1 Raising Awareness of Domestic Violence SAOL 2013
2 Domestic Violence the actual or threatened, physical, emotional, psychological, sexual or financial abuse of a person by their partner, family member or someone with whom there is or has been a close relationship. Women s Aid
3 Domestic Violence This abuse occurs regardless of gender, race, class, age, religion, sexuality, mental ability, physical ability, income, lifestyle or geographical area of residence. There are many forms of domestic abuse but they fall mainly into three main categories: emotional, sexual and physical.
4 Impact Domestic violence leaves deep wounds, emotionally, psychologically and physically. Ponder for a moment living a life where there are concrete reasons to fear for your personal safety on a daily basis, a life where emotional, physical or sexual battery are constant realities.
6 Domestic Violence Training SAOL facilitated a 6 module domestic violence awareness workshop in 2012 and we will deliver it again in 2013 The workshop covered different topics relating to domestic violence for women who have previously or are currently experiencing domestic abuse. This Workshop was adapted from a workshop developed by SOLACE Women s Aid We would like to remind facilitators that this is quite difficult work and some/all participants will experience emotional issues and may need individual sessions during the course of the workshop.
7 Domestic Violence Workshop Modules 1) Definition of domestic violence 2) Power and Control 3) The impact domestic violence has on children 4) Abusive relationships 5) Assertiveness and putting in boundaries 6) My Future (celebration)
8 Session 1: Definition of Domestic Violence The aim of this first week s module is to outline a clear definition of domestic violence, by looking at the different types of abuse, including cultural aspects of domestic violence. By gaining an understanding of the definition of domestic violence, participants attending the workshop will increase their awareness of abusive behaviour and the different ways this behaviour can manifest within a relationship.
9 Session 1: Definition of Domestic Violence Having brainstormed a definition of domestic violence, we introduce a questionnaire What is Domestic Violence This is followed by tackling the myths about domestic violence. Some of the common myths surrounding this issue include: It s just a family argument, It can t be that bad or why does she stay and There is no point in helping her she will only go back Are these myths????
10 The Role of Addiction in DV It is important to explore the role addiction plays in Domestic Violence: For the perpetrator For the victim In blocking change Adding endangerment to change
11 The Role of Addiction in DV Each point of change can be a point of danger Detox Early Recovery Drug/Alcohol Free Stabilisation Harm reduction While each stage brings its own excuse for further abuse
12 Session 2: Power and Control Power and Control is abusive behaviour that can be used in different ways at different times. Often times there are several types of power and control going on at any one time. They include: Intimidation: looks, gestures, actions i.e. smashing things, displaying weapons. Emotional Abuse: name calling, putting down, playing mind games, humiliating.
14 Session 2: Power and Control Isolation: controlling where someone goes, who they talk to, limits outside activities. Minimizing, denying, blaming: shifting responsibility, making light of it, saying they didn t cause it. Children: Makes the mother feel guilty about children, uses children to relay messages or threatens to take children away. Male Privilege: Treated like a servant, makes all the decisions, defines what the female role is
15 Session 2: Power and Control Economic Abuse: gives you no access to money, gives you no access to money, makes all the decisions about how money is spent, gives limited allowance, benefits in his name Threats: Threatening they will hurt, leave, kill you, kill themselves, report to social services, will take children.
16 Stand Up Build Up Explosion The Cycle of Abuse Honeymoon Remorse Pursuit
17 The Cycle of Abuse Pursuit: -tells you how sorry they are pleads helplessness. Promises to stop behaviour- buys presents threatens to hurt themselves/ you/children if you leave Honeymoon Phase: both move forward from abusive incidentrecreate earlier romance and relationship. Build-up: tensions and arguments are not resolved through talking other controlling negative ways come in. Stand-Up: uses strength and belief in their superior role to dominate; depersonalises before an assault Explosion: - abusive incident happens Remorse: - feels disgust so transfers responsibility onto you; denies it was that bad; blames you Return to top of left hand column
18 Session 2: Power and control Moving Forward We begin to look at the areas of the women's lives that have been directly affected by domestic violence and how they can move forward from this. This involves looking at what they would like to change and how what or who could help achieve this. An awareness of the issues at play in power and control is empowering for their future and future relationships, particularly where addiction is a factor.
19 Session 3: How children are impacted by domestic violence? This is perhaps one of the most difficult weeks for the participants in the workshop. It is important to stress that nobody will be judged and everyone feels safe enough to contribute. This is broken down into discussions on the impact at various stages in the child s life e.g womb to 1 years, 2-4 years etc. We then work on the effects of domestic violence on boys and girls.
20 Session 3: Children and Domestic Violence While many of the participants may have social worker involvement already, this discussion is also about ensuring everyone has an understanding about what child protection is and what the legal situation is. This also refers to contact with the offender and the issues this brings, i.e. children wanting to or not wanting to see the perpetrator.
21 Session 3: Rebuilding Relationships with children Discussion about how this can occur in a safe manner that is not over compensating. The topics covered are: trust & respect, Providing emotional security, Providing physical security, Providing discipline, Giving time, encouragement & support, Giving affection to and care for yourself.
22 Session 4: Abusive Relationships What makes a relationship a relationship? - respect, - communication, - sharing What makes a relationship abusive? fear, intimidation, not able to express opinions safely We discuss why a woman might stay in an abusive relationship & how she might leave We discuss why a perpetrator might stay in an abusive relationship
23 Session 4: Abusive Relationships What help is available? What are the options, what can be changed?
24 Session 5: Assertiveness and Putting in Boundaries When your safety has been compromised, being assertive and establishing boundaries can sometimes feel like the hardest things in the world to achieve Through exercises and looking at assertiveness and boundaries, participants will gain an understanding of their own blocks and how they can begin to start to implement positive ways of asserting their boundaries. The tips and tools learnt in this module can be useful when applied to their addiction also.
25 Session 6: My Future If you have lived in the shadow of domestic violence, the future can be a very scary place. This module aims to celebrate the future as something to look forward to and the participants name what they want and how they can be active in achieving this. Through exercises, participants will be able to recognise isolating behaviour as an old pattern linked to domestic violence and identify ways in which they can overcome it in the future.
26 Session 6: The Future The negative impact of self-criticism is then discussed, and participants are reminded that changing thought patterns takes a lot of time but it is essential to rebuilding self-esteem and confidence. New relationships can often be the last thing the women want however it is important to look at the possibility of a new relationship and establish what they want from a potential partner.
27 Session 6: The Future A simple exercise to look at what they want for the future, it could be emotional, psychological, and or physical. Or something entirely different like progressing to education, returning to work or moving house.
28 The Future 3 months 6 months 9 months 1 year
29 Certificates are awarded and then it s time for tea and cake!! This was a brief outline of our domestic violence 6week workshop. SOLAS sa SAOL (Light in Life) A draft outline is available on our website
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