body. Laughter and a little sunshine are scientifically proven to make you feel good. Why do you think this can happen? 16

18 Activity 2.1 How Would You Feel? Objective: to explore how media imagery can make us feel. 17

19 angelina jolie perfection? The Oscar -winning actress seems to have it all, with a successful career and Brad Pitt by her side. But she has said I struggle with low self-esteem all the time. I think everyone does. I have so much wrong with me, it s unbelievable. (Mar 2008) Why might she feel this way? 18

20 What kinds of companies benefit from making us think our bodies are imperfect? 19

21 What kinds of companies benefit from making us think our bodies are imperfect? Gyms. Diet industry. Make-up, skincare and perfume companies. Plastic surgery. Etc. 20

22 plastic surgery - who gains? Some people hope that plastic surgery can fix something that does not feel right inside. Unfortunately many are still unhappy after plastic surgery. The plastic surgery industry is booming around the world. In 2010, the USA spent almost $10.7 billion on cosmetic surgery and procedures like Botox. Source: American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery It is easy to feel tempted by plastic surgery. What problems do you think it can really solve? 21

23 exploring media imagery Let s explore why images may be manipulated in the media. 22

24 spot the difference: Same Keira, Same movie, but... UK USA Source: The Daily Telegraph Photo: Landmark / Touchstone 23

25 spot the difference: Before and after Source: Daily Mail Photo Campari 24

26 spot the difference: Before and after Source: Daily Mail Left Photo Candles Right Photo Splash 25

27 exploring media imagery Andy Roddick made the world s fastest tennis serve at 155 mph. But is this image for real? Even Andy didn t recognise these enlarged biceps. Source: ABC News, 29th May

28 exploring media imagery Something is not right here Can you make this pose? Where s the rest of her arm? When photos get changed, mistakes can be made. 27

29 spot the difference: How might she feel about being altered? Source: Compilation created by Jezebel.com 28

30 fabricating beauty film Objective: to understand the reality behind media imagery. When you watch the film, what do you find most surprising? Fabricating Beauty Rankin 29

31 Activity Playing With Beauty Objective: to explore how toys may shape our thoughts on body shape Barbie just a fun-inspiring doll? Her waist is the same diameter as her head. Her neck is twice as long as an average human s. Her legs are 50% longer than her arms - for an average woman they should be around 20% longer. Why do you think Barbie was created like this? Do you think we are influenced by the shapes of the toys we played with? Why do you think this? 30

32 look at how ken s body has evolved 1960s 1970s/1980s 1990s/2000s Why do you think Ken was created like this? Do you think we are influenced by the shapes of the toys we played with? Why do you think this? Evolution of Ken II Albert Crudo NYC/USA 31

33 Activity 3.1 The Power of Words Objective: to appreciate how spoken words can negatively or positively affect our self-esteem and body confidence. SHOUT FUN THANKS HELP! CALM whisper Love 32

34 Your Mum says You re not going out looking like that! 1. How does this statement make you feel? 2. What was the person trying to say? 3. How could this have been rephrased respectfully? 33

35 Everyone says your friend is a loser. Your brother teases 1. How does this statement make you feel? 2. What was the person trying to say? 3. How could this have been rephrased respectfully? 34

36 Your slim and healthy friend tweets... I m so fat and ugly. 1. How does this statement make you feel? 2. What was the person trying to say? 3. How could this have been rephrased respectfully? 35

37 Activity 3.2 Unfinished Sentences Activity 3.2 Unfinished Sentences Objective: to practise building others self-esteem. Name of the person you are writing about: One thing I like about you is A really individual thing about you is Keep it Respectful! Do not let them see what you have written! When your teacher tells you, swap sheets and read what has been written about you. Then look your partner in the eye and thank them. 36

38 Activity 3.3 Promise Card Activity 3.3 Promise Card From today I am going to make a difference to Objective: to commit to action to build our body confidence. my life and the lives of others by making this self-esteem / body confidence promise: 37

39 Summary 1. Self esteem skills are important and can be learned 2. Beauty is more diverse than the front covers of magazines 3. Have fun with the way you look and express yourself, but don t let this rule your life 4. Think how others hear what you say 5. Practising being confident will help you reach your goals Further Dove Self-Esteem Resources at 38