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2 TABLE OF CONTENTS CHAPTER1 WhatisaNoCourtDivorce? CHAPTER 2 Three Types of Divorce Processes that Avoid Litigation CHAPTER 3 Is a No Court Divorce Suitable for Everyone? CHAPTER4 WhataretheBenefitsofNotGoingtoCourt? CONCLUSION ABOUT THE AUTHOR
3 CHAPTER 1 WhatisaNoCourtDivorce? The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn't want to destroy anything or anybody. Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love Evenwhenitisclearthatdivorceistheonlyoption,theprospectofanimpending drawnoutlegalbattleoverthemostsensitiveandpersonaldetailsofyourlifecanbe overwhelming. For some it can even be debilitating. You have probably heard horror stories of what can happen when the court system pits lawyer against lawyer and husbandagainstwife. Whatwasalreadyabadsituationismadeworseasfearand anger create a win at all costs conflict that exacerbates painful emotions of sadness, loss and feelings of betrayal. Legal costs soar, confidential financial and personal information becomes a matter of public record and ultimately it is the children who suffer. The collateral damage done can last a lifetime. Many experts believe that the turmoil of the adversarial divorce process itself and how the parents act toward one another during the divorce does far greater damage than the actual dissolution of the marriage. It is the wayyoudivorce,notthefactthatyoudivorcethatcanharm the children. Unfortunately, divorce can be such an emotional experience that it can be easy to overlook what the children are going through. Yet, the permanent scars being seared into the lives of children can create a lifetime of bitterness and guilt. Divorceisconsideredtobeoneofthemoststressfuleventsthatmostpeoplewill everexperience. Infact,accordingtotheHolmes-RaheStressInventory 2,divorce ranksonlysecondtothedeathofaspouseasoneoflife smoststressfulevents.inher 1969 book, On Death and Dying, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross proposed that there are five stagesofgriefassociatedwithamajorlifeeventsuchasdeathordivorce.these include:denialandisolation,anger,bargaining,depressionandacceptance. 3
4 Itisnotsurprisingthat peoplecanexperienceawiderangeofemotions associated with the grieving process that can inflame an already difficult situation. This emotional roller-coaster can impact good judgment and influence the ability to think rationally. Butitdoesn thavetobethatway. Divorce doesn t have to be the final climatic win-at-all-costs fight we have come to expect. It doesn t have to create lasting emotional scars that destroy relationships with shared friends and family. Thetruthismostcouplesdon twantittoendthatway.theyjustwantittoend. Manycoupleswanttoavoidcourtandalongdrawnoutlegalprocessthatdrains thelifeoutofthemandtheirbankaccounts. Theywanttoprotecttheinterestsofall family members and maintain privacy over the divorce process and their assets. But most of all, the majority of couples want to make protecting their children a priority. Divorce without court is transforming how couples end their marriages. No court alternatives are becoming an increasingly popular mainstream alternative and quickly causing a paradigm shift in cultural expectations regarding divorce. The most effective types of no court divorce are collaborative divorce and mediation.
5 Divorce Without Court In no court divorce, the parties agree from the outset not to litigate their case. Theyagreetofocusonsolutionsthatwill governtherestoftheirlivesandthatoftheir children. The emphasis is on reaching a mutually acceptable agreement instead of focusingonwhateachpartyisentitledtoorwhoisatfault. TheonlytimethepartiesgotoCourtisoncetheircaseissettled.Oncesettled,a Complaint for Divorce is filed and the case is put on an expedited track. The case is concluded usually within forty-five(45) days with a fifteen(15) minute Court appearance byone(1)partyrequiredinsomenewjerseycounties.inothercountiesinnewjersey thereisnoneedforeitherpartytoappear. ThepurposeofthisbookistogiveyouanoverviewofNoCourtDivorce.Youwill haveageneralunderstandingofwhatnocourtdivorceis,howtodecideifitistheright optionforyouandwheretogofromhere.
