3 Fatal Mistakes That Push a Man Out of Love

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1 3 Fatal Mistakes That Push a Man Out of Love 1

2 By Alexandra Fox Copyright Unforgettable Woman Publishing All Rights Reserved 2

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4 Dear Reader, Have you ever wondered why men suddenly turn cold sometimes? Does it confuse you sometimes that a man suddenly becomes distant or loses interest? Do you ever feel frustrated that it's so difficult to make him realize how right you are for each other? Wouldn't it be great if you could just make a guy love you on command? I used to be puzzled by these questions myself. I felt that I had no control over how a man feels towards me: He either loves me or he doesn't. The best thing I can do is to cross my fingers and hope that Cupid's arrow doesn't miss its aim at his cold, little heart. After studying attraction and male psychology for many years now, I've finally come to realize that falling in love is not a purely random process. Chemistry is not some kind of magic that just happens between two people. There are certain responses a woman can elicit from a man if she triggers the right buttons. On the same token, there are certain things a woman can do that are guaranteed to push a man out of love. Let me show you an example: We all know some great public speakers who have amazing influences on people. When they speak to a crowd, the crowd goes through a series of emotional highs and lows. Do you think this is a purely random process that just happens? Absolutely Not. You bet the speakers have studied human psychology and have, through years of 4

5 practice, figured out what words, tones of voice, and gestures elicit the responses they want. After a period of trials and errors, they figure out what works and what doesn't. That's how they become effective, believable, and so persuasive that they can move thousands of listeners to tears. Let me show you another example: Have you ever listened to a speaker who is just so booooooooring that you have to fight not to fall asleep. After three cups of strong Starbucks coffee, you still have to use all your willpower not to yawn at the speaker. This boring speaker may look just as good, with just as great a voice as the captivating speaker. The only difference that separates these two people is that one person understands what works with the audience, while the other person is just clueless, with a big C. Making a man fall in love is the same way. If you understand how a man responds to certain things you say or do, you'll be able to exert amazing power over him. If you don't know what you are doing, you'll push him out of love without your even knowing it. Before discussing the three fatal mistakes women make to push men out of love, I want to clarify one thing to make sure we are on the same page. There's a huge difference between learning how attraction works and playing games, tricking a man, or purposely breaking a man's heart. It can't be further from the truth. Taking the time and effort to learn about what attracts men is about having CHOICES and OPTIONS in life. A woman who's loved by more men is a woman who has more options when choosing her mate. A woman who's admired by more men is a woman who has a 5

6 better shot at finding the perfect match for herself. If you do the math, the chance of a woman finding a guy who meets all her criteria becomes so much higher when she has 100 men to choose from, instead of 10. Understanding how attraction works is all about quality of life. It's about being the lucky girl who is living a life that other women could only dream about. It's about taking responsibility for yourself and believing that everything is possible. The only thing that prevents you from living your dream is the fact that you haven't figured out the right path to succeed yet. Once you've found the right path, it's only a matter of time before you arrive at your dream castle with your true prince waiting for you. In what follows, I'll show you three fatal mistakes that push men out of love. Unfortunately, over 80% of women have made at least one of these 3 mistakes at some point in their lives. What you are about to learn are the foundational stones for you to embark on the journey of catching the man of your dreams. Are you ready? Mistake #1: The Two Extremes of the Spectrum From my coaching experiences with women, 95% of the women who have difficulties in their relationships fall into one of these two extremes: (1) Pressuring the Man Too Much (2) Pleasing the Man Too Much Let's talk about number one first Sometimes, when a woman feels a great connection with a guy, she feels that 6

7 she'll make such a perfect couple with him, but for some reason, he is not responding the same way. This frustrates her. She wonders, how can I just make him see it? How can I just make him see how perfect we really are? This is where the trouble starts... When a woman starts to feel frustrated that the guy is not responding the way she wants him to, she pressures him. She asks him hard questions; she tries to analyze everything. The other side of the extreme is pleasuring the man too much. It's deeply rooted in human nature that we tend to please the people we like. Although it's natural for a woman to want to please a man she loves, you need to fight this instinct, especially at the beginning of a relationship. When a woman tries to please a guy too much, it turns him off. On the other hand, a woman who focuses on making herself happy and always putting herself first excites a man beyond belief. Here's a rule of thumb: To make a man fall in love with you, you have to stop trying too hard, pleasing him too much, or pressuring him. Mistake #2: Missing Crucial Moments to Move the Relationship Forward Moving a relationship forward is the same as keeping a ball rolling: you have to keep the momentum up. If you have the relationship stall at a particular stage too long, you risk losing the momentum to move the relationship to the next stage. 7

8 Here's one thing about male psychology. If a man is happy with his current state, he wants to keep things just like they are. And the happiest state for most men, is the casual, fun, no-strings attached phase. So, if you're not doing anything to move the relationship forward, your man will be happy to stay exactly where it is and delay commitment as long as it's possible. There are certain moments in a relationship when a woman has to do a little pushing to move the relationship forward. If she doesn't, 80% of the time, the relationship will end up stuck in the same place for years and years. Mistake #3: Missing the Most Important Step Emotional Bonding To have a man fall in love with you, there's one thing that must happen: emotional bonding. If a guy never emotionally bonds with you, you can bet your money that he'll leave for the next exciting thing, if not next month, next year. To make a man emotionally bond with you, there are two things you have to do: (1) Don't obstruct the process of emotional bonding (2) Help a man focus on emotional bonding, from the very beginning. Let me explain each one in detail. First, don't obstruct the process of emotional bonding. Physical bonding obstructs emotional bonding. How a man sees the relationship on day one is how he's going to see it ten years later. If the relationship starts as something purely physical, a man will always see it as something physical and in most cases, his 8

9 perception of it never changes. Once a man sees the relationship as something physical, he will unconsciously stop himself from forming an emotional bond with you because a physical relationship, in his mind, doesn't need any kind of emotional bonding. So, by starting the relationship physically, a woman actually makes it almost impossible for a guy to form an emotional bond with her. Now, let's move on to the second thing a woman needs to do to get a guy fall in love with her: helping a guy focus on emotional bonding, from the very beginning. Men are easily distracted. Their attention tends to focus on the most exciting thing at the moment. Unless you help your guy focus on emotional bonding, his attention will be diverted to just having a good time. And that does nothing to help you get the emotional bonding you want. 9

10 A Final Word To make a man fall in love with you, you have to first avoid the three mistakes I discussed in this report. This is the first essential step towards capturing the heart of your true prince. In my book, 77 Secrets to Make Every Man Adore You, Chase You, Love You, and Commit to You, I go one step further and discuss the RIGHT things a woman needs to do to make a man fall and fall hard in love. If you have any comments or suggestions on what you've just read, please me at alexfox@unforgettablewoman.net 10