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1 What is Abuse In Relationships? You might be confused about whether what s happening to you is abuse. This info helps you understand the different kinds of abuse. Abuse or violence in a relationship is about a pattern of behaviour that one person uses against another to intimidate them and to get them to do what they want. Abuse is not just a physical violence. Emotional or sexual abuse can be just as harmful as physical violence. Sometimes people call this sort of abuse dating violence or domestic violence. Research shows that in relationships, males are most likely to be the abusers, and females are most likely to be the victims. (see Statistics). Females can also be abusive, in lesbi8an and in straight relationships (see Information for lesbians for more info). In this information package, we will be referring to male-to-female abuse in relationships, but the ideas are also relevant to relationships where it is females who are abusive. Examples of these forms of abuse are: Emotional Abuse: This is when your boyfriend or partner puts you down, ignores you or calls you names. It may be about what you are wearing, or how you re acting. He may use jealousy or anger to intimidate you or to control your behaviour, or he might deliberatiely humilate you in front of others. He might try to manipulate you and make you feel wrong, inadequate or like you re crazy. Another form of emotional abuse is when he threatens to hurt himself or other people if you break up with him. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Physical Abuse: This involves physical acts such as hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking, pulling your hair or choking you, or threatening to harm you in any way. It could involve using a weapon or an object to threaten or hurt you, smashing things or driving a car dangerously to frighten you. Hurting someone physically or threatening to hurt them is a criminal offence. Relationship Warning Signs If you answer yes to any of the questions below, you could be in an abusive relationship, or your relationship could become abusive. Do you feel nervous around him? Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid his anger? 1

2 Do you feel pressured by him when it comes to sex? Are you scared of disagreeing with him? Does he criticize you, or humiliate you in front of others? Is he always checking up or questioning you about what you do without him? Does he repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing other guys? Does he tell you the if you changed he wouldn t abuse you? Does his jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family? Does he make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate? Has he ever scared you with violence or threatening behaviour? Do you often do things to please him, rather than to please yourself? Does he prevent you from going out or doing things you want to do? Do you feel that, with him, nothing you do is ever good enough? Does he say that he will kill or hurt himself if you break up with him? Does he make excuses for his abusive behaviour by saying its because of alcohol or drugs or because he cant control his temper, or that he was just joking? You might have answered yes to some of these questions, but still think its not that bad. But feeling scared, humiliated, pressured or controlled is not the way you should feel in a relationship. You should feel loved, respected, and free to be yourself. Your feelings and safety are important. Abusers will often make you feel like you are to blame for their behavour. You might think that if you try to change to be more like what he wants you to be, than the abuse will stop. But in a relationship, you should be able to feel ok just being yourself and doing what you want to do. What about whsat you want for yourself? If you are in an abuseive relationship, it is likely to get worse over time. Burt you cnat make your boyfriend change his behaviour. He is the one who has to change his attitude and accept responsibility for abusing you, and not make excuses for his behaviour. If this does not happen and you want the violence to srop, then unfortunately, leaving him might be your only choice. Its not your fault if you are being abused. You deserve to be treated with respect. Some ideas that might help: Ideas If you are in danger you can call the police. Keep the phone number of your local police handy or memorise it in case you need it. 2

3 If you have been injured or hurt you can go to a doctor or hospital and get medical help, check out the services section for contact numbers of srpportive services for young people. Talking to someone about it can help. You might think that noone will believe you when you tell them what s been happening. But when you do find someone who believes you, it can make suck a difference to how you feel. Talking about it can make you feel less alone, and the person you talk to could help work out what you want to do. if this is love, why do I feel so bad? Feelings Often the first indication that there is something wrong in the way your boyfriend treats you is how you feel. You feel uneasy, tense, confused, like something isn t right. Below is a list of some of the ways that girls say they felt when they were with an abusive boyfriend: Pressured Confused Guilty, like you are not good enough Angry Uncomfortable Scared Nervous or tense Humiliated Bad about yourself Trapped Restructed or controlled (like you have to watch what youdo or say) Upset Abuse can have an affect on you in all sorts of ways such as: Not sleeping properly Nausea or headaches Abusing alcohol or drugs Anxiety or depression Missing classes, wagging school or taking days off work Lower marks in school Constantly trying to do what he wants Not communicating with your parents or family, or lying to them because they might blame you somehow or stop you from going out Feeling like you cant trust people 3