6 CHAPTER 2 Three Types of Divorce Processes that Avoid Litigation Every marriage is different and every divorce is going to be different as well. There are three different no court options available to end your marriage. All of these no court alternative dispute resolution strategies can allow you to divorce quickly, at a reduced cost and without the negative consequences often associated with traditional divorce litigation. Thetypeofnocourtdivorcemostsuitedforyouandyourspousewilldependon your individual circumstances.. 1. Collaborative Divorce A Collaborative Divorce refers to a process where both parties are represented by a collaboratively trained attorney. Rather than allowing a Judge to take control of your divorce and your future, you agree from the outset to focus on coming up with solutionsthatwillgoverntherestoftheirlivesandthatoftheirchildren. The parties decide upon the custodial arrangements and access schedule for the children, often with the help of a divorce coach who is a Licensed Counselor. Divorce coachesmaybecalledupontohelpthecoupledealwithemotionsthatkeepthemfrom focusing on financial issues or leave them unprepared to make decisions. Coaches also help the couple in communicating about the interests of their children and developing parentingplans,wheretheyareunabletodosoontheirown.
7 The parties, assisted by their attorneys, also work on solutions for dividing up their assets, paying their liabilities and also determine how much support is to be paid. If there is a need for financial assistance, the parties may agree to hire an accountant or a certified financial planner. The accountant may value the business ownedbyone(1)orbothofthepartiesordeterminetheincomethebusinessgenerates. A financial professional may work with one (1) or both of the parties to establish the divisionofassetsoraspendingplanforthefutureafterthedivorce. InaCollaborativeDivorceyouandyourspousesavemoneybyavoidingthetime spent at the Courthouse and at the same time the parties can focus on the needs of their children while preparing for new lives. For clients, the collaborative process offers a number of benefits. Their childrenarealways treated asapriority, andeveryoneontheteam works to maintain and support the couple s ability to co-parent their children. The couple also keeps control over the timing of the process, unlike litigated cases where the Court dictates the time frame. The process is confidential so sensitive financial and personal information doesn t become a public record.
8 Keeping the process outside of Court until an Agreement is reached eliminates hours spent in Court for case management and other Court-required events, saving legal costs and the client s time. Once an Agreement is reached in the collaborative process, the parties go to Court for a Court appearance that is normally concluded in less than fifteen (15) minutes and usually occurs within forty-five(45) days of the Agreement being reached. InNew Jerseythe average time for a Collaborative Divorce is six (6) months from the time the parties begin the collaborative process to the time they are divorced. On the otherhand,theaveragetimetoconcludealitigateddivorceisgreaterthanone(1)year andinsomecountiesitissignificantlylongerthanayear. 2. Mediation In mediation, the Mediator meets with both spouses together, normally without attorneys, to: Helpidentifyissuesyouneedtoresolve Gather and share the information you will need to make decisions Helpyoucommunicateabouthowtoresolvetheissues Once an agreement is reached, the Mediator prepares a Memorandum of Understanding(which is a non-binding summary of the areas the parties have reached an agreement). The spouses bring the Memorandum to their attorneys for review once the memorandum is agreed upon. This is signed by both spouses and becomes a binding contract between them(eventually part of their divorce judgment). The mediation process can be much faster than a traditional divorce, typically endingin2-5sessionsofnomorethantwo(2)hourseach.thecostcanbereducedby the parties paying one(1) person, the Mediator, during the course of the negotiations. Eachpartywillbeadvisedtoconsultwiththeir own attorney during the mediation process, so that they can meet with and be educated and assisted with making decisions about their rights during the course of mediation. The parties have complete control over the manner and timetable in which the agreement is reached. The negotiations can occur
9 prior to the filing of any pleadings with the Court, allowing the parties to focus on the issues while avoiding allegations about the other. It resolves the issues outside the adversarial proceeding and many find the process allows the parties to maintain a more healthy relationship after divorce. Mediation is not the best alternative if there is an imbalanceofofpowerorifonepartyisunawareofthefinancesofthemarriage. Then acollaborativedivorcemaybethebetteralternative.ifonepartyisafraidtospeakupor is intimidated by the other party then a collaborative divorce is the better option. Kitchen Table Divorce Akitchentabledivorcereferstothepartiesworkingoutallofthesupportand equitable distribution issues between themselves. A divorce attorney can only represent oneparty, thereforeeitheryouoryourspousewillneedtohireanattorneytopreparea document called a Matrimonial Settlement Agreement, which sets forth all of the terms of their settlement. The other party then reviews the document, often with the assistance of their own attorney. Once the Agreement is finalized, one party files for divorce. A kitchen table divorce is a simple, private and inexpensive option for ending your marriage quickly. If you and your spouse are able to amicably discuss sensitive issues face-to-face this may be an approach that will work for you. Typically, kitchen table divorce is most effective when there are not any complex issues and children are not involved. It is important that each party have access to an experienced divorce attorney theycanturntoforadviceandcounselingandwhocanensurethatalloftheirinterests areprotected.theremaybeareasthatneedtobeaddressedbythesettlement agreement the couple might not have considered.
