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2 How to Stay in Control When Your Kids are Out of Control! Marla M. Hignett ED.S. MMH Education Group
3 AGENDA Check in Stress and the Brain Composure Stress Busters 5 Steps to Regulation Questions
4 Goals 1. Understand meaning of stress 1. Increase awareness of stress symptoms and triggers 1. Identify strategies to remain composed 1. Participate in stress reduction activities
5 CHECK IN 1 = Cool as a Cucumber! 10=Out of Control!!
6 MINDFUL MEDITATION h?v=wgfog-oufdm Strive to focus on the present
7 RE-CHECK 1 = Cool as a Cucumber! 10=Out of Control!!
8 Definition of Stress The state of dynamic tension created when you respond to perceived demands and pressure from outside and from within yourself Your body s response to any change in its inner or outer environment.
9 YOUR BODY S REACTION TO STRESS Alarm (fight or flight) Resistance (repair or remain alert) Exhaustion (diseases of stress)
10 ALARM Your body recognizes the stressor and prepares for flight or fight and releases adrenaline.
11 RESISTANCE Your body repairs any damage caused from stress. If the stressor does not go away, the body cannot repair the damage and must remain alert.
12 EXHAUSTION Continued exposure to stress during this stage causes the body to run out of energy and may bring on one of the diseases of stress e.g. migraines
13 GOOD STRESS When the brain is in a state of high challenge and low stress the result is: Feeling psyched up Good memory recall High motivation High energy Normal sleep patterns Creativity Excitement to learn
14 BAD STRESS When the brain is in the state of high stress and anxiety, the result is: Poor sleeping and eating patterns Feeling overwhelmed Experience of physical, emotional or behavior symptoms Feelings that usual activities and challenges are too much See work as too much
15 WHEN YOU FEEL STRESSED YOU LOSE ACCESS TO THE FOLLOWING SKILLS Empathy- everything is about you Prioritization- every task is overwhelming Organization piles and piles Time Management- usually late Impulse control- OOPs Working Memory Flexibility- My way or give up
16 STRESS CYCLE
18 THE BRAIN AND STRESS
19 UNDERSTANDING THE BRAIN The child is born, the brain stem and limbic system develop first. The fight or flight reaction protects the child. This is the emotional center of the brain. This is where anger and other feelings originate.
20 UNDERSTANDING THE BRAIN When children upshift to the cerebral cortex (the thinking, executive function part of the brain), They can begin the think of alternative ways of reacting. They can begin control their reactions and responses. The cortex develops more slowly (ages 5-6 and older)
21 BRAIN AND STRESS The brain functions optimally in safe environments. When the brain is distressed or under threat, chemicals are released in the brain to prepare it for fight or flight. The alarm system is activated, and it interferes with learning and healthy emotional functioning.
23 AN OVER-REACTIVE ALARM SYSTEM In Adults Emotions do not match situation Yell, scream, cry Have low tolerance of behaviors Addictions (food, alcohol, shopping) In Children Respond to everyday events in defensive or attacking ways Impulsive Do not handle disappointment well Act out their feelings
24 CHRONICALLY STRESSED SYSTEM Individual may shut down and become sluggish, struggle to feel, appear out of control, exhibit acts of violence, ignore peril and/or situation.
25 ACTIVITY STRESS TEST
26 I M STRESSED NOW WHAT? Break the Cycle
27 SELF CONTROL PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY for children can only exist when adults learn to manage their own anger and learn the skill of composure. Self control must be your first priority as a parent and caregiver.
28 We tend to Focus on the behavior With the goal of stopping it!
29 When we are upset we try to control the behaviors of others instead of managing our inner states (thoughts, feelings, impulses) CHANGE THE STATE FIRST AND THEN THE BEHAVIOR
30 COMPOSURE BEING THE PERSON YOU WANT OTHERS TO BECOME NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU ANGRY WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION
31 IT IS OUR CHOICES THAT SHOW WHAT WE TRULY ARE, FAR MORE THAN OUR ABILITY.
32 COMPOSURE I am safe. I am calm. I can handle this.
33 Parents who model self control do the following: 1 Focus on what they want their child to accomplish. 2 Celebrate their child s successes and choices. 3 See situations from their child s perspective. 4 Teach their child how to communicate his or her wishes and frustrations (words, pictures, signals).
