Top five nonverbal signs of interest Top five nonverbal signs of disinterest

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1 Top five nonverbal signs of interest Top five nonverbal signs of disinterest

2 Exhilarated state of muscle tone Sagging disappears Bagging around eyes decreases Torso more erect

3 Belly tightened Eyes seem brighter Preening behaviors

4 More Used same girl with adjustable bra sizes Nicolas Gueguen, Body Image 2007

5 Yes Nicolas Gueguen, Journal of Psychology, 2008

6 Courtship signaling more important than attractiveness Evenly matched (attractiveness) unless participants believe the other will definitely say yes

7 Eye contact Hair style Clothing style and fit Jewelry Facial expressions Body type Gait

8 Homosexuals better then heteros at identifying other homossexuals from 10 second video w/out sound Most informative cues for females: hairstyle, jewelry, clothing Males: dynamic nonverbal cues--gait (Ambady, Hallahan & Conner, 1999)

9 1,000 hours of observations Singles bars, shopping malls, libraries 52 behaviors designed to attract opposite sex Monica Moore s Research

10 1. Crossing and uncrossing, stroke leg 2. Entwined legs 3. Open legs 4. Eye contact 5. Playing with cylindrical object 6. Pointing the knee 7. Open lips, lick lips 8. Hair toss 9. Exposing wrists, palm- 10. Shoe play 11. Grooming, head toss, massage own neck 12. Sideways glance

11 1. Crossing and uncrossing, stroke leg Entwined legs-9 3. Open legs-5 4. Eye contact-8 5. Playing with cylindrical object-1 6. Pointing the knee-8 7. Open lips 7 Lick lips Hair toss-5 9. Exposing wrists, palm Shoe play Grooming, head toss, massage own neck Sideways glance-9 (Responses of 500 males)

12 Say something that makes her feel uncomfortable and see if she puts the shoe on

13 Observed NV of 20 women for 10 minutes predict who will be approached by a man Look for signals sent by women that they want to be approached (solicitation behaviors)

14 Hair flip 90% Room encompassing glance 80% Smile 70% Neck presentation 60% Lean 50%

15 Hair flip --57 Head toss --42 Room encompassing glance --49 Short darting glance 32 Smile -30 More exaggerated Imitate the dominant girl High use of teasing, pinching, taking food, hitting Monica Moore: Courtship signaling and adolescents: Girls just wanna have fun?

16 Average displays per females 44.6 courtship displays from women 3.8 courtship displays from girls Play signals 10% of women used 27% of girls used

17 Eyebrow flash Lips part when eyes lock Exaggerated movements to attract attention Smoothes clothing (Pinkie scout )

18 Smooth or muss up hair Eyebrows remain slightly raised Crotch display or cowpoke stance Long Glances Space maximization movements Auto-manipulation (stroking chin/beard)

19 Biggest Factor for Heterosexuals When woman makes eye contact & smiles Biggest Factor for Homosexuals Prolonged Eye Contact

20 Men glance longer Women stare more often

21 The woman often makes the first move (by eye contact & decreased distance) Women control the course of the interaction (how fast the physical relationship progresses) Men initiate the actions before sex In courtship, men initiate touch and after marriage, women initiate touch Cary (1976) Perper (1985) (Moore & Butler, 1989)

22 Turn bodies and heads to face each other Arm and legs exclude others

23 Signs that the flirt are not meant to be taken seriously Looking around at others in the area Not framing and blocking others out Using indirect body orientation (head faces you but the torso doesn t)

24 Speaking in an overloud voice Exaggerated behaviors Comical flirting behaviors Seems to maintain group morale

25 Face and head actions: yawn, frowns, sneers, gaze avoidance Gestures: hands in pockets, crossing arms, cleaning nails, picking teeth

26 Postures: pulling away, avoiding body contact, closing legs tightly, tightening up torso

27 1. The Standard Arm Fold 2. Arm Fold with Fists 3. Arm fold with arm clasp 4. Block One arm down, the other arm across clasping it 5. Leg barriers (Only if a response to signals being sent) 6. Hand locked legs (One leg crosses, arms holding onto the leg) 7. Standing leg cross

28 1. The Standard Arm Fold Arm Fold with Fists Arm fold with arm clasp Block One arm down, the other arm across clasping it-2 5. Leg barriers (Only if a response to signals being sent) 4 6. Hand locked legs (One leg crosses, arms holding onto the leg) Standing leg cross 5

29 Females better decoders

30 Rick and Theresa know each other from a class they take at a local university. One day after class they went to a local cafe to discuss an upcoming assignment. After a few hours of enjoyable conversation during which they admitted to being attracted to each other, they decided to meet again over the weekend and rent a movie to watch at Theresa's apartment. During the movie they began flirting and kissing. After a while, both Theresa and Rick were sexually aroused, and both became more involved in flirting, kissing and intimately touching each other. Rick then made it clear that he wanted to have sexual intercourse. How should she show that she wants to/doesn t want to have sex nonverbally?

31 Males, what are the signs you look for? Yes No Females, what are the signs you send? Yes No

32 Males and Females both said non-consent was best communicated verbally Both Males and Females perceive that females that females gave consent nonverbal (e.g intimate kissing /touching)

33 70% of both males and females both said, nonverbally Touching, snuggling, kissing, wandering hands, teasing, rough housing

34 Students watched the body language of a female and were asked: Does she want to have sex? Men more likely to say yes Women more likely to say no

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