10 Determining Which Approach is Right For You Most likely you didn t rush into your marriage without carefully considering the facts. You shouldn t make hasty decisions about your divorce either. The approach to divorcethatworkedforyourfriendorco-workermaynotbethebestsolutionforyou. Consider your circumstances and options carefully. The rest of your life could be impacted by outcome of your divorce.
11 CHAPTER 3 Is a No Court Divorce Suitable for Everyone? Based on my experiences helping thousands of clients end their marriages overtheyears,anocourtdivorcetendstobethebestoptionforthemajorityof couples. A No Court Divorce is usually the most effective approach for reaching a resolution of the issues while avoiding the hostility and costs of traditional divorce litigation. Of course, every situation is different, and there are many factors to consider in determining whether a no court model will work for you. First, when considering a process for your divorce, think with the end in mind. Takeamomenttostepawayfromthechaos,thehurt,thesadness,and disappointment to imagine your life after divorce. As you do so, consider these questions: Wheredoyouwanttoendupafterthedustsettles? Whatdoyouwantyourlifetolooklike? Whatwillreallybeimportanttoyouwhenthehurthealsandyoucanmore clearlyseethebigpicture? 1 Answering these types of questions is important because the final outcome of yourdivorcecanhaveafarreachingandlonglastingimpactontherestofyourlife. Inmyexperience,thedivorceprocessitselfcansetthetoneforhownew issuesarehandledinthefuture.ifanadversarialapproachishowyouhandledyour divorce, that same approach will likely be how future problems are handled. For example, disagreements can arise over changes in the home environment, summer camp, or sports schedules that conflict with the visitation of one parent. Visitation issuesandmissedchildsupportpaymentscansendcouplesbacktocourttofightit out all over again. Regardless of whether you go the traditional route or you divorce without court, there will still be disagreements in the future. Problems are going to arise. The difference between litigation and no court divorces will be in how the issues are resolved. The divorce process either creates an expectation of ongoing litigation or it creates and develops a respectful and cooperative relationship that focuses on finding creative solutions.
12 Nocourtdivorcemaybeanoptionforyouif you... Want to avoid court involvement Considerthechildrentobeapriority Haveaninterestinmeetingtheinterestsofallfamilymembers Want to maintain control over the divorce process and Seek privacy over the divorce process and assets If the above statements resonate with the goals you have established for your owndivorce,thenanocourtdivorcemayberightforyou. Thequestionthen becomes will you and your spouse be successful divorcing without court. Below are indicators which can accurately gauge the likelihood of a successful NoCourtDivorce. Themoreoftheseindicatorsthataretrueforyou,the better chance you will have at resolving your issues and ending your marriage without court involvement. 1.Youwanttoprotectyourchildrenfromtheharmoftenassociatedwith traditional litigation. The children are the innocent victims of divorce. The impact of traditional divorce on children can be significant. The conflict of an adversarial divorce often leads to strained relationships with one or both parents. Children are used as leverage in legal conflicts and can end up feeling bitter and alone. Divorce increases the risk of behavioral and psychological problems. The hurt and painful memoriescanlastalifetime. 2 Theverynatureof thenocourtdivorceoptions minimizes children s exposure to conflict and makes it a priority to protect their feelings and interests.