4 Losing touch with who you are and what is important to you, your own opinions, feelings, friends, and family Having less confidence in yourself Feeling alone and afraid to tell anyone Someone who loves you should help you to feel good about yourself. Noone has the right to abuse you and make you feel so bad or confused. Respect check list Your rights in a relationship: Respect If you are in a relationship, you might be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or partner: Is willing to compromise Lets you feel comfortable being yourself Is able to admit to being wrong Tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly Enables you to feel safe being with him Respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends Accepts you saying no to things you don t want to do (like sex) Accepts you changing your mind Respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You should not be made to feel intimidated or controlled Think about your relationship- do you feel respected? You might be at risk of dating violence if your partner: Is violent. He has a history of fighting, losing his temper quickly or brags about mistreating others. Gets to serious about the relationship too fast Has a history of bad relationships and blames other persons for all the problems. Girls just don t understand me.: Believes that men should be in control and powerful, and that women should be passive and submissive Is someone your family and friends warned you about, or told you they were worried for your safety He s trying to control you and make you dependent on him if: 4

5 He s very jealous and does not want you to talk to other men, wants you to stop seeing your girlfriends and has to know where you are and who you are with at all times He tries to control your contact with your family He puts down what you wear, do and say He tries to control you by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, and doesn t take your opinion seriously He is scary. You worry about how they will react to things you say or do He abuses drugs and alcohol and pressures you to take them. He s putting you down so you will lose self-esteem, confidence and control if: He tells people things you did or say that embarrass you and make you feel stupid He says its your fault when things go wrong for him He calls you stupid, lazy, fat, ugly, or a slut He blames you when he mistreats you. He says you provoke him, pressed his buttons, make him do it, lead him on. He s threatening you and in some cases using physical violence if: He says he will leave you or kill himself if you do not obey him He gets very angry about small, unimportant things. He will not tell you his feelings when you ask and then he blows up He pressures you for sex, or is forceful or scary around sex. He thinks women or girls are sex objects. He attempts to manipulate or guilt trip you by saying if you really loved me you would.. He hits you- he may be sorry afterward, but he hits you. If you are an abused teen: Your not alone and you are not to blame. You cannot control his violence. But you can make yourself safer by: Calling the police if you have been assaulted. Telling someone and keeping a record of all incidents of violence Telling to a trusted adult suck as a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, school psychologist, and/or calling a community agency for advice Considering ending the relationship as soon as possible. The violence may get worse If you are an abusive teen: Recognize you have a problem. Take responsibility for your behavor Talk to a trusted adult such as a teacher, guidance counselor, school psychologist, and/or calling a community agency for advice Abuse is a crime. You could face fines or imprisonment if convicted Realize that nobody deserves to be abused. If you come from an abusive home, you may be re-enacting the abusive behaviour you experienced or witnessed. You can get help to stop the violence and have healthy, caring relationships. 5

6 How teens can help prevent violence Become more aware of verbal and physical abuse of your own relationships Help students break the silence. Promote other ways to deal with anger and resolve conflict, for instance through talking through feelings and creative problem solving Beware of jokes, movies, television programs, advertising, and rock videos that are demeaning to women and may promote violence against Women. Teen Relationship Abuse While we tend to associate domestic violence with adults, it may also be present in teen relationships. It is estimated that up to one-third of high school and college- age youth experience violence in an intimate or dating relationship. Like adults domestic violence, teen relationship abuse comes in many forms. A particularly horrifying type of abuse is date rape. Over 50% of all rapes are of adolescents, the majority of which are perpetrated by acquaintances or dates. These statistics indicate that while teen relationships may often seem idyllic and sweet, there can be dangerous elements to them. Teen relationship abuse is often characterized by the same patterns of controlling behavior that occur in abusive adult relationships. However, teen abuse is different because fewer options are available for teens who seek help and the particular development consequences of abuse for adolescents. For example, there are few domestic violence shelters that can accommodate teenage women. Asking adults for assistance creates a risk for the young women for not being believed, having her situation and feelings belittled, and being blamed for her victimization. Furthermore, when a teenager is seeking to develop her sense of self and liberate herself from adult authority, it is difficult for her to turn to her parents or teachers about a problem she is having in her relationship. Although adult women in domestic violence situations are also often disbelieved, underage girls don not have the same independence or decision-making power that adult women do. Additionally, they may have fewer opportunities for economic independence because of their lack of schooling, provisions of the new welfare law that require teen mothers to be living in an adult-supervised household, and their financial dependence of themselves, their children, or other family members on the batterer. Adolescence is a time for developing self-identity and achieving independence. Sadly, it is also often a time for assuming rigid gender roles and succumbing to peer pressure. These gender roles may encourage you4ng women to be mediators and caregivers while promoting the silencing of their own needs and desires. Peer pressure to be in a relationship and the status assigned to teenage girls who have boyfriends also conspire to trap young women in abusive relationships. Because status is often accorder to girls who date older men, 6

7 young women are at-risk of becoming involved in relationships with an unequal distribution of power. Young women also may not be able to distinguish between loving behavior and abusive behavior if they have grown up in households where abuse has been called love. If they lack caring in their lives, they may be ready to settle for any relationship, even if the so-called love comes in the form of jealousy, possessiveness, and control. 7

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