Building Family Strengths: Positive Identity and Self-Esteem

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1 Slide 1 Building Family Strengths: Positive Identity and Self-Esteem Interpersonal Studies 1 Page1

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3 Slide 3 What Does a Family Have to Do with Self-Esteem? 3 How do you think a family can build a positive identity and self-esteem in its members? Page3

4 Slide 4 The Influence of Family Environment Provides: Sense of security Physical needs Love Opportunities to learn, create, and explore 4 The family is the first and the most important contributing factor to positive identity and selfesteem. In the preschool years, children spend most of their time with family, especially grandparents. According to Grandparents.com, 72% of grandparents take care of their grandchildren on a regular basis. Families can provide a nurturing environment where children feel safe and secure, are provided basic needs (food, clothing, and shelter), and give/receive love. The family can also provide opportunities for the children to try new things to grow and develop to maturity. Grandparents.com It s a great time to be a grand! Page4

5 Slide 5 Where Does Positive Identity Begin? 5 What key factors can influence the development of a child's positive identity? Page5

6 Slide 6 Erikson s Theory of Socialization Erikson s Psychosocial Stages Basic trust versus mistrust Autonomy versus shame and doubt Initiative versus guilt Public domain image a.org/wiki/file:erik_erikson. png Industry versus inferiority 6 For more background information on Erikson s Theory of Socialization, please refer to Education and Training lesson "A Look at Theories: Part II" at Erik Erikson s ( ) theory emphasized that conscious choice determines behavior as much as the unconscious instinctual drives. He saw development as a process through which people pass in their lifelong search for a mature sense of identity. This process moves people through a sequence of tasks, each focused on a particular aspect of identity. Page6

7 Slide 7 Erikson s Theory of Socialization Erikson s Psychosocial Stages Identity versus role confusion Intimacy versus isolation Generativity versus stagnation Public domain image a.org/wiki/file:erik_erikson. png Ego integrity versus despair 7 Erikson viewed development as continuing over the entire life span; whereas, Freud described development only through puberty. Both theories agree that development is the result of a child s instincts interacting with his or her environment. Stages cannot be satisfactorily completed unless the environment responds in a conductive, consistent manner. Any unresolved issues from earlier stages will carry over into later stages and negatively affect an individual s ability to resolve them. It is this collection of unresolved issues that leads to an abnormal or deviant personality in later life. Page7

8 Slide 8 Building a Self-Esteem Have a positive sense of self and a strong self-esteem Highlight your strengths Be proud of your talents, skills and abilities 8 It s often been said that children learn what they live. If parents are looking for a place to start helping a child build positive self-esteem and self-value, then they should show their own positive sense of self and strong self-esteem. Be positive when you speak about yourself and highlight your strengths. Page8

9 Slide 9 How to Build a Self-Esteem Find something to praise others everyday Model that positive acts will result in positive praise 9 Be honest and give praise often and genuinely. Note to teacher: You may share the 300 Ways to Praise a CTE Student with your students. Page9

10 Slide 10 Building a Self-Esteem Communicate openly Be honest Be patient Listen without being judgmental or critical Suggest positive behaviors and outcomes Avoid negative comments 10 Keep the lines of communication open with everyone you come in contact with. With a parent/child relationship, it is important that the child understands that they can go to the parents when they are: Angry Sad Depressed Anxious Confused Happy Page10

11 Slide 11 Building a Self-Esteem Set attainable goals Develop a workable plan Celebrate the progress of attaining the goal Celebrate the attainment of the goal 11 It is important to set goals and develop a plan to complete the task. Page11

12 Slide 12 Building a Self-Esteem Surround yourself with people and things that you love 12 Why is it important to surround yourself with people and things that you love? What do you love? Who do you love? Parents need to tell their children everyday that they love them. Children need to understand what unconditional love is. Even though the child might disappoint the parent or exhibit bad choices and behaviors, the parent will still love them, unconditionally. How can a parent show the child that kind of love? Page12

13 Slide 13 Meeting Children s Social and Emotional Needs Remember the importance of the family Develop trust and the right to disagree Be supportive Offer positive ways to use their curiosity Set a good example 13 Children need help in meeting their social and emotional needs. They need to know that adults care about and will listen to what they have to say. Be sensitive to children needs: Remember the importance of the family Develop trust and the right to disagree Think about how it felt to be a school-age child Don t expect all children to act their ages Be supportive of the interests and growth of children: Offer them positive ways to use their curiosity Recognize their sense of fair play Give them time to explore Set a good example Page13

14 Slide 14 Children with Special Needs Be more positive than negative Find something the child is passionate about Give the child responsibilities Be involved with their school and placement of classes Spend time with your child 14 Children with a disability often have a difficult time feeling good about themselves. The fact that their bodies and brains do not work the same as everyone else, is a contributing factor. They may develop a low self-esteem or a can t do attitude. Parents and caregivers have an important job to help boost a special needs child s self-esteem: Give emotion, energy and time to the positive things the child does well instead of always focusing on the negative. Find something that the child enjoys participating in or reading about. What is a special interest they might have? Become involved with it and encourage them to be active in their special interest. Special needs children can handle chores which are appropriate with their disability. Develop a chart with reward stickers and award a sticker when the child completes the chore. This will give them a sense of accomplishment and will help build their self-esteem. Understand the Special Education language and select the best educational path for the child. Do what is best for the child when placing them in classes. Parents are the contributing factors of building their child s self-esteem. Turn the TV off, put the cellphones and other electronic devices away and spend quality time with your child. Page14

15 Slide 15 How Can Abuse Affect Self-Esteem in the Family? 15 How does abuse affect adults? Children? Teenagers? Older adults? The following are common outcomes of abuse or neglect in school-age children: Social - The child may feel inferior, incapable, and unworthy around other children; may have difficulty making friends, feel overwhelmed by peer expectations for performance, may withdraw from social contact, and may be used as a scapegoat by peers. Emotional - The child may experience damage to self-esteem from degrading or punitive messages from an abusive parent or lack of positive attention in a neglectful environment. Page15

16 Slide 16 Self-Esteem Tips Click on picture Tips for Improved Self-Esteem Start improving self-esteem today using any one or all of these 10 Amazing Strategies! Page16

17 Slide 17 References and Resources Images: Microsoft Clip Art: Used with permission from Microsoft. Erik Erikson Biography Public domain image of Erikson. Textbooks: Brisbane, H. (2010). The developing child. Columbus, OH: Glencoe/McGraw-Hill. Johnson, L. (n.d.). Strengthening family & self. 6th ed. Websites: Child Development Institute Useful information on Building Your Child's Self-Esteem. YouTube : 10 Tips for Improved Self-Esteem Start improving self-esteem today using any one or all of these 10 Amazing Strategies! 17 Page17