13 2. You and your partner desire to co-parent your children together. Much of the stress that children experience during divorce can result from conflicts over parenting time. According to Dr. William Frankenstein, a licensed psychologist and experienced collaborative divorce professional, an adversarial divorce mayresultinaparentcompensatingforasenseoflossbytryingtogetthemosttime he/shecanwiththechildren. 3 Andwhilehe/shemayjustifythisbycitingthattheefforts areinthe bestinterestsofthechildren, theendresultisoftenmoreconflictandblame. Dr. Frankenstein writes, A reasonable first collaborative question a parent should ask ofthemselvesandeachotheris, Howwouldwebecoveringthebasesifwewere happily married and together? Theotherissuethatismadeeasierwithco-parentingisthatitmakesadaptingto changes as children grow a cooperative endeavor. Circumstances change and it is unlikely that a parenting plan developed and ordered by the court will be feasible forever. Thisisoneofthoseissuesthatcansendparentsrightbacktocourtiftheyhavenot been trained in resolving their issues in a respectful and cooperative manner. 3. You desire a respectful and civilized resolution of the issues. Due to the very framework of the court system, coupled with the emotional nature of the issues, traditional divorce litigation can quickly escalate into an all-out no-holdsbarred war that is anything but respectful and civilized. The court system was never really designed for the real life needs of divorce. The very nature of litigation encourages each party to assign blame and find fault intheotherpartyinsteadoffocusingonhowtoachieveafeasibleseparationof property, assets, and parenting responsibilities that allows all parties to thrive. For one partytobesatisfied,he/shemustprovethattheotherpartyshouldnotbesatisfied;the focusisonthepastinsteadofhowbothpartiescanhaveafreshstartatanewlife. No one wins in this scenario. No court alternatives, on the other hand, begin with the expectation of resolving all matters out of court. They encourage and foster an environment of communication and mutual respect.
14 4.Youandyourpartnerhavefriendsandextendedfamilyincommon,andyou want to maintain and protect those relationships. Overthelifeofamarriage,mostcouplesdevelopasharedcircleoffriends.They also create deep and meaningful relationships with extended family on both sides of the marriage. Litigious divorce can tend to isolate those relationships by forcing people to choose sides. Thisisoneofthosebigpictureconsiderations.Whatisthevalueofthose relationships? Would the potential loss of those relationships be worth the cost of winningthebattleoverissuesthatmayseemimportantnowbutwilllikelybe inconsequential 10 years from now. 5. You place a great deal of importance on taking personal responsibility and beinginchargeoftheoutcomeofyourdivorce. At this point, how you got here is of little importance. And while traditional divorce focusesonthepastandwhoistoblame,nocourtdivorcecommitsfromthestartto finding mutually beneficial solutions in a respectful, cooperative and controlled environment. There isn t any value in finding fault. Theoutcomeoftheprocessisinyourcontrol.Atthesametimeyouarenot alone. Your lawyer will create a controlled environment and help to guide you through negotiations. In a traditional divorce, the judge divides property and establishes custodial provisions using standards that may not meet the particular needs of your family. Those who are successful divorcing out of court prefer to work out more creative
15 property and custodial agreements. No Court Divorce provides this freedom and flexibility. 6.Youwanttomaintainyourprivacyanddon twantthedetailsofyourlife available in a public record. Didyouknowthatyourdivorcewithinthecourt systemwillbecomeapubicrecord?allofthe embarrassing details, accusations, and financial information will be put into public court records. By conducting negotiations out of the court systemyoucanavoidthelossofyourprivacy.only thefinaljudgmentofdivorcewillgointothecourt record. 7.Youandyourspouseorpartnerarecommittedtofindingwaystosolveyour problems without resorting to blaming the other party. Faultfindingandaccusationsofblamedonotfitwithinthecontextofnocourt divorce. While those strategies may provide leverage in a litigious environment, they do notservethegoalofnocourtdivorce,oneofmutualagreement.becausetheprocess isvoluntary,youandyourpartnerorspousewillbeabletofocusyourtimeandenergy on finding creative solutions that are win-win for everyone involved. TheaboveindicatorsarenottheendallofdecidingwhetheraNoCourtDivorce isrightforyoubuttheyshouldgiveyouageneralideaofwhetheryouandyourspouse could be successful in resolving your issues without litigation.