34 GAINING COMPOSURE Be aware of your trigger thoughts and the buttons children push. REMOVE THESE Reduce stress through calming and coping strategies and activities. Focus and tune into the body to recognize early signs of anger. CALM BREATHE- It is an antidote to stress.
35 MY BUTTONS WHAT ARE YOUR BUTTONS?
36 CALMING ACTIVITIES Emotional states are reflected in the way we breathe. Conscious slow, deep breathing brings more oxygen to our lungs and our brain. Breathing can upshift our brain.
37 BREATHE Deep breathing can reduce feelings of stress and lower heart rate. Breath through your nose for a count of four Hold your breath for a count of two Breath through your mouth for a count of eight.
38 YOGA BREATHS
39 Brain Stem Limbic Frontal Cortex
40 S.T.A.R. SMILE TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND RELAX
41 DISENGAGE STRESS STAR pretzel Drain balloon
42 ACTIVE CALMING BREATH DEEPLY WISH WELL Creates an energetic connection USE AFFIRMATIONS 1 I am safe 2 I can handle this 3 Keep breathing
43 CALMING ACTIVITIES Tell a joke Puzzles Humming Yoga Stretching Being creative (drawing, singing, painting, building)
44 ACTIVITY Write down how you KEEP CALM AND
45 Ways to Calm in 1 Minute or Less Breath Shout it out Ask for a hug Pet your dog Listen to your favorite song Peel an orange Smell a lemon Drink some water Visualize a peaceful place Hold a hand Reflect on what you value
46 HEALTHY LIVING BREATHING EXERCISED YOGA EAT HEALTHY DRINK WATER VISULIZATION/RELAXAT ION EYE CONTACT STRESS CHECKLIST AROMA THERAPY NUTURE YOURSELF STRESS KIT/SAFETY PLAN
47 CHOOSE TO BREAK THE CYCLE SAFETY PLAN
48 SAFETY PLAN WHAT IS IT? A Safety Plan is a list of simple activities that a person can choose when feeling overwhelmed so that the person can avoid engaging in the unsafe, out-of-control or toxic behavior he or she is accustomed to resorting to under stress and instead, use an activity that is safe, effective and self-soothing. The items in a Safety Plan should be simple things that people can do anytime, anywhere without embarrassment. SANCTUARY INSTITUTE
50 Take a minute to write down ideas for your safety plan
51 2 Minute Yoga Break rlua-ot1s
52 FIVE STEPS TO SELF REGUALTION I Am I Calm I Feel I Choose I Solve Managing Emotional Mayhem by Dr. Becky Bailey
53 I AM Individual is triggered into a state of upset. Emotions biochemically overtake us and we become them. I AM ANGRY!
54 I CALM Individuals need to turn off the stress response in their body and calm down their physiology. Begin to move from I AM ANGRY to I FEEL ANGRY
55 I FEEL Individuals need to name and tame the feelings that have overwhelmed them. Once you can name a feeling and become conscious of it, you are automatically better able to manage it.
56 I CHOOSE INDIVIDUALS need to choose strategies that will help them move from the lower centers of their brain to the higher centers of their brain in order to get back to work and perform daily activities. SAFE SPACE/SAFETY PLAN
57 I SOLVE Something triggers the individual into a state of upset before entering a safe space or using their safety plan. Whatever happens needs some type of solution. What Happened? How Did You Feel? Why? What Can You Do Next Time?
58 1. Squeeze hands 2. Take three slow breaths (slow in/slow out) 3. Rub legs
59 Warning signs I feel I will Parent Practice
60 I COMMIT
61 RESOURCES Managing Emotional Mayhem by Dr. Becky Bailey WHEN MY WORRIES GET TOO BIG by Kari Dunn Buron
62 Amagada, J. (2009, February 28). Stress Statistics - Will You Be Another Stress Statistic? Be-Another-Stress- Statistic?&id= Love To Know Corporation. Stress_Management_Lesson_Plans National Institutes of Health. (2009, October 14). What is Complementary and Alternative Medicine. body.htm
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