16 CHAPTER 4 WhataretheBenefitsofNotGoingtoCourt? If you decide that it is right for you and you and your partner are willing to put forth the effort there are many good reasons to divorce without court. For those wellsuited to alternative dispute resolution there really are no disadvantages. The goal of no court divorce is a mutually agreed upon settlement where everyone wins and there are no losers. Reduced Conflict Oneofthemostprominentreasonsforchoosingtodivorcewithoutcourtisthatit reduces conflict. No court divorce puts the emphasis on all parties reaching a mutually agreed upon settlement of their disputes without belligerent and expensive court battles. The threat of going to court and facing as uncertain outcome is removed from the equation and therefore can t be used as leverage for either party. No court divorce creates a cooperative environment that helps to establish trust and allow communication to remain open. All of this takes place in a controlled setting where you and your spouse, with the guidance and support of your lawyers, work together to create solutions that meet the needs of everyone involved. No court divorce not only diminishes conflict during the process divorce process but it also prepares the parties for open communication and ongoing cooperation post divorce. The acrimony produced by traditional divorce litigation can create permanent bitterness and resentment that may never heal. Parties to a no court divorce are less likely to depart as enemies. They begin their new lives with their self-respect and dignity intact. This puts them in a better place emotionally to move on with their lives without the emotional baggage. Should postdivorce issues come up they will be much more likely to find a resolution that doesn t involve going back to court.
17 Children Are Insulated From Process No court divorce protects children from the emotional damage of traditional divorce. The uncertainty, stress and conflict associated with their parent s divorce proceedings can be major risk factors for healthy childhood development. No court divorce removes a great deal of that uncertainty because from the start all parties commit to resolving their differences without court. The parties working together towards a resolution diminishes conflict the litigious system generates and helps protect children from facing the anguish and divided loyalties that result. No Court Divorce Saves Time and Money One of the reasons people may choose a non-adversarial approach to divorce is to avoid the expense of traditional divorce litigation. Studies have found that the cost of anocourtdivorcewilltypicallybeaboutonethirdthecostofatraditionaldivorce. No court divorce puts you in control. You can schedule meetings without waiting forcourtdates.thatmeansyougenerallyspendlesstimeand,asaresult,lessmoney to reach a final settlement. In addition, because of the cooperative nature of no court divorce less money on spent on discovery. For example when both parties voluntarily share their financial information there is no need for subpoenas. This saves attorney fees and can significantly reduce the overall cost of a divorce. Hereare8tipsthatwillhelpyousavebothtimeandmoney. 1) Hire a trained Mediator or Collaborative attorney. An experienced professional will beabletoassist you in coming toaresolution in amore efficient fashion because the professional has experienced similar issues with divorcing couples in the past. Unfortunately, old habits die hard. A lawyer who primarily handles traditional divorce litigation may have a natural tendency to revert to an adversarial approach if collaboration starts to break down. Professionals experienced in these methods of alternative dispute resolution will be committed and trained to achieve an agreement in the best interests of all parties. 2) Educate yourself about the divorce process you have chosen through internet searches, you-tube videos and your local library or bookstore. There is a wealth of information available to you. Understanding the process will help you move as quickly as possible through it. This equates to less expenses for you.
18 3) Come prepared for each meeting. Do your homework and bring to each session the documents and other information requested by the Mediator or requested during a Four-Way Meeting by your collaborative attorneys. 4) Develop a support system to guide you through the difficult emotional periods ofthedivorce.thesupportsystemcanbeatherapist,aclosefriendorfamilymember, asupportgroupyoujoinoracombinationofanyoftheabove. 5) Write down your questions for your Mediator or attorney ahead of the meeting. 6) Be on time for the meeting and stick to the topic at hand. Divorce is an emotional process and discussions can easily get off on tangents but getting off topic can cost you money. This is another reason a professional experienced in no court divorce is so important. Your attorney or mediator will be trained in strategies that foster respectful and open communication that focuses on problem solving and resolution of the issues. 7)Ifyouhaveasimplequestion,callandaskthestaffratherthanspeakingwith the Mediator or attorney. Often you are not charged with telephone calls with the professional staff. 8) Start focusing on your future and set goals for yourself. This will help you moveintherightdirectionandnotgetstuckinthepast.thisiswhyanocourtdivorce can be so effective in saving time, money and heartbreak. Collaborative divorce and mediation focus on the future and what is best for everyone. Traditional divorce focuses onthepastandwhatwentwrong. By avoiding litigation with a no court divorce, you will not only save time and money but more importantly you will preserve family relationships. In both Mediation and Collaborative Divorce the children are treated as a priority and all professionals involved work to maintain and support the couple s ability to co-parent the children after divorce and that is priceless. Privacy Is Protected No one wants their dirty laundry and the minute details of their divorce aired to the world. Yet most people don t realize the loss of privacy that can result with traditional divorce. Divorce proceedings are generally public matters and consequently all divorce documents and related court proceedings are available to the public. And
19 while the parties can request that the court seal sensitive documents there is no guarantee that this will be granted by the judge. The best way to protect your privacy and keep the details of your lives confidential is by avoiding court altogether. Nocourtdivorcecanbethemosteffectivewaytoprotectyourprivacyduringthe process. There won't be a permanent public record of the entire ordeal exposing your background, financial details and parenting arrangements And even though your final divorce decree will become public record, the process leading up to the final settlement will remain confidential.
20 CONCLUSION Divorce is never easy. It may be one of the most painful and emotional experiencesyouwillevergothrough.nocourtdivorcewon tbeeasyeitherbutitdoes provideabetterwaytoputyourmarriagebehindyouandmoveonwithyourlife. The three types of No Court Divorce are very important alternatives to a litigated divorce. The processes are less expensive, not as emotionally challenging and also much quicker than a traditional court divorce. Children are at the forefront and because the parties work to achieve consensus on all issues, the devastation experienced in the Courthouse setting is avoided. A divorce and family law attorney experienced in alternative dispute resolution strategiescanhelpyoudecidewhichoptionisbestforyou.
21 ABOUT THE AUTHOR After a devastating matrimonial trial in 2004 when a family unit was completely destroyed,lindabeganthejourneyofbringinganewtypeofnocourtdivorcetonew Jersey. ANoCourt Divorce thatwould helppreserve thefamily unit while atthesame timeallowherclientstomoveforwardwiththeirlives.linda sgoalistohaveherclients exit the divorce process with the legal, personal, emotional and financial resources of theentire family inline with thegoals ofthedivorcing couple. By doing so, her clients are poised for future growth and security in these areas. Linda s job is to educate clients about the process and help relieve uncertainty about the future. Linda Piff is committed to the Collaborative Law and Mediation process. Linda Piff pioneered bringing collaborative divorce law to New Jersey in Collaborative Law is now widely recognized in New Jersey and was enacted as a Statute on December10,2014.LindaisalsoaCourtAppointedEconomic Mediator andis alsoa trained Mediator handling Mediation cases for over 20 years and Collaborative Law cases for 10 years. Linda is the Chair of the New Jersey Council of Collaborative Practice Groups, Founder and Past President of Jersey Shore Collaborative Practice Group and Collaborative Divorce Professionals of New Jersey. For more information about No Court Divorce or to schedule a consultation with Linda Piff, please call(732)
22 Notes Chapter 1 1. Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love 2. Holmes- Rahe Stress Inventory, Chapter 3 1.TheCollaborativeWayToDivorcebyStuartG.Webb,page
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